does anyone else with cancer get treated as if they were already dead from some !

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I don't have cancer, but I have had (and still have) several chronic illnesses that have limited my life for the past 10 years. Yes, I've had family and friends that distanced themselves from me and stopped calling me or inviting me to things, etc. because they automatically assume I'm too sick to do a dang thing. They also don't want to have to help me with anything either. I don't know why people act like that. I know some people don't know what to do so they do nothing, but gees, all they have to do is ask and actually talk to me. I was able to make some new friends, sometimes just online friends. But sometimes online friends can be the best ones there is, especially if they are experiencing the same sickness you are. Perhaps you can search for a cancer site created by people going through similar challenges as you. Depression is natural when you suffer from illness that changes your life. If you become increasingly depressed, perhaps your doctor can prescribe some anti-depressants so you don't have to suffer quite so much from it. Sorry, you are ill and dealing with some abandonment.

I am sorry to hear about that. Try and maybe make some friends in your clinic, or a group of people with cancer, like charities and stuff. Your old friends and family probably don't know how to react, and assume that they might hurt you in a way, and make you feel even worse, and are scared of doing that. People start treating their friends as if they are made of glass when they find out they have cancer/ other disease. Try and tell them you are still the same person and are just sick for a while, and you will soon be ok. Ask them maybe, to be with you, it is much easier to go through this with some friends and family around.
Best of luck, hope you get well soon :)))

Sorry to hear you have cancer.
My Grandad is always getting skin cancer, but he gets through it
But he always keeps it a secret between him and my nan, because I dont think he wants the fuss or attention or to cause worrie. But when my family does find out, everyone acts very sympathic when they talk about it behind his back, but no one will mention it to my grandad, and they dont distance themselves completly, but they do a lil and they never talk about it. I'm not sure why, if anything they should be giving support. In a way I think they wanna leave him alone to get through it and get on with it. Even though thats the not the best thing to do. I think people are selfish and just wanna carry on with their own lives. Sorry.

I never experienced this, but was lucky not to experience severe side effects from my treatment.

I was totally bald, but I had people who thought I had shaved my head to raise money for cancer ( I have been a long time cancer fundraiser after loosing my mother to cancer) and a cousin thought I was making a fashion statement! I also had severe radiation burns but these weren't visible and I didn't let them stop me from doing what I wanted.

I was able to continue working, attend a ball, perform in a concert and take part in 2 street parades while going through my treatment as well as continue with all my normal day to day activities.

Anyone who tried to treat me like I was dying would have been told where to go!

It certainly sorts out good friends from the mediocre ones. My take is that, if they aren't prepared to support you, you are well rid of them.

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