Please help me understand a person on cocaine?!
Question: Please help me understand a person on cocaine!?
Hi!.!.!. so!.!.!. I'm a lil naive about drugs and stuff and just would like some info on behaviour changes and all that stuff!. Here is the story as i know it!.!.!. My boyfriend of 6 years started acting odd and doing strange things like disappearing for 21 hours at a time and eventually i left due to this change in habit and lifestyle!.
Now he is dating his friends ex girlfriend and has been for the past 4 months!. Now he used to hate her and think she was an ugly hooker but now claims he is in love and wants to be with her forever but then the very next day calls me up in tears about how much he hates her and wishes he had never done the things he has!.
He admitted to me that he does Cocaine about 2 to 3 times a week and he does no less than 4 grams at a time (TRANSLATION PLEASE =)!!! )!.!.!. i know a guy on drugs is no good for me but!.!.!. it was 6 years so I'm still a little attached and i think understanding this will help!.!.!. If you do however think that maybe he just got over me and wants her well then!.!.!. we are in the same boat cos i really do feel like he does love her and wanna be with her forever and after being with her for only 4 months!.!.!. i dunno how to cope!.!.!. Any help would be sooooo appreciated right now!.
PS money is not an issue for him so the supply is endless and he says the girl is not on drugs but!.!.!. iv heard different!.!.!.
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Now he is dating his friends ex girlfriend and has been for the past 4 months!. Now he used to hate her and think she was an ugly hooker but now claims he is in love and wants to be with her forever but then the very next day calls me up in tears about how much he hates her and wishes he had never done the things he has!.
He admitted to me that he does Cocaine about 2 to 3 times a week and he does no less than 4 grams at a time (TRANSLATION PLEASE =)!!! )!.!.!. i know a guy on drugs is no good for me but!.!.!. it was 6 years so I'm still a little attached and i think understanding this will help!.!.!. If you do however think that maybe he just got over me and wants her well then!.!.!. we are in the same boat cos i really do feel like he does love her and wanna be with her forever and after being with her for only 4 months!.!.!. i dunno how to cope!.!.!. Any help would be sooooo appreciated right now!.
PS money is not an issue for him so the supply is endless and he says the girl is not on drugs but!.!.!. iv heard different!.!.!.
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You need to stay away from this guy, and that is no joke! My brother is/was a wonderful guy!. Then came cocaine! What a train wreck he has become!. I even let him come stay with me after he lost/sold all his possesions including his home!. When you say money is not an issue, I don't know you or his lifestyle, and that may be true, but there are very few people that are rich enough that they can afford a coke habit, because it gets very expensive! That's why my brother lost everything he owns, and he was not rich, but very comfortable!. As far as him loving you!? No, he loves coke, and that's it!. He will lie and manipulate everyone around him!. He will do anything he has to do to get the drug!. When he's sober, he probably does feel bad about his life and losing you, but when he is high, the hooker is just fine!. And she probably does hook to get the cash for coke!. There is no way to be happy living with someone that is addicted to any drug!. If you truly want to understand, I suggest you find and attend an Al Anon meeting!. I don't know where you live, but you can look it up online and there have to be meetings near you!. It might sound lame, but it can help! I'm incl;uding a link to their website!. Good luck, and try not to get sucked in!
http://www!.al-anon!.org/english!.html
And I'm very sorry to say I totally disagree with falcon and the other person above me!. They obviously have no experience dealing with an addict!. I do, and you cannot help someone get clean!. When my brother first came to live with me, I made him go to rehab, and 3 months later, after they "fixed" him and he came home, I insisted that he go to CA (Cocaine Anonymous) to continue his recovery!. But he isn't ready to be clean, and it didn't last very long!. After 3 months in rehab he came home and was clean for 4 more months!. Then he slipped!. It was the tears, and Im sorry, and the whole bit!. Then he was right back where he started!. I had to make him leave!. So he was on the street for a couple weeks until he convinced our other sister to take him in!. He'll probably end up kicked out of her home too!. It's not about chemical imbalances in his brain, it's an addiction, and he will be an addict until HE and only he decides to be otherwise!. Coke, from my understanding is one of the toughest drugs to quit!. You can do NOTHING to help him, unless it's maybe driving him to a meeting!. You can't change this problem with "the love of a good woman" I know 6 years is a long time, but unless he decides to clean up you need to move on!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
http://www!.al-anon!.org/english!.html
And I'm very sorry to say I totally disagree with falcon and the other person above me!. They obviously have no experience dealing with an addict!. I do, and you cannot help someone get clean!. When my brother first came to live with me, I made him go to rehab, and 3 months later, after they "fixed" him and he came home, I insisted that he go to CA (Cocaine Anonymous) to continue his recovery!. But he isn't ready to be clean, and it didn't last very long!. After 3 months in rehab he came home and was clean for 4 more months!. Then he slipped!. It was the tears, and Im sorry, and the whole bit!. Then he was right back where he started!. I had to make him leave!. So he was on the street for a couple weeks until he convinced our other sister to take him in!. He'll probably end up kicked out of her home too!. It's not about chemical imbalances in his brain, it's an addiction, and he will be an addict until HE and only he decides to be otherwise!. Coke, from my understanding is one of the toughest drugs to quit!. You can do NOTHING to help him, unless it's maybe driving him to a meeting!. You can't change this problem with "the love of a good woman" I know 6 years is a long time, but unless he decides to clean up you need to move on!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It seems to me that his life is filled with pain that he tries to alleviate with drugs and sex!.
Perhaps you are not giving him what he needs!.You need to ask him what is making him take drugs and seek other women!.
Find the cause of his pain and remove it then you will remove the pain itself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Perhaps you are not giving him what he needs!.You need to ask him what is making him take drugs and seek other women!.
Find the cause of his pain and remove it then you will remove the pain itself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i totally agree with falcon!.
i know you still care for him, you were with him for 6 yrs!.
he is also not thinking clearly from the drugs!.
he needs help, he could be suffering from a mental illness!. i wouldn't get back with him but as a friend i would help himWww@Answer-Health@Com
i know you still care for him, you were with him for 6 yrs!.
he is also not thinking clearly from the drugs!.
he needs help, he could be suffering from a mental illness!. i wouldn't get back with him but as a friend i would help himWww@Answer-Health@Com
Ok!.!.!. First of all when a person is on cocaine they act as a "Doctor Jekyll, Mr Hyde"!. They may act fine and completely normal one minute and the next they are flying off the handle at the silliest thing!. In your case, telling you that he wants to be with you than telling others things abou the hooker girl!. This can also explain the changes in his habits and his lifestyle!. As far as the amount that he does, that does not matter!. This specific drug, it does not matter how much you do!. All it takes is one hit to become addicted!. You have to understand that the only way that your friend will get better is if HE and ONLY HE wants to get better!. My best advice, be there for him with support!. But be careful not to get too close!. If you have moved on, it would be in your best interest to help from a distance and not get to involved!. You could get hurt in the process!. Be careful!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
why don't you try and help him with his addiction rather then talking about love !? he needs help he use allot ,if you really care for him try getting him to a Detox and then strait to a program !.the question is why does he use coke !? because many people are using drugs to balance some neurotransmitters in the brain meanning he is mentally ill and he is not aware of it !.he might suffer from depression ,bi-polar etc!.!.!. usually people who do drugs party with each other!.!. for those people drugs comes 1st !.!.!.!.!.if he smoke that **** then it will be harder task to kick!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is sad to say good bye, but say good bye!. There are 28 grams in an oz, and a gram of straight coke goes for about $100!. Crack cocain is only 40% pure but is more addictive!. It triggers the pleasure centers of the brain that is also stimulated by sex!.
I live near Hollywood,CA!., and I know Rock Stars that can't afford to do coke like he is going through!
He is not in love!. He is in lust!. Not with her, but with the coke!. She is just something to do while he is high and horney!.
Mourn for him as if he was dead, because if he doesn't change his habit, he will be!. That, or worse!. He will be in jail!. In Federal prison, there are things worse then death waiting for him!.
Even if he stops right now, and never touches it again, he has changed!. The one you loved for 6 years is gone!. I'm sorry, my dear heart, but there is no understanding that can bring him back!.
When you see him you are seeing a ghost of what used to be, but is there no longer!.
He is gone!.
I'm sorry!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I live near Hollywood,CA!., and I know Rock Stars that can't afford to do coke like he is going through!
He is not in love!. He is in lust!. Not with her, but with the coke!. She is just something to do while he is high and horney!.
Mourn for him as if he was dead, because if he doesn't change his habit, he will be!. That, or worse!. He will be in jail!. In Federal prison, there are things worse then death waiting for him!.
Even if he stops right now, and never touches it again, he has changed!. The one you loved for 6 years is gone!. I'm sorry, my dear heart, but there is no understanding that can bring him back!.
When you see him you are seeing a ghost of what used to be, but is there no longer!.
He is gone!.
I'm sorry!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I've been down that road and it leads to disaster, trust me!. Leave him alone and get on with your life!. Four grams at a time is a lot!. This will lead him to jail, an institution, or death!. Surely!. There's no other options!. He could have a 20 or 30 year habit which will slowly deteriorate any good relationships he has!. If money is not a problem, all the more so!. Please move on and cut all ties!. He'll lie to you and manipulate your feelings if you don't!.Www@Answer-Health@Com