Could I ever get a boyfriend even though I have scoliosis?!
Question: Could I ever get a boyfriend even though I have scoliosis!?
This is a really personal (and a bit of an embarassing) question!. I have had scoliosis since I was born, and it had really changed my body!. To the point where I'm envying other girls just because they have straight backs!. Also, my back is really short so it just looks ridiculous and makes everything out of proportion!. I used to be better looking, but since my scoliosis got worse, it has changed my life completely!.I just wondered if anyone has been in the same situation!? And how do you disguise it so they will take more interest in you!? I just have no idea how to deal with this!!!!! I have someone I really like and I believe we have chemistry together!. However, he seems disgusted by my body - so the chances of going out are very slim!!!! Please help its driving me crazy!.!.!.!.!.!.I wish i wasnt burdened with this, i just want to go out with someone i like just as any normal person would!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
You're 16 so it's really hard to see your "inner beauty" the way we'd all like to recommend!. That said, 16 year old boys are not very good at seeing one's inner beauty either!. It may take awhile but it WILL happen!. Part of the equation will be reaching a point in your life where you realize you're not the pieces and parts that make up your physical body but much more - most of which no one can see without getting to know you!.
I have severe scoliosis!. My spine was a perfect "s" before they did surgery back in the early 80s!. So, in addition to still being noticably curved I had a huge scar!. Now, after many years, my posture is failing and I lean forward in a way unbecoming of someone my young age :) of 35!. I know, you think that's old now! But, I promise, it won't feel that way when you get there!.
And you know what!? After many years of dating (even those "perfect" girls you envy may date for many years) I found a wonderful person who sees me for who I am - a highly-educated, smart, funny, successful woman who has learned after all these years that it really is more about what's inside!. Many of those very pretty girls aren't always the nicest people!.
Scoliosis has made you strong!. You deal with things differently, sweat the small stuff less (right!?) and see people from a more mature place, one where the external means a bit less!.!.!.Sure, we all need that "spark" when we meet someone but that won't come from a pretty, straight spine :)!. Chemistry comes from shared interests and hobbies, similar educational levels, senses of humor and politcal leanings (possibly, but we all get weak in the knees over different things)!.
I'll never look like everyone else!. But, what I've come to learn, and you will too, is that no one is perfect!. I feel less "broken" on the inside than so many of the more shallow folks I've met!. Our looks will fade!. Everyone will get old and yes, most people will begin to have back problems as they age!. I'm OK with being "imperfect" on the outside!.
Make yourself an interesting person in the best ways you can!. It's true for everyone looking for love that you need to make yourself appealing to your prospective partner!. Maybe it's through school, your church, your hobbies or musical tastes but find those things about which you are passionate and focus on them!. The rest will come when you realize you're worth it!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have severe scoliosis!. My spine was a perfect "s" before they did surgery back in the early 80s!. So, in addition to still being noticably curved I had a huge scar!. Now, after many years, my posture is failing and I lean forward in a way unbecoming of someone my young age :) of 35!. I know, you think that's old now! But, I promise, it won't feel that way when you get there!.
And you know what!? After many years of dating (even those "perfect" girls you envy may date for many years) I found a wonderful person who sees me for who I am - a highly-educated, smart, funny, successful woman who has learned after all these years that it really is more about what's inside!. Many of those very pretty girls aren't always the nicest people!.
Scoliosis has made you strong!. You deal with things differently, sweat the small stuff less (right!?) and see people from a more mature place, one where the external means a bit less!.!.!.Sure, we all need that "spark" when we meet someone but that won't come from a pretty, straight spine :)!. Chemistry comes from shared interests and hobbies, similar educational levels, senses of humor and politcal leanings (possibly, but we all get weak in the knees over different things)!.
I'll never look like everyone else!. But, what I've come to learn, and you will too, is that no one is perfect!. I feel less "broken" on the inside than so many of the more shallow folks I've met!. Our looks will fade!. Everyone will get old and yes, most people will begin to have back problems as they age!. I'm OK with being "imperfect" on the outside!.
Make yourself an interesting person in the best ways you can!. It's true for everyone looking for love that you need to make yourself appealing to your prospective partner!. Maybe it's through school, your church, your hobbies or musical tastes but find those things about which you are passionate and focus on them!. The rest will come when you realize you're worth it!Www@Answer-Health@Com
my friend has scoliois, she found out after we did this school wide thing, and everybody is calling her a freak, and a hunch back and everything, so i know what you are going through!.
i'm really sorry, and of course you will, because there is a guy out there that realises that even though you have a problem, it's just something that makes you differnet, and there is nothing wrong with that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i'm really sorry, and of course you will, because there is a guy out there that realises that even though you have a problem, it's just something that makes you differnet, and there is nothing wrong with that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
A true man will love you for who you are, by personality, your spirit, and your heart!. Not by the way you look!.
No person is perfect, we all have our falts!. Some are exterior, and some are internal, and some are the combination of both!.
If they look at you, and stop, and never get to know who you really are, then they have some issues!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
No person is perfect, we all have our falts!. Some are exterior, and some are internal, and some are the combination of both!.
If they look at you, and stop, and never get to know who you really are, then they have some issues!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
oh thats sad !well one day you will meet a guy the loves you for who you are
you could date you could have a bf
i know theres some one out there that your gonna find some1 special for you! i know god has sum1 for you!
I bet your a beautiful woman even if you have scoliosis
:)
godbless
xoxoWww@Answer-Health@Com
you could date you could have a bf
i know theres some one out there that your gonna find some1 special for you! i know god has sum1 for you!
I bet your a beautiful woman even if you have scoliosis
:)
godbless
xoxoWww@Answer-Health@Com
Never underestimate the kind, quiet people of the world!. You will find someone worthy of your time, and he may not be all that you imagined physically, (tall, dark, and handsome), but he'll be someone to hold your hand and stand beside you for all time!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Always be yourself!. You were born that way,and you have to accept it!. As for guys liking you!.!.!.when you find the guy that likes you for who you are,then you have a winner!. The other guys who won't date you because of that,aren't worth your time anyway!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
of course you could, theres someone out there for everyone!.
you're beautiful and never forget it :)
have confidence, you feel feel better in yourself, and you will be a generally more attractive person :)
good luck with everything
xWww@Answer-Health@Com
you're beautiful and never forget it :)
have confidence, you feel feel better in yourself, and you will be a generally more attractive person :)
good luck with everything
xWww@Answer-Health@Com
Hey don't worry, plenty of people with scoliosis have lots of boyfriends and girlfriends!.
I have a friend, who just recently got married and she had scoliosis!.!.!. It will just take time!. "You can't hurry love" - The Supremes :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have a friend, who just recently got married and she had scoliosis!.!.!. It will just take time!. "You can't hurry love" - The Supremes :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
You didn't say anything about seeing a doctor!. Your back can be straighten!. I have a niece that had surgery for her scoliosis and she gain 4 inches in height at the age of 20!. If I were you I would go see a doctor immediately!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
yes! there is a chance you could get a boyfriend!. a great boyfriend for you would be to love you for all that you are and your great personality rather than how you look!. those are the best kind and i'm sure you'll find someone like that!. =]Www@Answer-Health@Com
this is too sad, i'm sorry, you probably don't want pity!. you'll find someone who's worth it and honestly, don't even bother with someone who's disgusted by you!. don't even worry about it :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
i have scoliosis and people know i do and it doesnt seem to bother anyone!. thats how you were made!. so if someone doesnt like you because of that then they dont deserve you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
gurl sum1 is out there for u!!! there r lotsa guys i kno that think that gurls w/ scoliosis r still hot an if he is discusted w/ yo body he aint rite 4 u gurl!!! i'll bet ur B-E-A-utiful!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
of course u can get a bf !!!! confront that guy bout it and if he is dont go with him honestly ull do ur more harm by staying with someone whos embarrassed to be with u !.!.!.take ur time to find the right guy hes somewhere and ull get one soonWww@Answer-Health@Com
Oh thats so sadd!. of course you'll get a boyfriend theres always someone out there for everyoneWww@Answer-Health@Com
let me start by saying u r beautiful no matter what u don't need a man to make u!. but no one likes to be alone!. its not the outside that matters its the inside u will never find a man with mind set that u have u need to open up and believe in Ur self!. if u think low of Ur self than others will do the same!. if u belive u r pretty than others will 2!. u need to look in the mirror in just tell ur self how pretty u r and keep doing it until u belive it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If that boy who you say you have chemistry with seems 'disgusted' by you, then he's not worth plain crap!. No offense, but you need to find someone who would love you for EVERYTHING you come with: the good, bad, ugly, and beautiful!.
You were born with something you can't help, but that should NEVER limit you!. Don't ever settle for anything less than you deserve, ok!? It's not fair how life is, but it makes you STRONGER!. So just keep your head up, and you'll find someone as time passes, just don't ever settle!. Something like scoliosis shouldn't limit you at all!.
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You were born with something you can't help, but that should NEVER limit you!. Don't ever settle for anything less than you deserve, ok!? It's not fair how life is, but it makes you STRONGER!. So just keep your head up, and you'll find someone as time passes, just don't ever settle!. Something like scoliosis shouldn't limit you at all!.
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I think you could, honestly!. You seem nice enough from your post (granted, it's a small sampling, but I digress), and a good personality goes a long way!. While I've never dated a girl with your condition, I can say I'd be OK with it!. It's what's inside that counts!.
So, my personal suggestions: Definitely try to look your best - but don't try to "hide" it!. Guys will appreciate that you make an effort and take care of yourself, and it exudes confidence!. Be yourself, let a good personality shine through, and try the best you can to be a "normal" person, within the limits you have to live with!. Eventually, someone will get interested in the "you" inside the body, and the rest will be secondary!.
I hope this helps, and best of luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
So, my personal suggestions: Definitely try to look your best - but don't try to "hide" it!. Guys will appreciate that you make an effort and take care of yourself, and it exudes confidence!. Be yourself, let a good personality shine through, and try the best you can to be a "normal" person, within the limits you have to live with!. Eventually, someone will get interested in the "you" inside the body, and the rest will be secondary!.
I hope this helps, and best of luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Somehow I think I might be able to answer this a little bit better, I have severe scoliosis as well and was in a back brace for two and a half years!. I deffinately understand how you get really self concious about the way your back looks (my ribcage twisted in my body in addition to a double curve left to right and my back is just weird looking now)!. I did things to compensate, people say focus on inner beauty, but that is no fix all and even if you're not superficial a lot of other people are!. You can't hide it so there's really no sense in doing that, but you can make people wonder whether it's a physical problem or just a weird posture!.!.!.I always stand with my weight on one leg to disguise the twist!. And I worked on every other aspect of my body, I got into competitive climbing and horseback riding to tone up everything!. I doubt anyone at this point will even notice by back because I have a toned sexy stomach and muscular legs and buttox lol!. So if the body is what you think is the problem then make the parts that you can fix stunning!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
How old are you!?
My almost 18 year old cousin has scoliosis also, her back is pretty bad too she'll get a surgery this September!. She just broke up with her boyfriend (she broke up with him) and she started to date with a HOT sailor (I swear I'm telling the truth) So yes, of course you can get a boyfriend!.
Besides, everyone's look may change in no time!. Do you know Orlando Bloom has a HUGE surgery scar on his back!? (He had felt out of the window when he was about 20 y/o)!.
Get well soon, dear!. I wish you the best :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com
My almost 18 year old cousin has scoliosis also, her back is pretty bad too she'll get a surgery this September!. She just broke up with her boyfriend (she broke up with him) and she started to date with a HOT sailor (I swear I'm telling the truth) So yes, of course you can get a boyfriend!.
Besides, everyone's look may change in no time!. Do you know Orlando Bloom has a HUGE surgery scar on his back!? (He had felt out of the window when he was about 20 y/o)!.
Get well soon, dear!. I wish you the best :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com