Please help me, I'm getting really depressed?!


Question: Please help me, I'm getting really depressed?
I have this really great math teacher. He has helped me a lot, not only to improve at this subject, which is my favorite, but he has also supported me morally, as I have a really low self-esteem. He would always call me 'smart girl' or 'pretty girl' or both, and I've always looked up to him, therefore these compliments meant a lot to me, as they came from a person I admire that much. They also made me feel better about myself, or, at least, determined me to work hard to deserve them. But now, this is over and it's only my fault. Some time ago, I did very poorly in a contest. He called me to tell me the result, which I had already found out, his first words being 'hi, smart girl', and they sounded so sincere! I felt so ashamed with my result then that I quikly said 'why are you calling me that' with a 'don't do it again' tone. Well, he never did it again and I really miss it. But firstly, I feel really bad that I talked to him like that- you don't respond like that to someone who talks to you so nicely. I just want to hear 'smart girl' from him once, just to know that he has forgiven me. What should I do?

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I'm not sure I should dignify this question with a response

Don't add more into the incident (avoid all negative thoughts) that just happen the best way over come it is leave it alone and try to make him forget about it by talking to him about something else (accomplishments that you have recently done). Get him to tell you "I always knew you were a smart Girl" :) That way, everything can go back to normal again.

Tell him how you feel. Tell him why you said that and that you really miss the way he helps to improve your self esteem. I'm sure he will understand, he sounds like a great teacher.

Talk with your school counselor or psychologist to learn how to cope with this situation.

Good luck.

seems like "smart girl" is really just a dumb girl

Apologize to him.

And tell him that you like the encouragement and are trying hard etc. etc.

Make an appointment to speak with him after class is over and apologize to him stating the reason who had reacted in such a manner as you did. I am sure that he will understand and start to encourage you again in the way that he did previously.

It is very important in you life to have that someone who is willing to encourage you on especially when you feel that they are given in a way which is constructive.

Don't waste any time. The longer you wait, the more difficult it will be to apologize.

I am sure that he will understand what the situation was and return to what it was prior to the remark you made.

Well, he might not call you that again because it would be weird for him knowing that you look too much into it. But my advice to you that I know will work is you just need to say

"sorry about being rude on the phone. I like you compliments, I was just frustrated because I thought I wasn't the 'smart girl' you thought I was."

And then it will be all better. You shouldn't care too much if he doesn't call you smart or pretty girl any more though.


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