Speaking like my life is someone Else's whats wrong with me please help??!

Speaking like my life is someone Else's whats wrong with me please help??

Hi Of resent the doctor and others have told me I talk as if all the bad stuff that has happened or when I tried to take my own life was someone else and not me. its like I talk about stuff as if I am speaking to someone about someone else and not myself if any of that makes any sence at all please help what is wrong with me I am 26 and I have always done this in fact I thought that way was the normal way until now. I just need a reason for being like this.

4 weeks ago
yes but I don't feel like I have a disocitive disorder I have read about them I feel like everything is real nothing is a dream or anything its just I talk as if I am third party

4 weeks ago
cris you are very right but is there not a name to this so I can at least learn to change it

There are many degrees of dissociation and while you may not have DID or even a dissociative disorder, what you describe is a dissociative defense mechanism. Memories, feelings and body sensations can all be detached from one another or one particular aspect can become detached. It sounds as though you are isolating the affect from the experience and thus describe events without the emotional component-it sounds as though you can recall the details and recount events accurately, so the memory is not dissociated-just the emotion and the sense of personal involvement. People who have been traumatized as well as those who are depressed often can recount difficult experiences in detail but they describe the events in an impersonal way without the emotion that would normally accompany such memories. You are detached-or dissociated-from the experiential component. It's like being all in your head without being in touch with your gut and your body, so you describe events in your personal history as though you are a narrator observing the event from the outside rather than experiencing it from the inside in order to dissociate the painful feelings that are part of the memory. A good exercise to help begin to attach the dissociated aspects of your experience is to write a description and force yourself t use the words "I" and "me". This alone can be a powerful tool to help you feel and integrate the experience as truly your own. You do not have to have a full blown dissociative disorder in order to have dissociative symptoms or defenses. Most people experience dissociation at some time. Example: People who are trained for combat or for dealing with stressful experiences often are able to remain perfectly calm during a crisis and think clearly, focusing on processing the event intellectually, and "putting aside" the emotional aspects and even the physical ones. If you've ever been in a car accident and handled the situation rationally and then fell apart afterward or begun to shake or suddenly become afraid, you've experienced this. It happens when a person is in shock-they operate on auto pilot until they are safe and then begin to experience the feelings and sensations. My aunt once had a shunt that malfunctioned in her neck and she woke up with blood spurting from her artery in her neck 2 feet in the air. She put a towel on it, applied pressure and literally drove herself to the ER and once there became hysterical. Even the docs and nurses were completely taken aback at how calm she appeared when she removed the towel and blood was squirting everywhere. In her case, the "shock" was completely functional and temporary.