First-time sex problems???!
Question: After many months of careful discussion and weighing of options, my girlfriend and I decided that we both wanted to have sex together (keep in mind we are both virgins). About two weeks ago, we attempted to have intercourse but for whatever reason, I simply could not penetrate her. I know it was my first time, so I did not have high expectations of something magical, but I at least thought we would be able to physically "do it". Whether it can be attributed to the fact that I could not hold an erection or the fact that she was very tense, I was just wondering if this is a normal occurrence and/or if anyone else has experienced this and would like to dispense advice (my girlfriend and I would like to try having sex again but we are now both a little bit hesitant to do so).
Answers: After many months of careful discussion and weighing of options, my girlfriend and I decided that we both wanted to have sex together (keep in mind we are both virgins). About two weeks ago, we attempted to have intercourse but for whatever reason, I simply could not penetrate her. I know it was my first time, so I did not have high expectations of something magical, but I at least thought we would be able to physically "do it". Whether it can be attributed to the fact that I could not hold an erection or the fact that she was very tense, I was just wondering if this is a normal occurrence and/or if anyone else has experienced this and would like to dispense advice (my girlfriend and I would like to try having sex again but we are now both a little bit hesitant to do so).
Alright, so this may actually have something to do with her body (or yours) but common sense points to a bigger picture.
Even if the problem was just that she was nervous and tense, then think about why. Even though you feel like you've talked it through well enough, maybe you haven't. Giving up your virginity is a big step in a relationship. In order to do so you have to be mature and trust your partner. Without love, trust, and enough common sense to do it safely, it's just not worth it. Another way to think about it is are you GIVING UP your virginity, or do you feel like you're letting them have it? If you feel like you're just "giving it up" then it's not as special as it could be. Once you are ready to give your virginity to your partner you know you are ready.
Aside from the relationship possibly breaking up and other emotional things having sex may bring, think about the other side effects, like pregnancy (No matter what you do you aren't 100% safe, the only way to be SURE you two are fine is abstinence.) .
This is a huge step in a relationship and your bodies may have been telling you that you two aren't ready. Talk about it some more and wait as long as you can. Waiting is what makes it special.
Best of luck to you two!
I think G-d is telling you to wait until you are married.
You're still virgins, now keep it that way!
The hymen is the covering over the inside of the vagina that constitutes virginity. Some women have a hymen that is larger (covers more of the opening) and is harder to break. She might need to see a doctor to find out. If this is the case she could possible get a tear in the tender tissues inside her vagina when you enter her with the force it might take to break it.
Why not just wait until you are older and more ready?
okay god was human once two so just because people tell you to wait you should only listen if you want but because your kids and you wont here is the basics. It (your girls private area) is not just waiting for your thing (your private part) her mind must be made comfortable make sure your safe and not rushed like your parents picking you up or something once she is comfortable with you and feels safe with you, you can start with foreplay keep in mind that you should keep it basic for the first time remeber your goal is to do it right so you can do it again oral if she is into it on her not you, a massage foot or back very relaxing and hold her no matter what look into her eyes when your done call her send her flowers and act like everything is brand new every time good luck be safe use a condom please unless you want to be a dad
You are not ready! You are to nervous and deep inside you are ashamed of your selves.I don't think either one you want this to happen. Talk it over again. Maybe you both really want to wait. Having sex will change your lives and put your relationship in a different light. Then you have to worry about getting pregnant. Your parents finding out. Your mate cheating on you. Your sweet GF/BF friend ship with be so different. It could break you up.Please think about this some more.
I agree that you should wait until you are more ready. Things get so complicated once you do finally have sex. It should be a relaxed time and no worries but it sounds like it was a very uncomfortable situation which just says that the time was not right, and that's ok. The more relaxed the both of you are the more pleasurable you will both be. Take your time. Don't be in any hurry to grow up! Good Luck, hun.