How do I get my guy to speak more freely about what he wants in bed, what feels !
Question: My guy and I get pretty busy in the sack, but he refuses to tell me what he wants, or what feels good or anything and it drives me crazy trying to figure out what I'm doing right or wrong without any feedback. I've asked him and he says that he doesn't talk about sex because he was raised that way, just like holding doors open for girls and treating them with respect. I'm not trying to get him to talk dirty or describe to me his every fantasy (though that would be nice), I'm just trying to get him to give me feedback in bed. He makes almost no noise and won't say what feels good, what feels bad or anything, even when I ask him. He'll tell me afterwards (hesitantly) that something I did just completely blew his mind and he really liked it, but at the time I was doing it there was absolutely no reaction, except he will close his eyes. I just want to know what he likes, how can I get him to open up and tell me?
Answers: My guy and I get pretty busy in the sack, but he refuses to tell me what he wants, or what feels good or anything and it drives me crazy trying to figure out what I'm doing right or wrong without any feedback. I've asked him and he says that he doesn't talk about sex because he was raised that way, just like holding doors open for girls and treating them with respect. I'm not trying to get him to talk dirty or describe to me his every fantasy (though that would be nice), I'm just trying to get him to give me feedback in bed. He makes almost no noise and won't say what feels good, what feels bad or anything, even when I ask him. He'll tell me afterwards (hesitantly) that something I did just completely blew his mind and he really liked it, but at the time I was doing it there was absolutely no reaction, except he will close his eyes. I just want to know what he likes, how can I get him to open up and tell me?
He probably feels ashamed and thinks you'll find him a pervert when he comes up with something out of the ordinary.
It might be a good idea to be very open yourself and tell him your strange fantasies.
Just tell him that it turns you on to hear men's fantasies, the weirder they are the better.
Some men tend to view their wifes as sort of saints, if he thinks of you more as some kind of kinky person, he might tell you his real desires.
Get him drunk.
be more open about yourself in bed and maybe he'll become less nervous and start to do the same
my guy is the same way. i wondered if it was good to him, but his body told me the answer when he came. he just doesnt make a lot of noise. not everyone is going to make those fake porn star moans and groans when they have sex.
wow 40 and 22 huh? that explains it...
If you tell him what you like, maybe he'll reciprocate.
talk really dirtily about what you like and he'll open up too
it sounds like he is satisfied so whatever you are doing is correct
Watch some porn with him. Maybe that will ease him into it.
GIVE HIS GOOLIES A TWIST HE'LL TELL YOU THEN
let him make the moves and you can see from his action on what he likes ^-^ tell him that he can do whatever he desires with you great way to figure out without actually talking <3
let him put his penis up your vagina
Give him time to get comfortable with the age difference. Maybe that's what's him holding back.
Well you could go on strike.He is a man and wont be able to go that long without it.When he asks tell him that your not in the mood until he tells you...trust it works.
Just sit him down and start telling him what you want in bed. Then he will open up. If he gets nervous just tell him that talking is normal and healthy for a relationship. If there is no sex talk then there will not be a whole lot of chemistry between you two. Then that might lead to break ups. Which is not good. Just have a talk with him, he will eventually open up too you if not the first try. Good luck. I hope I helped.
I like his ^^^ idea to 1.) get him drunk or 2.) email or text him and see if you will tell you via text or email....
Make sure that you're also telling him what feels good and what you like. Maybe it will help open him up to the possibility of doing the same. I would suggest sitting down and talking with him about it, when you guys aren't in the middle of having sex or right after sex. Tell him that you really want this and it's important to you that he feel good about what you're doing.
I agree with Gog! Get him drunk and ask him- really drunk. Listen to a guy on this one....