My boyfriend wans to have sex!! PLZ HELP?!
Question: me and my boyfriend have been goin out for about 5 months he's 18 im 17, we both have very stong chemistry, but he wants sex and i dont think im ready. my friends r tellin me to have sex with him and my sister is sayin the same thing (she's 20). im so confused as my brother (he's 22) sed if he loves u he'll wait till ur ready, as my brother did with his girlfriend. we have done some stuff, but not gone all the way, should i have sex or not?
Answers: me and my boyfriend have been goin out for about 5 months he's 18 im 17, we both have very stong chemistry, but he wants sex and i dont think im ready. my friends r tellin me to have sex with him and my sister is sayin the same thing (she's 20). im so confused as my brother (he's 22) sed if he loves u he'll wait till ur ready, as my brother did with his girlfriend. we have done some stuff, but not gone all the way, should i have sex or not?
Like everyone else has said, if you're ready...you will know. If you need to come on a message board and ask a bunch of strangers online if you should or not, you're obviously not. When you get to the point where you ARE ready and it's something you want to do, you'll know. It doesn't have to be Mr. Right or the most perfect moment of your life. But you should at least feel like you are 100% okay with it and that you could look back on it and say you don't have any regrets about when you did it and who you did it with.
I honestly think people make a bigger deal out of losing your virginity than it has to be. Girls, especially, build it up in their mind like it will be this super romantic and perfect night. That's very very rarely the case.
If you care about someone and you're both ready then go for it. Don't expect more than he can give or for it to mean more than it will. It's cynical to say, but I wish someone had told ME that. In short, don't listen to what anyone else tells you.
If you want to do it, then do it. If you don't feel like you're ready, then don't. But just ALWAYS make sure that you're smart about it. Stay safe. No babies. LOL, good luck :)
Follow your heart. If you are not ready, then do not have sex until you are!
honest, if your not ready dont.
you dont want to regret it later.
If you feel you are ready for sex and that you are ready to deal with a possible pregnancy or sti then go for it, but if u arent a 100% sure maybe wait a while, and if he doesnt respect your choice then hes probably not a good choice
Good Luck :)
If you don't want to, absolutely not. Sex has two people involved, not just him, and you both need to be ready. It will be more fulfilling if you wait until you are ready and willing. If he can't understand that, then you need to do some thinking.
Please dont give in to what everyone else is saying. I agree with your brother. If he loves you enough he will wait. Dont let peer pressure force you into something that you are not ready to do because I can promise you that you will regret it. Youre friends may be telling you to go for it but you got to remember, if something happened to go wrong (such as pregnancy) then you would be facing the consequences, not them. I understand they are your friends but you said it yourself, you are not ready. Talk to your boyfriend about it. If he loves you he'll wait. If not, then you werent meant to be and you deserve better.
This must be a mutual decision between you and him. If you have to ask other peoples opinions then I would say you are not ready. You will know when the time is right and that decision will only come from you. If your boyfriend cant respect that, it begs the answer will he respect you after the event?
If you do go ahead I hope both of you practise safe sex
Hold off until you are sure you are ready. You will know when you are too. Believe me if you try to go through when you are not your body will let you know via nerves, anxiety, and inability to "open up." If he pushes too hard, or gets pushy, lose the guy. If he truly understands he will wait. I do encourage you both to experiement and get familiar with each other. Also I suggest, even though you are not sexually active yet, you take to your doctor abut getting in the pill. Condoms will fail, I got pregnant that way, and the pill will also give you much better control of when its your time of the month. The side effects are nothing to fear either because you will find the right one for you.
Be smart and be safe. good luck
No don't do it! You're definitely not ready and you've said that yourself! So you know the answer for yourself. Don't listen to anybody even your boyfriend or your sister just wait until YOU are ready. If the boyfriend doesn't wait for you then he's not worth having. It's nobody's business when you start having sex, except your own, and 17 is still very young, remember even if you are careful there is still a risk of pregnancy etc. Say no until you feel it's what you really want.
You answered your own question honey.
You don't think you are ready for sex so that's it.
It's Not about love, it's about what you both feel comfortable with. I'm 15 and what worked for me and my bf (also 18) was doing other things.
He Never put pressure on me and I have no regrets. We both made each other very happy still and with no risk of pregnancy or anything either of us would feel bad about.
The time to be having sex is when it feels right to you with the right person, not confusing or scary. Best wishes and Please feel free to email me if you like :)
Don't do it just because he wants to...if he loves you , he will wait. I'm 24 and still waiting for marriage, and my b/f understands and does not ask me to give it up early. There is nothing wrong with waiting!
No, absolutely not. You said you're not ready, so you're not.
If you don't want to, don't do it. However, if you aren't going to do it, don't lead him on and make him think that you will. It will only cause problems. Be forthright and honest with him, and don't tease him.
if you're not ready, then don't. and it *is* true that if he loves you he'll wait for you. when you are ready it will be the most wonderful, natural thing. though it may be a little clumsy at first. ::chuckles::
DONT have sex if u r not ready ! u will only regret later in life ! i think u shud listen 2 ur brother and wait til it feels right :) xx
Don't do it if you aren't ready. I lost my virginity at age 15 and I wish I waited. And now, I'm 18 and have a unplanned pregnancy. You never think it could happen but it can. It is a very hard thing to go through, both being pregnant so young and losing your virginity. If I were you, I'd wait.
wait! Don't let this guy pressure you into it your brother is right!
You are not ready. It's obvious from the way you phrased your question. YOUR BOYFRIEND wants to have sex. If YOU wanted to have sex, you wouldn't be here asking for "HELP" in capital letters.
This is one of the areas in life where you absolutely must consider yourself first. You do not have sex just to make your boyfriend or your social set happy. He might be a very nice boy, but even so, it's possible he's not the RIGHT boy. You obviously have reservations. Listen to your instincts.
Also listen to your brother; he's the only one who gave you good advice.
This must be really hard for you but my best advice is to follow your heart. If you want to then go ahead but if you dont just tell him your not ready if he really loves you he will understand. Also you have to think about getting pregnant because it can happen and you may think you cant handle caring for a baby but if your confident go ahead. Just follow you heart. Good Luck!