Alone forever, how do I deal with it?!
Question: Alone forever, how do I deal with it!?
Personality wise I am your stereotypical geek who is horrible in social situations!. I am in college and doing very well and have a good future as far as my occupation goes!. However, I don't think I will ever get a girl!. Everyone seems obsessed with big and strong for protection or whatever excuse girls like to make!. Yes even the ones who aren't that great looking seem just as much into them as well!. I have a nice personality on the inside and I know this, but due to my horrible social skills nobody gets to see it!.
Anywho I am trying to adjust to the fact that I will be alone forever!. I have prayed to God to help me and it is helping me somewhat I just need more help!. Any serious answers are greatly appreciated!. Thank you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Anywho I am trying to adjust to the fact that I will be alone forever!. I have prayed to God to help me and it is helping me somewhat I just need more help!. Any serious answers are greatly appreciated!. Thank you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I don't think you need to come to terms with being alone forever yet!. You have quite a few years to get to that point!. I know, really I do, how hard being alone is, especially when it seems like everyone else is hookin' up!. You didn't specify about your social problems!.!.!.are you scared to approach someone, do you stutter when nervous, are you a clutz, etc!.!? There are ways to work on social problems to get past them!.!.!.do you have anyone in your life who will help you!? Praying for peace in the situation is good, but don't give up!. Girls are attracted physically to the cute, strong guy!.!.!.but unlike the guys, girls don't generally get hung up on looks, they will see deeper into the man and go for the one with the kind, gental heart!. If that's you, there is a huge chance you'll find someone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have to do whatever you can to feel okay with yourself - confidence without arrogance is the most important social skill you can achieve!. A negative attitude will not help, so try to stay positive!. Remember, you don't want the kind of girls who care about nothing but appearances, anyway!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You aren't necessarily going to be alone forever!.!. lots of girls go for personality, too!. Don't worry!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow, I had to check to make sure I didn't post this question!. Let me tell you though, as one geek to another, it doesn't matter that you lack social skills!. The girls won't blush and giggle over social skills!. All you need is a gym membership!. "Big and strong" is a relatively easy thing to become!. I mean we're not talking about morphing into the hulk!. All you need is a little definition to fill out your clothes and get noticed!. See that's what breaks the ice!. They come for the looks but they stay for the geeky personality!. That's right, chicks dig geeks!. They want a man that they can laugh at, and they don't get that with a guy that is smooth and suave all the time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
So you're really smart and have no social skills!. Boy do I have loads of experience in that topic!. I have two autistic daughters!. One is now 15 and is assimilated with her peers; meaning you can't tell she's struggled with this problem!. She's intelligent, but can miss a lot of social cues!. And she is beautiful too, but her lack of social skills put a lot of boys off!. Admittedly, this is not something that bothers me as her mother!. :) Anyway, I'm not saying you're autistic, but what I do know is that you have to just keep putting yourself out there!. I have to MAKE my younger and more significantly autistic child interact with the world!. It's tough for her, but so is anything that's good for you like flossing your teeth or exercising!. If you fall back down, you just get back up again!. I know after awhile you feel injured and want to blame shallow girls!. Hey!.!.!.you're just weeding them out! Think of that as a positive!.
In addition, blaming others!.!.!.even if you are correct!.!.!.will not change your situation!. You have diagnosed your problem and the only thing you can change in this equation is you!. You definitively know you lack social skills!. Maybe this is just proof that you need to work on them!. I'm terrible at math and I'm taking one class at a time until I conquer it!. No one can do it for me!.
In addition to researching ways to develop your social skills externally, realize that your neurotransmitters have a strong role in how you relate to your environment!. There is a great book that helps you determine what your dominate neurotransmitters are (and your possible deficiencies) and a quiz to help you find out what you need to fix!. People with low acetylcholine levels, for example, tend to have a lower sense of well being and self-worth!. The book is called "The Edge Effect" by Braverman!.
Again, you seem to know the problem and logically speaking, the solution should be to work on strengthening what you perceive is your obstacle!. Blaming others will not get you what you are desiring!. You'll feel a lot happier if you find ways to overcome your obstacles and you'll find a woman who is likely able to sense you are content with yourself and not depending on her to alleviate this for you!. Sensitive geeks are quickly becoming the new alpha male, but you still have to put yourself out there and not be a wallflower waiting to be discovered by your worthy princess!. Anything worth having is worth working for!. It's up to you to let go of your social anxiety (whether through personal education or meds or whatever you find) and let people see that person inside of you!. Good luck, I know this is hard!. I also had this problem myself and had to learn to patch my own social software!. :) It's not perfect, but learned enough to count!. How old are you anyway!? Just curious!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
In addition, blaming others!.!.!.even if you are correct!.!.!.will not change your situation!. You have diagnosed your problem and the only thing you can change in this equation is you!. You definitively know you lack social skills!. Maybe this is just proof that you need to work on them!. I'm terrible at math and I'm taking one class at a time until I conquer it!. No one can do it for me!.
In addition to researching ways to develop your social skills externally, realize that your neurotransmitters have a strong role in how you relate to your environment!. There is a great book that helps you determine what your dominate neurotransmitters are (and your possible deficiencies) and a quiz to help you find out what you need to fix!. People with low acetylcholine levels, for example, tend to have a lower sense of well being and self-worth!. The book is called "The Edge Effect" by Braverman!.
Again, you seem to know the problem and logically speaking, the solution should be to work on strengthening what you perceive is your obstacle!. Blaming others will not get you what you are desiring!. You'll feel a lot happier if you find ways to overcome your obstacles and you'll find a woman who is likely able to sense you are content with yourself and not depending on her to alleviate this for you!. Sensitive geeks are quickly becoming the new alpha male, but you still have to put yourself out there and not be a wallflower waiting to be discovered by your worthy princess!. Anything worth having is worth working for!. It's up to you to let go of your social anxiety (whether through personal education or meds or whatever you find) and let people see that person inside of you!. Good luck, I know this is hard!. I also had this problem myself and had to learn to patch my own social software!. :) It's not perfect, but learned enough to count!. How old are you anyway!? Just curious!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
What, specifically, is wrong with your social skills!? Are you shy!? Do you stutter!?
If you are on track to be successful in your career, you will very likely be successful in love!. You just need to give it time!. You have plenty of it!. Perhaps you haven't noticed but the geeks rule the world these days!? And a successful man can usually find a kind, sympathetic woman (elementary school teachers!? nurses!? They're often quite attractive too) who will show you what clothes to wear and give you confidence!.
You're young yet!. Young women your age are looking for someone closer to settling down than you probably are, that's all (even if they don't know it)!. Let them!. Focus on your career!. You could also focus on building your social skills while you're at it!. Have you considered joining Toastmasters!? You could work on communication skills and charisma with them, it couldn't hurt!.
Good luck! Think positive!. :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you are on track to be successful in your career, you will very likely be successful in love!. You just need to give it time!. You have plenty of it!. Perhaps you haven't noticed but the geeks rule the world these days!? And a successful man can usually find a kind, sympathetic woman (elementary school teachers!? nurses!? They're often quite attractive too) who will show you what clothes to wear and give you confidence!.
You're young yet!. Young women your age are looking for someone closer to settling down than you probably are, that's all (even if they don't know it)!. Let them!. Focus on your career!. You could also focus on building your social skills while you're at it!. Have you considered joining Toastmasters!? You could work on communication skills and charisma with them, it couldn't hurt!.
Good luck! Think positive!. :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I can assure you that you won't be alone forever!. Young men very often mature socially later than young women!. There are smart girls who love to be with geeks because they are interesting to talk to and not as full of themselves as jocks and really good-looking guys!.
Ask a female relative, sister or cousin, near your own age to help with your social skills!. Maybe they'll arrange for you to take part of in some mixed group activities with their friends!. Also, even if you are a geek, it's no excuse for poor personal appearance and grooming!. Again, a sister or a cousin can help!. If you don't have a sympathetic female relative, get help at a department store from a personal shopper!. Visit a salon that caters to men and women and let the staff help you with hair and nail care, as well as skin care if you need it!. Be sure you shower and shampoo your hair every day!. Cleanliness goes a very long way with lots of women!.
One way to meet nice women is to do volunteer work!. It's a place where you can demonstrate your kindness and empathy!.
Remember, most women are looking for a nice, smart man who'll be a good father and husband!. Being a geek isn't a barrier to finding a nice girlfriend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ask a female relative, sister or cousin, near your own age to help with your social skills!. Maybe they'll arrange for you to take part of in some mixed group activities with their friends!. Also, even if you are a geek, it's no excuse for poor personal appearance and grooming!. Again, a sister or a cousin can help!. If you don't have a sympathetic female relative, get help at a department store from a personal shopper!. Visit a salon that caters to men and women and let the staff help you with hair and nail care, as well as skin care if you need it!. Be sure you shower and shampoo your hair every day!. Cleanliness goes a very long way with lots of women!.
One way to meet nice women is to do volunteer work!. It's a place where you can demonstrate your kindness and empathy!.
Remember, most women are looking for a nice, smart man who'll be a good father and husband!. Being a geek isn't a barrier to finding a nice girlfriend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com