Do u feel pleasure the first time?!
Question: or is it only pain for the girl? will a girl feel onyl pain or will she get some pleasure out of it too?
Answers: or is it only pain for the girl? will a girl feel onyl pain or will she get some pleasure out of it too?
Some girls/women feel more pain than others when the hymen is broken; some feel more pleasure than others do the first time. If your partner is only concerned with what he's getting out of the experience, don't have sex with him. If you do, it will probably be very disappointing.
If you haven't already done this, I suggest that when you are in the shower or bath you explore with your fingers to see how much room you have in your vaginal opening, and if it is at all flexible. Before my first time, I could insert one finger all the way, two fingers about halfway, and three fingers about one inch, but could tell there was no flexibility (stretch). My first time, it hurt like hell for about 10 seconds, then when the hymen broke, it stopped hurting and started bleeding. However, my partner didn't really know what he was doing, either. I think it would have not been as painful if he had backed off for a minute and worked to stretch the hymen. Also, he did not pleasure me enough for me to be ready for penetration, but he was inexperienced and uninformed, and did not care enough to inform himself.
It helps if your partner is considerate and puts some thought and effort into giving you pleasure and making sure you are aroused enough for your body to provide proper lubrication. Also, he should not force anything. You may need extra lube the first time, but after that, if you are properly aroused, your body generally will make its own. Never use Vaseline; germs like to multply in it, and you can get infections easily. K-Y Jelly or other water-based lube works best. Also, if you are relaxed and not tense, that makes a lot of difference as to how much pleasure you feel.
Dr. Ruth Westheimer has a book about sex for first-time lovers that has a lot of good information. Make sure you use effective contraception and disease control. You don't know for sure whom he has previously had sex with, and people have been known to lie about it. You can go to Planned Parenthood for advice and birth control; you really should have an OB/gyn (female) exam anyway.
Make sure you really want to have sex and are not being pressured into it before you are ready. Make sure your partner isn't going to go around telling everyone you two have had sex (or worse, bragging about it). That is really irritating. Hint: if he brags about other people he has had sex with, he will do it to you, too. If you have problems and he just can't get in there, a doctor can cut the hymen, but you have to have sex (or pleasure yourself) to keep the tissues from reconnecting. Good luck.
if he treats you like a human, you will feel pleasure
um, i honestly dont know cuz im a virgin @ 19 & am being abstinent, but from what i was told in 1 of my q.s about my first time, apparently itll hurt till u get that thing broken that covers your vaginal opening (cant remember what its called-clitoris or something)
edit: Lauren P is wrong on one part: it doesnt start w/ an "m", it starts w/ an "h". i just read another q. where another answerer mentioned it, & i was wrong: its called a hymen not a clitoris.
The first time I ever had sex, it was more painful than pleasurable. I didn't start feeling pleasure until I had done it a few times, then it was like a light switch got turned on, and it's been mostly pleasure since then. When you are first new to sex, you don't know what to expect, and there is high anxiety. Just go with the flow.
Some girls are different though, and do find sex pleasurable from the first time.
the first time will hurt because the umm argghh i forget the name, it starts with m and is the thing that covers the vaginal hole or something like that and it will bleed the first or first few times. then should get better
U WILL FEEL PRESSURE ,PAIN, SOME BLEEDING IF UR A VIRGIN, AND SOME GIRLS HAVE TROUBLE WALKING AFTERWARDS.... IF UR GOING TO HAVE SAX MAKE SURE U AND UR MATE US PROTECTION...
It depends on how much you are able to relax and how much foreplay he gives you. If you are really excited and very well lubricated, it may not hurt at all. If you are tense and he does nothing to give you any foreplay, it will be painful. Make sure that the two of you take plenty of time leading up to the act itself just to play and have fun. Relax and communicate with him about what feels good. Your pleasure is just as important as his.
Depends on how good of a lover the guy is and how slow he's willing to go.
THE PAIN THAT YOU FEEL NORMALLY IS WHEN THE "HYMEN",(THAT THIN PIECE OF SKIN) IS BEING BROKEN. YOU SHOULD FEEL PLEASURE ,BUT YOU MAY NOT UNTIL YOU FEEL MORE COMFORTABLE WITH SEX. AS TIME GOES BY IT GET'S BETTER.