I may have a small problem.?!
Question: I may have a small problem.?
Another fly in the ointment, my fiance's mom wants him to come. She has asked if she can bring him as long as he is sober. My fiance flat out said no.
Answers:
Letting him come, even if sober, is risky. I assume there will be alcohol at the reception, so who knows how long the sobriety will last.
You do not want a violent person who hates you to be at your wedding, no matter how they are related. It's very, very good that your fiance is with you on this.
Yes, have sentries to escort him away if needed. Make sure they understand his violent tendencies. You might want to have someone have the police on speed dial if he's that bad.
If the mom gets pissed, then she gets pissed. Deal with that later. You cannot avoid making your mother in law angry for the rest of your life, so you might as well deal with it now when it's an issue that really matters to you.
I think the best but rude way is to have him drink wine with sleeping tablets in it. Of course without him knowing that it has sleeping tablets in it. In this way, when he gets drowsy he may either go to bed early and prevent any commotion that might disrupt your wedding set up. Allowing securities may help but may be irritating to your guests in the middle of the ceremony.
let him come but just calmly explain that its ur special day and u don't want him to exploit it and u just want to enjoy urself no embarrassments
If you expect he will show up invited or not, have your finance ask mutual friends who won't get to wasted to keep an eye on him at the church and also at the reception. Alert the reception hall as they may have security that could escort him out. He may arrive sober, but not for long at a wedding. Also, you might have to invite him for family peace with your mother-in-law, or don't say boo to her about it. She will end up resenting you, not her own son and nobody needs to start off a marriage with that.
PS. My brother showed up at my wedding having a hissy fit and most likely was drunk. My brother-in-law told him to calm down or to please leave. Nobody except for my brother-in-law even knew about it until after the reception.