Sorry if this is gross but...?!
Question: In all seriousness, not trying to be gross...my guy can not get me off! I don't know what to tell him to do to get me there.
I don't wanna say it's all his fault, because I know it has alot to do with state-of-mind on my part too. And not to mention I've faked orgasm since we started almost 3 years ago, so I know that's my fault.
I can get myself to O, but only with a vibrator...I could never do it
without...so I don't know what to tell him on how to get me to!
I guess you might say he's "inexperienced" because we've been each other's only partners...we started going out when we were just 15 and been together ever since, now almost 20.
So in trying to help him [[cause I just told him the truth about faking and he's determined to get me to finish]], I'm wondering what I can tell him. I know everybody is different but I'm just looking for different ideas on how your partner gets you to finish.
Sorry this is personal and stuff but I really need help!
Answers: In all seriousness, not trying to be gross...my guy can not get me off! I don't know what to tell him to do to get me there.
I don't wanna say it's all his fault, because I know it has alot to do with state-of-mind on my part too. And not to mention I've faked orgasm since we started almost 3 years ago, so I know that's my fault.
I can get myself to O, but only with a vibrator...I could never do it
without...so I don't know what to tell him on how to get me to!
I guess you might say he's "inexperienced" because we've been each other's only partners...we started going out when we were just 15 and been together ever since, now almost 20.
So in trying to help him [[cause I just told him the truth about faking and he's determined to get me to finish]], I'm wondering what I can tell him. I know everybody is different but I'm just looking for different ideas on how your partner gets you to finish.
Sorry this is personal and stuff but I really need help!
Ok I had a similar problem. The first time I ever had an orgasm was with a vibrator and very few without it. I had been doing that for years before I was with my partner, then I couldn't have one with him. Clitoral stimulation with fingers were boring for me, because I was used to the vibration, so I just stopped using the vibrator. If you've never had an orgasm without a vibrator...try to do it by yourself and accomplish it a few times before your with him again. You just have to be determined. And when your in that moment do whatever you did when you were using the vibrator. It should happen. When you get with him, communication is the key. Tell him what feels good to you, stimulate the clitoris (usually somewhat gently at first) and g-spot...at the same time if he can.
I hope that helped. It's what did it for me. At the beginning I was too scared to tell him he was being to vigorous on my clit. So I did the rubbing and he did the fingering. So you should tell him what feels good. He doesn't know unless you tell him.
use the vibrator on yourself in front of him. he will see what works for you. then get him to use the vibrator on you. there are plenty of females that can not get off on prenatation alone.
good luck.
if you can't get yourself to orgasm with just your hands, then I don't see how you can expect him to.
try the new vibrating ring, it makes it like the whole thing vibrates, and especially on the clitoris, a very touch sensitive spot!
I was kind of in the same position, tried it and loved it!
Good Luck
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