Wearing glasses - embarrassed with my family?!

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Since you said your family never discusses anything related to eyesight, it's obvious that they don't consider wearing glasses as a negative thing. Therefore you should feel at ease when you wear glasses at home. Even if you're the only one in your family who wears glasses, it's nothing to be worried or ashamed about. If you start wearing glasses more frequently when you're home, that unpleasant feeling will go away, and soon you'll no longer think of it. But if you seldom wear glasses you'll always have this problem.

You parents won't laugh at you because you are wearing glasses, or get angry with you because they took you to the eye doctor in the first place.


Good luck

Eye care specialist.

no glasses in my house

When I was young I hated my parents seeing me in glasses although as with you they knew I had them because they had bought them! Like you i was the only person in the family who needed glasses and somehow this made me feel bad about it. Neither were they unsympathetic and now as an adult I can't see why this bothered me but it did. I'm not sure what I can tell you to do about it - I got contacts at 13 and didn't wear my glasses at all , although taht wasn't a very good idea. All you can really do is just be determined to get over the bad feeling and keep the glasses on. You could try putting them on in the house when your parents aren't in the room but are about to come in, for example if you are watching TV. They might just comment that they dont' normally see you with your glasses on or something like that. Make sure you have an answer as they may assume if you are starting ot wear glasses when you don't have your contacts in that your eyesight is gettign worse and they need to take you back to the opticians. You don't want a great long talk around a misunderstanding as your parents will have no idea you don't like to them to see you in glasses.

Why you have so many issues with your parents? Do they make you uncomfortable? Call the police or the relevant authority if you feel threatened by your parents. They shouldn't be constantly intruding into your private life or be making you constantly nervous.
If they ridicule you or prevent you from living a normal life then really your priority should be to get out of that situation (as fast as you can.)
Theres different types of abuse. Some are obvious and some are more low-key but they still undermine vulnerable children. You probably want to feel safe in your private home/personal life but may be suffering in the hands people who are just attention seekers or those that wish to undermine others.
Unfortunately not every adult in the world can be taken to be "normal". Its a messed up world out there, never assume anyone you meet will be automatically 100% ok in the head.
If you allow a difficult situation like yours to continue then it will only serve to stop you from properly relaxing and leading the normal life you deserve.

By the way its not really socially normal to talk about eyesight. You ever been to a party and heard someone talk about eyesight? Thats definitely the FASTEST way to kill the atmosphere of a party..

Also you know, in all honesty, using lenses will always have a stigma attached to it. It can be any kind of lens, magnifying, binoculars, glasses etc. Using them involves staring and doing this in public will never be appreciated by people.
If your eyesight is not as bad as -5.00 then do yourself a favour and start using your natural vision normally like you did before at some point. You have your near vision and far vision. If you are trying to avoid being natural/relaxed when looking at near objects then your eye muscle will never be able to function properly. Instead of experiencing eyesight normally youd be just taking on unnecessary strain (that nobody else has to deal with.)

When you use your near vision you normally contract your eye muscle. If you know youre capable of this then you're equally capable of using your distance vision. Its like sucking your tummy in. If you know you can do that then you know you can push it out too. (Just as easily)
So near and distance vision really rely on each other for the best of your eyesight to come out.
Do a test right if you wish. Try doing some near activity and at the same time avoid any distraction.. Make sure you sit comfortably. After finishing whatever it was look up and you will notice the distance comes out all clear.. No struggle involved, no unnecessary blur. All that happened was a relaxation of the contraction in your eye-muscle.

Near work such as reading or using a computer does not harm your eyes so forget any stories like that (if you were misinformed earlier.) But constantly avoiding using your near vision will definitely leave you with deteriorating, less effective vision.

If your prescription is worse than -5.00D then you might struggle to just take yoru glasses off and see the distance clearly (even with changes in behaviour). This limit you get is down to a permanent elongation of your eyeball. Eyeballs can change shape. Most experts cannot explain why but with shortsighted people their eye is pulled into being long (back to front.) It then looks more like an egg than a ball shape.

If you dont mind your eyesight getting worse then continue wearing glasses. But i guarantee that you will never be popular in public using this method, Most people will not appreciate your constant staring at them through the lens. In all probability you will end up the lonely figure in the background. Uncomfortable with using her own near vision.