Ex husband and i wont let go what to do?!
Question: My Ex husband and I divorced six years ago. But during that six years, we have been on again, off again. We come back together.for about 45 days. Then things begin to unravel.. I don't like his attitude, he doesn't like mine. I don't know how else to explain it. We don't seem to be able to let go. What are we not letting go of? The relationship? The love we once had? We both have other friends and family, so we're not alone in the world. I want to move on, but 60 days from now I'll think I want to be with him. we both have admitted that we have a trust issue now with each other.How do I let go and move on? This is wearing me out!
Answers: My Ex husband and I divorced six years ago. But during that six years, we have been on again, off again. We come back together.for about 45 days. Then things begin to unravel.. I don't like his attitude, he doesn't like mine. I don't know how else to explain it. We don't seem to be able to let go. What are we not letting go of? The relationship? The love we once had? We both have other friends and family, so we're not alone in the world. I want to move on, but 60 days from now I'll think I want to be with him. we both have admitted that we have a trust issue now with each other.How do I let go and move on? This is wearing me out!
Just accept that he is a part of your life and that you are a part of his. You don't have to understand why... just that it is.
When you need each other, reach out to each other. When its time to part, do it without regret.
Just think of him in the same vein as comfort food, a nice vacation, or comfortable pair of old jeans... they all make you feel good for awhile, but then its time to move on to something else.
I wish I knew. Let me know when you find the answer.
just make a plan that you will stay away from him for 6 months.That will give you both a chance to see if this is what you really want.Good luck.
I don't think that it's that your not letting go it's just that you are used to it. After being with someone for so long it becomes second nature and you don't really know anything else. Then you break up and it's a whole different world. I think you were just used to having someone else around. You should find another person to fill that void so you don't have to keep going back to your ex. Just tell yourself that it is never going to work. Your wasting too much time in a hopeless relationship.
It sounds like the situation is too familiar and convenient for both of you. I went through the same thing with my sons mother all though we were never married. It took her to be with someone else before it finally stopped.It will probably be that way for the two of you as well. Maybe you should put yourself back into the dating game so you will stop taking him back and you will move on with your life.
your gonna have to take control of this situation and put your foot down everytime he wants to contact you,try not to answer his calls.Maybe find a male friend to have a serious friendship with,that might take your mind off your ex.
You aren't letting go of the fear of being alone! I already have the T-shirt. In the end, though, you'll regret the time you wasted not being with yourself and moving on with your life. At least I did, and he did, and we both moved on.