Still not over bullying...please help me...?!
Question: Still not over bullying!.!.!.please help me!.!.!.!?
i'm 20!. for 20 years everyone i ever met!.!.!.left me in some way shape and form!. on top of that!.!.!.i was bullied most of my life!. even when i had a job!. in my mind i believe everyone i ever will meet will leave!. i know its not entirely true but the thought of someone staying with me when i need them is bizarre!. i feel like when people do the tinyest thing for me it's too much!. i should be with friends and a boyfriend and it's weird it seems almost impossible!. like people who do care don't!. i feel like nobody could ever care as much as i do for them!. i can't imagine someone looking at me and really caring!. i feel like even if that happens they will eventually hate me after a while!. what the hell is wrong with me!. is it just a big fear especially since after so long i never felt like anyone would even like me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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i dont know why people dont like you!. whenever ive read your questions they always seem unique and smart!. i think you need to have a little more self esteem!. i bet alot of people like you but you dont want to know that because you think you'll get hurt!. you need to know that its going to work!. if you expect the worst, its going to be bad!. if you except a long loving relationship, you'll probably get one!. you're only 20 you're not that old!. I'm 19 and i've never had that much of a relationship!. my longest was 1 year!. but the thing is that you have to experI'ment and see what kind of guys you like!. then you can find out who you're in to and then date only those kind of men!. eventually you'll find someone that you'll want to spend the rest of your life with!. just keep on living and im sure you'll have a great life because i see some superb traits in your character!. good luck!. and i hope that i helped!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need to go to a therapist so they can give you the confidence to get over this and go on with life!. Teach you coping mechanisms to deal with these situations when they arise!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i soooo get it!. my life is the SAME way, except its my fault haha so it pisses me off!. if you find out what to do tell me hahaWww@Answer-Health@Com
You're lying
Start telling the truth, and start by admitting you're lying about all your inadequacyWww@Answer-Health@Com
Start telling the truth, and start by admitting you're lying about all your inadequacyWww@Answer-Health@Com
Same with me and im 13!! What i would do is find out what he likes, and what you have to think is that if they left you it means that they are not worth what you are worth!! You are worth more, obiously they are selfconcious and everyone you left was just jealous of you, that is what bullies do, they bully you because they are jealous of you, just go up to him and talk to him say hi and ask him if he wants a drink when he is on his own, that should get his attention and then talk sm
smooth from there, like what his age is, what he likes, what he hates, what you like, what u hate, how many pets, what job, things like that, his past, that should really get his atention!!!
Hope I Helped and good luck with him!!
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smooth from there, like what his age is, what he likes, what he hates, what you like, what u hate, how many pets, what job, things like that, his past, that should really get his atention!!!
Hope I Helped and good luck with him!!
>Starred<Www@Answer-Health@Com
do you bully yourself!? you need to seek help in any case, start by loving who you are first tho, that will be the begining of getting rid of any self doubt, let people help you out, alot of people enjoy helping others because it validates their well being, and as far as someone caring for you as much as you do them, have you ever told someone that you really cared for them!? and wouldn't you stay with someone else if they needed you!? stop beating yourself up!.!.!. i can tell you care just because of the fact you put forth the effort to ask this question of total strangers!.!.!. so hang in there, have faith in yourself!.!.!. and find someone you are comfortable with to talk to, best wishes to youWww@Answer-Health@Com
You've been told a lot of bad things about yourself and you've started to believe them!.
That's what bullies do - they drag you down to their level!.
Whatever the bullies told you was wrong - you can bet on that!. If you go through what they told you, you'll find that it's exactly what you've been telling yourself!.
Stop doing that!.
This guy that likes you likes you for a REASON!.
If one guy likes you for a reason, you can bet that there are a lot of other guys that will like you as well - you just haven't met them yet!.
Will this guy last!? Will he be the one!? Nobody can tell you that!.
But it's no reason not to try!. It MAY work!.
Take the chance and keep taking the chance!.
Every guy like this that you meet will help you build your self-esteem back up a little bit more!.
And don't do too much for other people - they don't value you for what you do, they value you for who you ARE!.
Because you're special and unique - just like the rest of us!.
Believe it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That's what bullies do - they drag you down to their level!.
Whatever the bullies told you was wrong - you can bet on that!. If you go through what they told you, you'll find that it's exactly what you've been telling yourself!.
Stop doing that!.
This guy that likes you likes you for a REASON!.
If one guy likes you for a reason, you can bet that there are a lot of other guys that will like you as well - you just haven't met them yet!.
Will this guy last!? Will he be the one!? Nobody can tell you that!.
But it's no reason not to try!. It MAY work!.
Take the chance and keep taking the chance!.
Every guy like this that you meet will help you build your self-esteem back up a little bit more!.
And don't do too much for other people - they don't value you for what you do, they value you for who you ARE!.
Because you're special and unique - just like the rest of us!.
Believe it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Huh I'm a little confused it seems to me like the feeling of having ANYONE around its causing you major anxiety!. All I can really suggest is first and foremost don't blame yourself for the people leaving your life when you were a child you had NO control over this even if you internalized it and figured you must have had something to do with it!. You do have control over who is in your life now however but only to a point, if you are intentionally pushing them away you need to try and allow yourself to care and be cared for by others even if you worry they may leave someday for whatever reason I think that when you allow yourself to let go of the control you feel you must have over the situation you will begin to feel free of these emotions!.Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com