Why couldn't I get hard?!
Question: Why couldn't I get hard?
First, I was in this "rlshp" with this girl who had a REALLY poor personality, didn't treat me well. of course i didn't know her very well and mistook my pity for her as affection. it was during this time she..came onto me for sex. It was the period where i didnt know her well and was infatuated with her, couldnt control myself. But she was never attractive to me, fat and had a tummy.
First time, I was so embarrassed and not high at all. I couldnt even penetrate her. Anyway, it happened twice and after that she became the ***** that she trully was and left me for another man. Our near-sexual encounters left a really really negative impression of her on me.
Anyway, I'm in love w/the gf i have now, i want to marry her. She's sexy and i'm physically, emotionally attracted to her. No one can replace her, she's incredibly special. When we foreplay, I'm always the one who initiates, I'm never embarrassed or uncomfy, and she really knows how to give fantastic handjobs and has never presssured me for sex.
Anyway why was I high in one situation and not another? is it due to his values? performance anxiety/pressure? or the fact that i wasnt attracted to the first girl inside and out?
Answers:
Yes ; is due to your values . MY husband always told me that ; he could not perform with someone who did not attract him or be in love with ; so yes ; men with good values cannot [ sleep ] with any woman
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