How am I supposed to escape depression?!


Question: How am I supposed to escape depression?
I'm so sick of it. Sick of family calling me, the one with a BMI of around 22.7, fat, just because I'm not 100 lbs like my cousins, when the ones calling me fat are the ones who are overweight themselves. Sick of my 'friends' who tell me the nicest things just to go around just to say how much I disgust them to other people. Sick of my 'loved ones' who never seem to be satisfied with what I do even when I do it for them. I'm sick of being compared every day of my life to someone else. My mother looks at me and she sees what I don't have, instead of what I do. It's just expected of me to be a 4.0 student with a seemingly stable social life. It's expected, not noteworthy. To them, I'm not skinny enough because I'm not model thin. I'm not athletic enough because I can't be a sports prodigy like my father. I'm not good enough because I'm me. To everyone, I'm just me. So how can I tell myself I look good when my own family calls me fat? How can I love myself when the 'friends' who say they love me don't? How am I supposed to pull myself up when everyone around me is kicking me while I'm down? I can't seek help from my family or friends, I can't talk to them because my friends will pretend to comfort me and then go around and say I'm a self-pitying freak. My parents will think I'm just not trying hard enough, when what they want is perfection, which I can't give. I need help. I have to either escape this prison of expectations people have put me in, or somehow find a way to be perfect. Please help me.

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Don't escape it, wallow in it, feel every inch of it, and then laugh in it's face. Don't even try to live up to other peoples expectations of you, only you have yourself in best interest to put it bluntly. By the sounds of things, those close do you don't put you before themselves (which is a completely human thing) and therefore you shouldn't live by their rules. Live to please yourself. If your proud of something you did, remind yourself of it every day until even you are sick and tired of hearing it. And if you haven't done anything that you yourself are proud of then go out and do something! Make someone else happy, a complete stranger, leave a present on the bus for someone you don't know. Do something that you can think of, and think even if those close to me don't realize how special I am, maybe that's what makes me special.
Never expect anyone to stop pushing you though, if you were not pushed, you would not improve, and you would not be great. Which I think you can be, because you care so so much.
You're wonderful, and life will get better, look forward to the future. :) xx

The only person you can please is yourself. Do the best you can and if people talk behind your back they are not your friends anyway. Maybe you need a counselor and antidepressants.

Been there a lot.

Love yourself...it shouldn't matter what anyone has to say about you..they opinion shouldn't even matter..just feel good about yourselfwhen someone says something negative just say thank you and smile change the conversation and the will feel really small just try it....

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You can't control who your family is, but you do get to pick your friends. When you meet people and they are giggling behind other people's backs, they will do it to you also. So don't get close to people like that-watch for the warning signs.

I would strongly suggest you google assertive communication or get a book on this topic at the library. This will improve your dealings with your family probably.

also, try moodgym for free computerized cognitive behavioral therapy.

All the best to you - you have some skills to learn to manage this situation, but you can do it!


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