Im not ready to have sex?!?!?!?!!??!!?!?!?!?!
Question: Im not ready to have sex!?!!?!!?!!?!!!?!?!!!?!!?!!?!!?
My boyfriend recently asked me if i wanted to have sex and my answer was "maybe!.!.maybe not" i can usually say no to almost anything but i didnt know how to!. I was jealous that he has slept with 2 of his ex girlfriends last month and wanted that for myself but i decided to wait until marriage!.!.but yet at the same time i sorta wanna!.
Ever since he asked that ive been avoiding him!.!.!.and i dont like hurting him but making this decision is hurting me!.
I even took 2 sleeping pills last night!.!.and can barely remember what happened!.
Im not sure what to do!!!
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Ever since he asked that ive been avoiding him!.!.!.and i dont like hurting him but making this decision is hurting me!.
I even took 2 sleeping pills last night!.!.and can barely remember what happened!.
Im not sure what to do!!!
help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
OK, first of all, your options are NOT: a) sleep with boyfriend tomorrow or b) wait until marriage!. There's a lot of middle ground, here!. First of all: it sounds like you're not ready, and you know you're not ready!. It's OK to be both not ready, yet want to have sex too!. That's natural!. It's also OK to want to not hurt your boyfriend!. But YOU, and YOUR welfare, come first!. That's the bottom line, and that's something that you've got to be absolutely clear on every day of your life for everything, not just this decision!.
Second: Why this guy, why now!? He slept with TWO ex-girlfriends last month!? How long have you been dating him!? Did he cheat on you with two women, or have you only been dating him for a few weeks!? Is this your first serious boyfriend!? Do you think it's a good idea to choose to have your first sexual experience be with a guy you've either met so recently, or who has cheated on you!? It's not just that you're worth more than that, but also that I have to say you'll most likely bitterly regret having slept with him, when he was so un-special!. You've got a lot of years ahead of you to meet a guy who will be better!. And maybe this guy IS better, and I'm just misjudging him from the scant information I have here!. Well, in that case, you'll still be going out in 3 months, and then you'll have had more time to make your decision, and think about what's happening!. I would hate for you to rush into a decision just because he's your first serious boyfriend, or because you're worried he'll break up with you if you don't have sex with him!. Another thing about you saying you're "hurting him" by not sleeping with him: no way!. No way!. He's not being hurt by your decision!. You're not doing anything to hurt him!. Your feelings don't get hurt because your girlfriend hasn't decided to sleep with you!. You're perhaps disappointing his hopes, or depriving him of pleasure the two of you could otherwise have!. But hurting!? No!. Not like you would be hurting if you made the decision to sleep with him and regretted it afterwards!. Now keep in mind, I'm not one of those "wait till marriage" people!. I have no judgment about pre-marital sex!. But I do want to warn against sex when you're not ready!. And deciding against sex NOW does not mean that you can't have sex till marriage!. It just means you can't have sex NOW!. The circumstances may change later, you might change your mind later, in a year or 3 years!. But just evaluate the rightness or wrongness of doing this NOW!. The reasons you have for having sex are not very compelling, and the reasons you have for not having sex are pretty convincing!. If you were just curious, and you had been thinking about this for awhile, then this might be the right decision!. But because you have expressed concerns about waiting till marriage, that tells me that that might be something you want to do, and that you might later regret not having done, so you shouldn't go against that decision until you've thought about this for awhile and really decided what was best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Second: Why this guy, why now!? He slept with TWO ex-girlfriends last month!? How long have you been dating him!? Did he cheat on you with two women, or have you only been dating him for a few weeks!? Is this your first serious boyfriend!? Do you think it's a good idea to choose to have your first sexual experience be with a guy you've either met so recently, or who has cheated on you!? It's not just that you're worth more than that, but also that I have to say you'll most likely bitterly regret having slept with him, when he was so un-special!. You've got a lot of years ahead of you to meet a guy who will be better!. And maybe this guy IS better, and I'm just misjudging him from the scant information I have here!. Well, in that case, you'll still be going out in 3 months, and then you'll have had more time to make your decision, and think about what's happening!. I would hate for you to rush into a decision just because he's your first serious boyfriend, or because you're worried he'll break up with you if you don't have sex with him!. Another thing about you saying you're "hurting him" by not sleeping with him: no way!. No way!. He's not being hurt by your decision!. You're not doing anything to hurt him!. Your feelings don't get hurt because your girlfriend hasn't decided to sleep with you!. You're perhaps disappointing his hopes, or depriving him of pleasure the two of you could otherwise have!. But hurting!? No!. Not like you would be hurting if you made the decision to sleep with him and regretted it afterwards!. Now keep in mind, I'm not one of those "wait till marriage" people!. I have no judgment about pre-marital sex!. But I do want to warn against sex when you're not ready!. And deciding against sex NOW does not mean that you can't have sex till marriage!. It just means you can't have sex NOW!. The circumstances may change later, you might change your mind later, in a year or 3 years!. But just evaluate the rightness or wrongness of doing this NOW!. The reasons you have for having sex are not very compelling, and the reasons you have for not having sex are pretty convincing!. If you were just curious, and you had been thinking about this for awhile, then this might be the right decision!. But because you have expressed concerns about waiting till marriage, that tells me that that might be something you want to do, and that you might later regret not having done, so you shouldn't go against that decision until you've thought about this for awhile and really decided what was best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you have any doubts, wait!. Sex is so much better when you're really ready for it!. If your boyfriend doesn't want to accept you not having sex, then he's not for you!. If he truly cares for you, he'll wait until you're ready!. Don't be jealous of his previous girlfriends, because they're not with him now!. You are!. And if he goes back to them, then you don't want to be with him anyways!. You definately sound like you're not ready, so just tell him you want to wait!. He will respect that if he's good for you!. Don't do anything you're not ready for!. I promise sex will be so much better when you are ready and with someone you love!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sexual intercourse with another person is a very personal & private matter!.You & no one else,can make that decision!.
Some Things to Think About Before You Have Sex:
Is this something you really want to do at this point in your life!?
Are you emotionally ready for all the feelings a sexual relationship brings up!?
Are you ready to make some life-changing decisions if this results in a pregnancy!?
Are you taking precautions to prevent sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) or pregnancy!?
Are you being pressured into having sex even though it's not what you want to do!?
Are you going to feel bad afterwards if this goes against your personal values or you wasn't really ready!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Some Things to Think About Before You Have Sex:
Is this something you really want to do at this point in your life!?
Are you emotionally ready for all the feelings a sexual relationship brings up!?
Are you ready to make some life-changing decisions if this results in a pregnancy!?
Are you taking precautions to prevent sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) or pregnancy!?
Are you being pressured into having sex even though it's not what you want to do!?
Are you going to feel bad afterwards if this goes against your personal values or you wasn't really ready!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are not ready!. Stick to your guns! If he has had two ex girlfiends and he has sleep with them last month!. He is not anyone you want to be with!. Are you in love with him!? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him!? I slept with someone who pressured me!. I regret it to this day, I was not ready to sleep with him!. So please, stick to what you believe it is a lot harder to stay true to yourself than be like everyone else!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wait until you are married or engaged at the very least (that is if you have been dating for four or five years)!. Sex is something that you cannot take back and should not be taken lightly!. I have seen too may of girlfriends and guy friends get wrapped into sex to the point it does not mean anything!. A long to you might not mean forever!. Why would you want to do something that regret in a few years!? How old are you!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I know what you mean about wanting to wait!. It is hard!. Don't do anything that you don't want to do please, it makes you feel guilty and used for the rest of your life, trust me!. If you are not ready, then don't have sex!. if your boyfriend is the right one for you then he will respect you and wait until yu are ready!. if he doesn't understand, then dump his sorry ***! Don't sleep with him out of jealousy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The most important thing here is what you are comfortable with!. If he isn't willing to wait, do you really want to be in a relationship where you are lacking confidence in your sexuality!?
This decision is about you!. If you only want to because you feel obligated or guilty, I don't think you should!. Your body, your rules, your choice, and it doesn't matter what anybody else says!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This decision is about you!. If you only want to because you feel obligated or guilty, I don't think you should!. Your body, your rules, your choice, and it doesn't matter what anybody else says!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well!.!.!.If you are not ready just tell him that, I am sure he will understand if you are comfortable doing it then do it!. What ever you want , but i would suggest to wait until you are married and want kids!. I hope I helped thanks!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you're not ready then don't do it and wait until you are!. It feels like your being pressured to do it because you want to live up to his ex girlfriends!. It's not worth it so just wait!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't give in and don't feel sorry for him!. If you're not ready then you're not ready!. Too bad for him!. I always say, if you can't decide then don't do it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Okay!. First Please wait until marriage! Tell him, that you want to wait until marrage, maybe he will understand!. If you don't want to have sex, than your boy friend can't control you!. :]
Hope i helped!.
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Hope i helped!.
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Dont have sex unless you are ready for it
If you have doubts and it is making you feel uncomfortable then you are not readyWww@Answer-Health@Com
If you have doubts and it is making you feel uncomfortable then you are not readyWww@Answer-Health@Com
Wait until marriage!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are obviously way too young and immature for sex!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
follow your heartWww@Answer-Health@Com
From reading your question its pretty clear to me that you are not ready to have sex yet!. You should not get into it for the wrong reasons and from what you have stated here these are all the wrong reasons!. Having sex should be about love not about jealousy or fear of losing someone because you didn't do something you weren't ready to do and didn't want to do!. Trust me you will regret it if you do!.
This guy does not sound like any prize to me!. If he has had sex twice within the last month with 2 other girls then that shows how much they mean to him!. Do you want to be just another notch on his belt!? He's liable to have sex with you and then dump you too!.
If I were you I would stick with plan A and hold off until marriage!. There is something VERY special about that, especially nowadays when people are so quick to give something so precious away!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This guy does not sound like any prize to me!. If he has had sex twice within the last month with 2 other girls then that shows how much they mean to him!. Do you want to be just another notch on his belt!? He's liable to have sex with you and then dump you too!.
If I were you I would stick with plan A and hold off until marriage!. There is something VERY special about that, especially nowadays when people are so quick to give something so precious away!.Www@Answer-Health@Com