Body Image after weight loss?!
Question: So I spent my entire life being overweight.
I recently lost 50lbs, I am 5'9 and weigh 155lbs. I definitely feel a lot better, because of my fitness level, which was non-existant before.
Thing is, I don't see or feel a big difference. People I know say "Oh my god, you lost so much weight!!" Even people I see on a daily basis point it out, tell me not to lose more, tell me I'm losing too much.
This women I know had gastric bypass surgery. I didn't see her for several months, she came into my work place, and all she could do was go on about how I looked like a completely different person. I couldn't even get a word in about how great she looked.
I've had people think I now weigh 130lbs and wear like a size 4!
Is this just people being shocked? Why do I look in the mirror and still see an overweight person? It's really disorienting and it actually gets annoying, having comments about my weight on a daily basis.
Answers: So I spent my entire life being overweight.
I recently lost 50lbs, I am 5'9 and weigh 155lbs. I definitely feel a lot better, because of my fitness level, which was non-existant before.
Thing is, I don't see or feel a big difference. People I know say "Oh my god, you lost so much weight!!" Even people I see on a daily basis point it out, tell me not to lose more, tell me I'm losing too much.
This women I know had gastric bypass surgery. I didn't see her for several months, she came into my work place, and all she could do was go on about how I looked like a completely different person. I couldn't even get a word in about how great she looked.
I've had people think I now weigh 130lbs and wear like a size 4!
Is this just people being shocked? Why do I look in the mirror and still see an overweight person? It's really disorienting and it actually gets annoying, having comments about my weight on a daily basis.
First of all...congratulations and second of all, go see a therapist...I can relate to this problem. You have made a giant step in the right direction but the transformation has to happen in your body as much as your mind. You have thought like a fat person all your life and you have not loved yourself so you need to go to a therapist and help them help you resolve how to see yourself as beautiful and how to not think like a person who is fat. Because you are not! And you need to figure out why you think that way and how you can stop. Its such a shame that you have lost all that weight with hard work and you cant enjoy it. And that means that the underlying issues of why you were fatter in the first place has not gone away. And that also means that there is a risk you will gain it back and you don't want that!
nooooooooooooooooooo
If you ask me, it's because they don't see "you".
You see yourself as you have always seen you. when you know someone for a short (or even a long) time, you know them as them, not when they change... lol...
I'm sure you look... FAAAABUUULLOOOUUUUS!
I've heard about this happening before, because you've spent your whole life seeing yourself as that overweight person now that you've got the body you wanted you don't feel like you're no longer that overweight person, right?
maybe some sort of hypnotherapy or counceling would help you to change the way u look at yourself as you've worked so hard to get rid of all that weight, you deserve to be able to look in the mirror and like what you see!!
I hope I don't feel this way once I've lost all my weight, I'm in the same boat as you were... here's hoping!
hmm. I probably shouldn't answer your question because I don't know what it is like to be you, and I don't even know the answer to your question, but I think there are times in life when it is best for us to just listen to our friends and not act according to our own feelings. In my culture we have an idiom:
If two people tell you that you're drunk, go to bed.
In the same way, if several of your friends tell you that you that you look awesome and that they see a big change, believe them and admit to yourself that the years of being overweight have negatively affected the way you think about yourself, and the only thing you can do now is to either re-program your brain or to be aware of the fact that your brain is sending you inaccurate signals and sometimes you're better off not listening to it.
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