Please, doctors/parents help! Is this seperation anxiety or something more?!
Question: Please, doctors/parents help! Is this seperation anxiety or something more!?
I should start by saying that I had seperation anxiety until I was 14!.!.!.this began when I was 5 and my grandpa passed away!. I'd be afraid my parents would die or not come home, go missing, etc!. So I don't want my problems to be pushed onto my son if there is something else to his fears!.!.!.
My son is almost 2 years old!. Since he was about 2 months old he's gone to my mother in law's frequently and spent the night on most occasions!. We even lived there for a few months during a transition period when my hubby wasn't working so our son knows my in laws very well!. I know children go through the anxiety of leaving their parents at all different ages!.!.!.and for a while I just assumed that was it!. Well now I'm not so sure!. He normally would whimper a little when we'd leave him there or she'd come to get him and then she'd say you wanna call "papa" and he'd be distracted and be fine!. Now that isn't working, nothing is and he's often cried the whole 45 minute ride to her house!. I assumed it was because he was being taken from us (me and his dad)!. Friday my mother in law was picking up my son from my hubby's grandma (also my mother in law's mom) who watches my son during the day sometimes!. She is wonderful and he loves going to her house (she's his great grandma but a young one and at 62 plays with him much more than his 43 yr old g-ma)!. Anyway, she's picked him up there before and he might have whined a little but nothing major!. Well, this Friday he freaked out, according to my grandma-in-law!. She said he ran to her screaming, "no mema!.!.!.no!.!.!.please mema!.!.!.mema come too!.!.!.please!!!" It upset her very much to have to send him away after all of that, enough so that she mentioned it once then retold me later that day!.
My question is!.!.!.is this normal!? My in laws are nice people!.!.!.but they tend to be loud (in a not very big house) and they do argue especially if my father in law is drinking!. There are 2 teens in the home, my brother & sister in law who also cause a lot of drama which may cause fighting and yelling!. My husband hated going to his mom's when he was little (his parents are divorced) and for the reasons I listed, the yelling, fighting, etc!. I'd thought it had stopped becaue it wasn't bad when we lived there!. But I am wondering if they've gone back to the screaming matches!. It scares me!.!.!.but then again what if I'm wrong and now we are accusing his family of something not true and causing un-necessary hurt and fights!?!?!? My hubby asked my son last night if he wanted to go there this weekend and he just stared at the tv and didn't even engage in the conversation!. My hubby pressed a little more and asked him again if he wanted to go see his nana this weekend!. He put his little face in his hands and looked down!.!.!.!.he may have been tired as it was about bed time but I've never seen him do that!. It seems like there's something about his nana's he's either scared or hesitant about and just doesn't know the words to tell us!.!.!.!.Please help, does anyone else's 2 year old act like this and do you think it's normal or only to a certain extent!?!? Www@Answer-Health@Com
My son is almost 2 years old!. Since he was about 2 months old he's gone to my mother in law's frequently and spent the night on most occasions!. We even lived there for a few months during a transition period when my hubby wasn't working so our son knows my in laws very well!. I know children go through the anxiety of leaving their parents at all different ages!.!.!.and for a while I just assumed that was it!. Well now I'm not so sure!. He normally would whimper a little when we'd leave him there or she'd come to get him and then she'd say you wanna call "papa" and he'd be distracted and be fine!. Now that isn't working, nothing is and he's often cried the whole 45 minute ride to her house!. I assumed it was because he was being taken from us (me and his dad)!. Friday my mother in law was picking up my son from my hubby's grandma (also my mother in law's mom) who watches my son during the day sometimes!. She is wonderful and he loves going to her house (she's his great grandma but a young one and at 62 plays with him much more than his 43 yr old g-ma)!. Anyway, she's picked him up there before and he might have whined a little but nothing major!. Well, this Friday he freaked out, according to my grandma-in-law!. She said he ran to her screaming, "no mema!.!.!.no!.!.!.please mema!.!.!.mema come too!.!.!.please!!!" It upset her very much to have to send him away after all of that, enough so that she mentioned it once then retold me later that day!.
My question is!.!.!.is this normal!? My in laws are nice people!.!.!.but they tend to be loud (in a not very big house) and they do argue especially if my father in law is drinking!. There are 2 teens in the home, my brother & sister in law who also cause a lot of drama which may cause fighting and yelling!. My husband hated going to his mom's when he was little (his parents are divorced) and for the reasons I listed, the yelling, fighting, etc!. I'd thought it had stopped becaue it wasn't bad when we lived there!. But I am wondering if they've gone back to the screaming matches!. It scares me!.!.!.but then again what if I'm wrong and now we are accusing his family of something not true and causing un-necessary hurt and fights!?!?!? My hubby asked my son last night if he wanted to go there this weekend and he just stared at the tv and didn't even engage in the conversation!. My hubby pressed a little more and asked him again if he wanted to go see his nana this weekend!. He put his little face in his hands and looked down!.!.!.!.he may have been tired as it was about bed time but I've never seen him do that!. It seems like there's something about his nana's he's either scared or hesitant about and just doesn't know the words to tell us!.!.!.!.Please help, does anyone else's 2 year old act like this and do you think it's normal or only to a certain extent!?!? Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Somewhere around age 2, children go through a stage where they want everything to remain the same!. It sounds like that may be the problem here, but do a little research and see how long this stage typically lasts, how you're supposed to handle it, etc!.Www@Answer-Health@Com