Do people who were molested think abou it everyday?!
Question: Do people who were molested think abou it everyday?
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I was molested by my dad from age 9 to 13, and I'm now 21. I can't speak for everyone, because sexual abuse effects people in different ways. I can't say that I think about my sexual abuse all day, every day. No, of course not. I'd be a lot more messed up than I am now. However, I do go through phases where I think about it more than others. For example, sometimes for a few weeks, I think about it every day, several times a day. NOT because I want to, but because I can't help it. For me, there are certain things that trigger it, like if I'm touched in a certain way, so I try to avoid that. I can't really average it out, but some days I think about it once, other days it pops up into my head over and over. It doesn't really help that I live with my dad still. (No sexual abuse is going on anymore). I guess I'm doing pretty well for someone who lives with the abuser.
As for being antisocial, I don't think I'm antisocial, but I'm very, very shy and have very bad anxiety. My anxiety hinders me from living my life to my full potential, and I don't have many friends at all. I don't want to be alone, but I can't trust a lot of people. It's very hard for me. I know that my anxiety comes from my past.
If you are trying to connect with someone that was abused or antisocial, try just having a relaxing conversation with them and make sure it's small talk. NEVER ask about them being molested.
I was molested when i was seven by my brother and abused by my parents. I like being alone and yeah sometimes i have flashbacks of what happend in the past.