Im trying to find a solution to my problem?!

Im trying to find a solution to my problem?

I hate to say it .. but im not a very social person and not very outgoing and fun to be around. I dont want to be this way but i cant seem to change my behavior.. How can i feel more confident and be more outgoing. I would like to be able to talk to anyone and be friendly... but im so self conscious that I allways avoid being socialable and making friends.. I need some good advice..How can i be different ??

just start setting small goals, and achieving them, and slowly youll gain confidence in yourself and what you do.

i used to be/still am like this. i dont think you can really change who you are deep down. we're always going to be the more quiet people, the more reserved, but when we have something to say its worthwhile and its funny, and people appreciate it.

what you need to do, is find the people that you feel comfortable with already, your real friends at the moment, and just hang out with them for a while, enjoy spending time with them, and having fun. after time of this, youll really love sociallising with them, and feel confident that you CAN have a good time.
then after this, gradually get to know a few different people, one at a time, or just introduce one different person into the group at a time, until you feel confident that you can talk to them without feeling self conscious.

if youre feeling immensly uncomfortable and have no idea what to say, and that shyness is just overwhelming you, just play the part.
i know it sounds odd, but pretending youre confident can make all the difference. if you act like the person you want to be, in the conversation youll become that person.
never think youre boring, itll reflect on your outward vibe, always think youre interesting and exciting to others, and people will pick up on this feeling, and believe it.

just try it. it worked for me. and i think i was possibly one of the most shy people around, i used to come home and just cry my heart out because i thought that everyone thought i was boring, and unworthwhile to hang around, and just a waste of space.
but youre not, youre a somebody, and everyone wants a somebody.
:)