Am I being fake?!
Question: As a child I was somewhat extrovert, when I got into highschool I became very shy and reserved because most of the girls were loud, and I didn't have friends. Now a days I've learned to socialize again, and I've been told I'm a nice well humored girl and I get along great with people, my only problem is when I run into people I used to know I get all tongue tied, and I feel as though I'm that high school girl all over again...is this me fake?
Answers: As a child I was somewhat extrovert, when I got into highschool I became very shy and reserved because most of the girls were loud, and I didn't have friends. Now a days I've learned to socialize again, and I've been told I'm a nice well humored girl and I get along great with people, my only problem is when I run into people I used to know I get all tongue tied, and I feel as though I'm that high school girl all over again...is this me fake?
Maybe you felt uncomfortable around the people you were around while you were going to high school and so it made you close up to them and become shy. Maybe you were afraid of their judgment against you or that they wouldn't like you for the way that you are.
Maybe the reason why you are able to be more open now is because you feel comfortable with yourself and those people that you are around you accepts you for the way that you are.
You just need to ask yourself what are the differences between the people in high school and the new people that you are interacting now. How much you have changed since then. If it's just memories that trigger you to act that way towards those people in high school or if you were still afraid of being who you are now. Having to explain your new self to them, a side they've never seen, might be a risk that your not sure if you want to share with them.
Nobody can tell you if you are being fake. The only person that knows that is you. You just need to be honest with yourself.
thats just intimidation.
i dont think you are being fake.
Whatever anyone here says, you're the only one who can answer that question.
Nope. youve just got alot of potential
No you grew & changed.
On the other hand, if you had to ask yourself if your fake or not, maybe sub-consciously you think you are.
No just operate the way you now operate around others you use to know.
Something happened during that time that has had a great impact on you. Discover the problem and you will be fine.
I believe not. People that are open aren't always and necessarily contantly being friendly or open. I'm like that myself.
Easy person to talk to but not everyone.
I think that your maturing because your picking who and who is appropriate to begin a conversation with and etc..
no not at all!
definately not. you're not purposly doing it, it just happens. I dont think anyone would consider that being fake
GJ-2 is right. You're intimidated by these people. You need to tell yourself that what they think of you doesn't matter, because what they think of you DOESN'T MATTER! You are not in high school. You are a grown woman. Now show off your maturity by standing your ground
no, someone who is fake is a person who knowingly changes around certain people. It is something that is done on purpose. You can't help it if you get tongue tied or shy around people you USED to know. They haven't been around to see you change, so what are you supposed to say to them?
no it makes u thats who u want to be people always change like me when i was in middle school i used to be so loud now in HS i'm one of the quitest girl in every class anyways ur not fake don't crtize ur self just be happy for a change u made
No, you're not being fake. It's just around certain people you get shy..or maybe cause you don't like them or somehow feel treated by them,or sometimes others bring out the worst in you. Don't worry your not fake at all! :D
I went through the same thing. The best and most natural way to be is just to be yourself.
Your inferiority complex comes back in play.You have to gather courage on such occcasions and say something to pay compliments.As one likes to hear compliment on one's appearance,the going will be instantly so good that you wont ask this question again!