Unbearable pain when trying to have sex. please help!?!
Question: Unbearable pain when trying to have sex!. please help!!?
I'm 15 years old and me and my boyfriend have tried many times over the past year to have sex, but it hurts so bad he has to stop!. it also hurts when i get fingered and i can't use a tampon i don't know if its because of nerves or because it wont go in!. i always hear stories of how other peoples first times don't hurt at all, but when ever we try it hurts horribly and i don't understand whats wrong!. i want to go to an obgyn but ive been reading about there procedures and it sounds like it will hurt especially for me!. do you think there is something wrong!? or maybe im just being a baby about the pain!? but honestly im good with handeling pain its just that that pain is pretty unbearable!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Are you using lubrication!? The first time usually hurts and if your boyfriend is not taking things slowly and allowing you to produce your own lubrication then you should try some KY or Astroglide if you aren't already!.
The pain also may be just inexperience on his part!. Is he jamming his fingers into you!? That would hurt anyone!.
15 is young, but that is when I lost my virginity as well so I understand!. Make sure you are using protection (this can also help with pain for you if the condom is lubricated)!. If going slow and using lubrication doesn't help I would suggest going to the doctor, is there a planned parenthood around that you could visit!? they are very discrete and helpful!.
Your family doctor can help too, they CANNOT reveal any question you ask to your parents so if you have a good relationship with them you should give that a shot!. There is a condition that does cause painful intercourse (vaginitis or something like that I'm not sure so you may want to look that up)!.
Good luck!. Be safe and don't feel like you have to bear the pain just to make him happy, you don't want to harm yourself permanently!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The pain also may be just inexperience on his part!. Is he jamming his fingers into you!? That would hurt anyone!.
15 is young, but that is when I lost my virginity as well so I understand!. Make sure you are using protection (this can also help with pain for you if the condom is lubricated)!. If going slow and using lubrication doesn't help I would suggest going to the doctor, is there a planned parenthood around that you could visit!? they are very discrete and helpful!.
Your family doctor can help too, they CANNOT reveal any question you ask to your parents so if you have a good relationship with them you should give that a shot!. There is a condition that does cause painful intercourse (vaginitis or something like that I'm not sure so you may want to look that up)!.
Good luck!. Be safe and don't feel like you have to bear the pain just to make him happy, you don't want to harm yourself permanently!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't think you've grown enough down there!. Or you can try fingering yourself and playing with yourself, you have to be relaxed to let anything in though, so make sure your ready, cause when your ready you have no problem relaxing!. Good LuckWww@Answer-Health@Com
its means your not ready, your to young, and you cant handle having a childWww@Answer-Health@Com
its G-ds way of saying stop being stupid and dont have sexWww@Answer-Health@Com
People can lecture you all day long about how you're to young to have sex, but you're right, you need the facts!. I'm a nurse, so I'll stick to the facts!. There's a few things that could be going on!. One, the vagina is a muscle!. If it hurts, and you're tightening up there, you're not ready!. I don't mean physically, I mean emotionally!. Give yourself time, and maybe refrain from sexual activity for a while and see how things go!. The other thing you could try is a general lubricant like KY jelly!. One answer I read on here was about masturbation!. It is a taboo thing in some peoples eyes, but it's a great way to learn your own body, and figure out what you like!.
Just remember one thing, people can't say it enough - use condoms and if you can, get yourself on some birth control, and please do take it as directed!. I had my daughter, as an unexpected pregnancy when I was 21!. It's older then you are, but let me tell you, I wouldn't trade my daughter in for the world, but I sure would be doing things differently if I didn't have a kid!. Protect yourself, and be able to live your life!
Sex can wait!. There is no age at which a girl is ready!. Most importatly is for you to be ready mentally, emotionally and physically!. So good luck with it! Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just remember one thing, people can't say it enough - use condoms and if you can, get yourself on some birth control, and please do take it as directed!. I had my daughter, as an unexpected pregnancy when I was 21!. It's older then you are, but let me tell you, I wouldn't trade my daughter in for the world, but I sure would be doing things differently if I didn't have a kid!. Protect yourself, and be able to live your life!
Sex can wait!. There is no age at which a girl is ready!. Most importatly is for you to be ready mentally, emotionally and physically!. So good luck with it! Www@Answer-Health@Com