My bf is addicted to porn? is this normal? ?!


Question: My bf is addicted to porn!? is this normal!? !?
he has 100's of porn videos on his computer as well as heaps of dvd's!. he tells me that he watches porn at least once a day even when im on the phone to him or something!.!. most of it is lesbian porn aswell!.!. should i be angry!? Www@Answer-Health@Com


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No, it's not normal!. An addiction to pornography is unhealthy and may lead to problems developing intimate relationships or in an inability to perform with a real-life sexual partner!.

You shouldn't be angry necessarily!. Most men enjoy pornography at least a little (and some women too), and if it is being viewed occasionally - particularly by a single man - then it's not necessarily a big deal!. However, watching that much pornography and allowing porn to have that much control over his life and actions is a serious problem!.

Explain to him your concerns about his pornography use!. Talk to him about the objectification of women and how that makes you feel as a potential (or actual) sexual partner!. Explain how over indulgence in pornography can cause men to become unable to form intimate relationships or perform in bed!. Then suggest that he cut back on his pornography viewing and help him delete the videos on his computer as a sign of good faith!.

He may need to see a counselor, as embarrassing as that may sound!. Pornography addiction is a serious matter!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I don't know if you should be angry, but you should definitely be concerned!. Porn addiction is not normal, and it is a serious illness!.

This guy likely does not respect women!. He obviously sees women as objects for his selfish pleasure!. And this includes you!.

He also is likely an addictive personality, meaning he is probably addicted to other things as well, like gambling for example!.

He will fritter and waste thousands and thousands of dollars over the years, and may likely find himself in trouble!.

I would dump this guy!. Life is short and there are many other quality guys out there!. Don't waste your time with a loser!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I don't think you should ask if you are angry!. Are you!? Or, ar you not!?
Some women are okay with porn and some think it is awful!. It just depends what kind of person you are!. Whether he has an addiction or not is a separate issue from your feelings!. My husband watches porn every now and again, and sometimes we watch it together!. Now, if your bf is truly obsessed and has nothing better to do, you might want a new bf!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

yes you have every right to be mad!. and any guy who tells u you shouldnt is dumb!. first of all, if he really cared about you, he would focus on you and on the relationship (porn is always destructive to a relationship)!.

i will admit, as a single guy i occasionally watch porn (rarely)!. but im not addicted to it!! and if i had a woman in my life who i cared about, i wouldnt even consider it!. she would be the apple of my eye!. talk to him, im serious!.


FYI: MEL IS A LIAR!!! mens sex drives are not a whole lot greater than a womans(although scientifically speaking they are stronger, but not by a whole lot)Www@Answer-Health@Com

Let me think!.!.!.!.

A live,warm and attentive female or images on a computer!. Which would I or any sane male prefer!?

I'd dump all the porn and have you over more often!. Yes, be angry and let him know you are!. It probably wouldn't change his addiction but when you finally leave him he might have an idea why!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i think he is leading you wrong way!.because it is not a proper way to tell girlfriend to watch porn video yet it is ur choice to be angry or not!.But i assure u he is leading you wrong way and wanna to use u like that!.be aware of this think!.it is my opnion not yours and i cant thrust it upon u!. and let me tell u one thing according to my own exeperience,if he see porn video, he cant control himself doing sex with u or anybody!.

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He could of gathered those DVDs over several years, and the videos too!.!.just hasn't deleted them!. Once a day isn't bad I don't think!. Does it bother you!? It would bother me!. Talk to him about it if it does!.!.!.if not, don't worry!. As long as he doesn't ask you to help kidnap some one for a sex slave, you should be fine!.
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Angry, no, wh get angry, he wants a girl who is ok with it, he was like that before he meet you!. worried!? yes!. Ok with it!? you don't have to be ok with it!. If your ok with it, but think it is too much porn, well, first tell him how it makes you feel, and then see how he works on it!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

yes its normal -- once a day is NOWHERE NEAR an addiction -- and why are you asking if you should be angry!? If you will be, you will be, nothing I say will matter -- its silly to be though!. just let him progress as he does!.

Kind thoughts,

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he has a real problem!. don't put up with it!.

ever heard of having your mind in the gutter!? imagine what his mind is like if he watches porn every day!.

tell him it has to stop and if it doesn't, leave!. he's a pervert!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

nope!. if i were u i would get into it too so both of you could get excited by watching together!. thats probably why he wants you to see that he has it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

No such thing as addicted!. CHOOSE to look at or CHOOSE not!.

Angry!?

You either find this a character problem or not!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

No, it's an addiction and as with most addictions, without treatment they will ruin parts of your life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Maybe you should give him something to look at other than porn also yes it can be a problemWww@Answer-Health@Com

males have a libido TWELVE TIMES that of a female!. consider this next to YOU get a notion to have sex!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You should be angry!. He shouldn't be looking at other girls except you darling!

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depends
100 is a bit much don't you think!?
maybe you could have a calm discussion
with him instead of being angryWww@Answer-Health@Com

It is just a guy thing !.!.!. get over it !.

IF he starts watching "gay" porn ; then get excited !Www@Answer-Health@Com

that is a man bt tell him to stillWww@Answer-Health@Com

yes it's a problemWww@Answer-Health@Com





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