Guys my 22 year old BF has ED..stemming from abuse as a child .HELP!?!?!?!
Question: He will be "ready" before sex...
but the second i say lets go...everything goes mushy
he cants stay "ready" for more than 5 minutes
and when he is in the tunnel...he goes mushy...
HIs confidence is terrible even though i give lots of support...
I am almost at my wits end..its been 5 months ans the sex is terrible...HELP?
How can i help him stay....ready? ALL THE WAY THROUGH
Answers: He will be "ready" before sex...
but the second i say lets go...everything goes mushy
he cants stay "ready" for more than 5 minutes
and when he is in the tunnel...he goes mushy...
HIs confidence is terrible even though i give lots of support...
I am almost at my wits end..its been 5 months ans the sex is terrible...HELP?
How can i help him stay....ready? ALL THE WAY THROUGH
I'm sure his doctor will be willing to give him a sample of Viagra or some such to see if that helps, regardless of the cause. If his problem really is psychological due to childhood experience, he should probably get to the root of it with some sessions with a therapist specializing in sexual disorders.
He may need to see a counselor to help him with this problem. It's terrible you are having to just do without sex. Guess you are just having to masturbate to meet your sexual needs, right?
I can relate to this because it has happened to me.
A lot depends on what you want from this boy. If you just want him for his penis, then you will not have the patience or character to help him through a trauma in his life which will be giving him more pain that is your sexual frustration.
Don't push him and, if he likes you, he will gain confidence in being with you and see you as a good thing, something to love to get over abuse.
You should only have sex with someone who loves you and you love - this is in direct contrast to the experience he has been haunted by.
So, if you are loving toward him, you will not force him to have sex with you, he will come round to enjoying the positive thing that is spending intimate time with you.
I hope that you are a nice person and that this is what will happen, because it will be good for both of you.
well there are certain devices which ahh.. keep you erect once you get that way.. maybe try some of those..