My mom has cancer??????!
Question: okay well my mom has just been diognosed with cancer and shes getting really depressed does anyone have any ideas about what i could do to help her im only 13
Answers: okay well my mom has just been diognosed with cancer and shes getting really depressed does anyone have any ideas about what i could do to help her im only 13
I'm so sorry to here that.I just went through that myself.Its a very hard thing to deal with. Just try to spend as much time as you can with your mom.Talk talk to her.Maybe stay away from that topic.That's hard to. If she needs time alone so she can think give it to her.Let her rest.Talk about happy things. Make her comfortable. I don't know what else to tell you.But make the best of your time together.I'll pray for you.I feel sad for you to.Take care.
talk to her and let her know that you love her and will be there for her.
Poor you! Tell your mom that now medicine has gone really far, and she is 90% going to be cured, and tell her Dasha (that's me!) said hi, and cheers her, keep it up, hang in there!
This is a long post but that is a serious question.
Cancer like anything involving alot of fear, and is best fought with determination, knowledge AND hope, these are the essential ingredients to overcoming depression.
If you have more questions feel free to write to me offline.
Cancer is really rough, it tends to deflate your sense of self, in some ways it is like being told you have only a few days to live.
I recommend this, she should ALWAYS try to remain strong, regarding the decisions that she and your family will have to make. Depending on the type of cancer you could be looking at VERY different situations.
So breast & colon cancer, are VERY treatable and curable.
Other kinds of cancers can be more difficult, and even those I mentioned below can be dangerous if they are not diagnosed in time.
Having said that, I had a BAD experience with my initial diagnosis. I had a "chief diagnostician" or whatever they were titled - repeatedly tell me I had a (no joke) "irritable bowel", with no diagnostic tests for nearly a year, until I demanded another physician (an intern [junior new kid doctor] no less).
I suppose you could call colon cancer a really bad case of irritable bowel, where the cells got all pissed off and rebelled but I'm still not buying it.
The lesson here is that SHE and your family never need to accept one doctor's opinion - however authoritatively offered it may be - get a second and a third or fourth opinion.
However, a chorus of doctors agreeing will eventually give you a good feeling about your situation, as far as being accurate.
Most cancers still require chemotherapy [strong cancer medicines], which can be either very difficult or relatively easy, this again depends on your Mom's type of cancer or how late in detection they were.
As far as being "only" 13, don't worry, anyone who knows and cares about her can help, just make sure you let her know.
Otherwise, as far as you are concerned, it's important to understand that some things in your life may be changing, not unlike if you have a new baby brother or sister in the house, "all the attention" is on the baby. For the next while, "all the attention" will be on your Mom, and thats as it should be.
So a TOUGH part for you that would be helpful is to remember two important things,
1. Problems - Cancer included - for you and for your mom and anyone - break down into two groups.
A. There are the things YOU can do SOMETHING about, fixing breakfast, doing homework, cleaning your room. For your mom those things will be getting to the doctor on time, getting a dietitian (to figure out what's good and bad in her diet), getting SLEEP, avoiding heavy drinking , and keeping connected with friends and family.
B. There are things YOU CANNOT do anything about, these things include the weather, the seasons, that you have to go to school or that you will get older.
The important trick is to focus on the things in group A and don't worry about the things in group B beyond knowing that some are inevitable.
For you that might mean you keep a good eye on the things in your world, don't get upset when it seems like life is being unfair - life is not always like a Disney cartoon, and this is one of those moments in life that you will learn alot from....whether your wanted to or not.
You discover VERY quickly there are some things in life that matter more than others. This is also a valuable lesson for you as well.
You discover that THINGS are not generally important, people are important. So make a list of fun things you always wanted to do with her, and make sure you get CRACKING. It's a good time to spend as much time as possible with each other.
Otherwise, I STRONGLY recommend that she get in touch with the local cancer support group - either through the place where they give her, the medication (her Oncologist [cancer doctor] / Hematologist [blood doctor] ) will know where to find support groups or just pick up with the current batch of cancer patients they are caring for.
Most folks also learn to develop - and appreciate a somewhat darker sense of humor when it comes to certain things.
There are many trick of the trade that also help as time goes on, especially during chemotherapy [cancer medicine treatment].
She needs to talk with her doctor. She could see a therapist. I decided to take Paxil, an antidepressant and I am doing a lot better. She might want to consider an antidepressant.
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www.onlinecancer.org