Why do people seem to think that because someone has an STD....?!
Question: that they asked for it or are "nasty" because of it? I really think people should get better educated before they start judging others. What is your take on this? All answers welcome. I'm just curious to see what people really think. Thanks in advance.xxx
Answers: that they asked for it or are "nasty" because of it? I really think people should get better educated before they start judging others. What is your take on this? All answers welcome. I'm just curious to see what people really think. Thanks in advance.xxx
I dont know, but it has to stop. Yes, there are people that get infected because they were irresponsable, but there are a lot who werent and are stuck with the negative image.
I was safe in every way I could be... I made my fiancee at the time get tested before I would let him touch me, at all(he had quite a history). He was clean, and had had a vasectomy, so I thought I was safe, considering he was the only person I had ever had sex with. Too bad I wasnt the only one -he- did. He brought it home at some point.... I only got a heads up when we broke up and I was suddenly overwhelmed with all this information from his friends and family that he had been cheating on me the whole freakin time. When I went in to get tested, not only had he saddled me with herpes, but he brought home HPV too. Charmer, huh? Teach me to trust anyone.
Its a backhanded blow, too. If you are responsable, and tell your partners before you jump into bed with them what has happened and the dice they are rolling, there goes your ball game. I dont know a better way to kill a relationship than that. Not because you are nasty, or promiscuous, but because your -not-. Its embaressing enough without the judgments, you know?
The real crappy part is that education apparantly cannot do anything about it. Its not like it isnt covered in school.... People just cant get thier mind around the idea that unforseen circumstances happen to everyone.
well they did ask for it by not protecting themselves...and yes...that is nasty...would you wanna touch someone who you know is carrying herpes or chlamydia....i know i wouldnt....
Generally STDs require sexual contact. Whomever you were in contact with got it from somene else.
Multiple partners or poor choice in partners is often seen and "nasty" by those who want to point fingers.
Using protection can cut down disease spread greatly. It also stops most unwanted pregnancies too!
i agree, i had unprotected sex on 1 occasion and i had a check up and tested positive 4 chlamydia & gonnorhea.... turns out i never had gonnorhea tho, it was a false positive apparently.
Ive only slept with 5 ppl, all boyfriends.
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i think people use the words as in nasty or sick because they are mis informed about std if treated properly and the person is well informed on how to protect them and the ones there with then your learning from your mistake by not using protections... its the ones who know they have them and spread them around at infected those around them
All it takes is one wrong choice or careless decision, and an STD is born. Anybody here who thinks it's nasty surely better hope that they never make one wrong choice or careless decision.
My ex contracted genital herpes from ORAL sex. If you are bent on blaming people for not using protection, better 'suit up' prior to oral, too.
And this is important - women are more likely to be symptomatic with an STD than a man is. So technically, the guy could have had unprotected sex with half of the Dallas cowboy cheerleaders, be a carrier of 12 diseases, yet show signs of no disease (and therefore, "good judgment"), whereas a woman might have unprotected sex with one man and start oozing all 12 infections at once.
I guarantee if a woman has an STD, the disease can be traced back to a guy who had exercised poor judgment somewhere.
I think it mostly stems from lack of education. I ended up getting genital warts from an ex girl friend and I felt all gross for a while. Then I was looking up facts about it and it said 80-90% of people end up with it and most people never even notice. I think it's that way with a lot of people.
Of course then you have those STD's that lay dormant for years. Someone gets something dormant and they can spread it to a bunch of people because they don't know, and even if you get tested, those dormant diseases don't always show up.
My take is that you should be careful before judging someone too quickly if you learn they have an STD. What if the situation were that they were in a steady relationship and it was brought home to them? Im sure that lots of doctors offices see married men or women who may have been infected by an unfaithful partner. It doesn't mean that because they now have some form of venereal disease that they are nasty!
Think back to the '80's when people were getting HIV from blood transfusions before HIV testing was done on donated blood. Things can happen. Be careful not to judge others for things like that.
Well, since people known to follow reckless sexual lives are the "poster" STD carriers, it is normal that most of us will associate them with leading an "immoral" life.
And just so you know, the one you least expect might be carrying an STD. After working 2 years at a community clinic, you learn that sometimes married ladies who have no clue what their husbands do, teenagers who think looks are everything and even elderly gentleman have one without knowing it.
I think we all should learn to refrain from judging unless we are absolute sure we know the whole story.
And condoms help, to an extent, but unless you tested each and one of your partners, each time you have intercourse, and wrap yourself in Saran, there is no failproof prophylactic.
The way I see it is people shouldnt judge. I have been with one guy getting married and pregnant and just found out that I have herpes. I guess I would have never probably had an outbreak if it wasnt for me being pregnent. So I would have never known. Us people who have an STD are not asking for it.. Not like we wanted it. Soo who are you to judge in the 1st place. For all you know you could be in the same boat and just not know about it.