Im going to kill myself?!
Question: hi im in a very bad relationship and connot get out of it i ahv children and feel guilty for wanting to kill my self bt have come to the conclsion that kiling myself is the best thing all round i am going to do it 2nite i am going to leave my children ltters and make sure they get them wen they ar old enough to nderstand im going t explain ever thing bout there dad and thereasons why i did it and that it had nothing to do with them,
this is no life for a person to lve and the kids are seeing what gos on and i dont want them to e like me, i understand that somepeople are not ere to be respected and i know i a one of those people and have done for years so that is why i have made my decision to do this
Answers: hi im in a very bad relationship and connot get out of it i ahv children and feel guilty for wanting to kill my self bt have come to the conclsion that kiling myself is the best thing all round i am going to do it 2nite i am going to leave my children ltters and make sure they get them wen they ar old enough to nderstand im going t explain ever thing bout there dad and thereasons why i did it and that it had nothing to do with them,
this is no life for a person to lve and the kids are seeing what gos on and i dont want them to e like me, i understand that somepeople are not ere to be respected and i know i a one of those people and have done for years so that is why i have made my decision to do this
why are you doing this your children wont be happy if this happened and do you want your children left in the same situation you are unhappy with dont do this you need someone to talk with and help you i know how you feel but you cant give up you will never know what will happen to your children and they would be better of with you i have given you advice before but you have not done anything about it you need to get away and start again then you wont be like this talk to someone at homeless or salvation army they will help you i promise you wont be like this what would the kids do without you and they would be feeling more than guilty you cant do that to your children there are people who can help you but you have to leave that situation you are in how could you leave them like that that is unfair and they would have to live with this for the rest of there lives please get out of that relationship ive been in the same as you i am happier on my own with my kids and have no abuse anymore you can do it its hard the first step but thats because you have to leave and take what you can with you you will get alot of help and support and i promise you you will not look back and you will be seeing things different to what you are now i wish i could help you more but the information i gave you before was the people who will get you safe asap and you will have another place with just you and your children very quickly so please dont let me hear this again i want to know next time you are safe well and happy and enjoying the time with your kids please do it tonight leave him and dont look back get your things and get on the internet and get there number they will be waiting for you and they will get you safe from his harm please do it for me i am worried now and i dont want to know you have ended it your kids need you and you need them what life would they have if you wasnt there please do something now instead of this i think the safety of you and your children are the priority so get to do it tonight you need to i want to hear that you are safe and you are now out of that situation and i will be here to help you so get out of there and do it now
you need someone to talk to..
That's a way to solve your problems. Just be a chicken and take the loser's way out of things.
We all have problems. Get over it.
my advice is dont do it. Suicide is a permanant solution to a temporary problem. It will affect your family for the rest of their lives. Your kids need you.
Im not gonna babble on about loads of rubbish as most people will as i know it doesnt help . But what i will say is that..ok you cant see away out? well if life is that bad with him is it not abit selfish to leave your children? No matter what he is doing that is also affecting your children, what you are considing doing will hurt them more than anything.
Now take yourself and look at a photo of your kids. You love em?! now imagine them all upset and alone with him. Think you need a new plan hun xx
ur not gonig to kill urself, u don't want to die, u just don't want to feel this...
call a mental health help line, go see a doctor, talk to a therapist
things get better. they get bad again and get better again, always.
Don't do it You will scar your kids for life. Call you r local suicide line they can give you some help and get you started on a road to feeling better
You owe yourself and your family more than what your are planning.
no, don'tdon'tdon'tdon'tdon't! that's what losers do, leave the relationship and get your kids out of it! now! just go get your kids and go to your parent's house until the divorce papers get in, and if the guy tries to follow you get a restraining order. anything is better than killing yourself!
okay so i didnt understand that last part....
but, im assuming you love your children right?
let me tell you, im 20 yrs old...my dad left my family when i was 8 yrs old. Yes, i was 8! i had a VERY close relationship with my dad, i was "daddys little girl" he just picked up and left one day...i get abirthday card from him every year...thats it. So yeah...he didnt kill himself, but i grew up without a father.
and its HELL to grow up without one!!!
i have trust issues with all men, and it goes back to what my father did to me. I have a fear of my fiance leaving me...i KNOW he loves me, but i fear it....my relationships before the one im in now, every guy has left me because of my "trust" issues.
I dont know weather to take this seriously or not, but if you are serious...just think about your children, and the crap you would be putting them through. I dont get hwy you say you dont want your children to like you. children love their parents unconditonally!
Shane Ive been there and done that, and when a close friend of mine actually did commit suicide I got such a fright when I saw the devastation that was left behind, I use that thought when I sit and contemplate suicide. You are leaving a family who love you and who will NEVER get over your suicide no matter what you convince yourself! DO NOT DO IT...its not worth the trauma you will leave your children and their children to live with, chances are high that ONE of your kids will not get over it and follow the same path, do you want that..........?
PHONE the DOCTOR now or walk into A&E and explain whats going on with you...they will help!
Don't be angry at me, but if you really love your children, then you wouldn't take suicide. They would be devastated. Everybody does mistakes. I didn't quite understand what you wrote, but you shouldn't blame yourself.
don't be a chicken.
you have to face your problems.
think about your children, they would be all alone!!!!
you are taking the easy way out.
think of what your children are going to think of you.
you are going to be a bad father and influence to them.
when your kids are scared to do something, people will probably think or say to them, yeah just be like your father,
i knew you couldn't do it.
even if somebody explains why you died, they will never understand!
Please call one of these helplines and talk to someone
Helpline 1: 08457 909090 (UK local rate) or +44 1603 611311
Helpline 2: +44 (0) 8457 90 91 92 (UK minicom)
Helpline 3: 1850 60 90 90 (ROI - local rate)
Helpline 4: 1850 60 90 91 (ROI minicom)
or email someone here
Email Helpline: jo@samaritans.org
Don't do it,suicide is the hardest for those left behind x x x x
TALK to me. Nothing in this world is worth taking your life. We all have problems ok? Even I have problems. If you think by doing this will help your kids it WONT. When they get old enough to understand it will damage them far greater than you can ever imagine. TALK to me if not me then SOMEONE ok? All these people that are telling you bye bye or go for it DONT listen to them for they are probably way to young to know or understand anything anyway. As well as being IMMATURE.
I hope you are joking. If not, stop and think about this decision. You are leaving your children and your family. They need you and love you. The letters won't matter. They need your presence. If you are willing to give up your life, then why not give it up FOR your children? What I mean is, live your life totally for your children! Stay here and deal with the things that are affecting THEM. I know people whose parents have killed themselves (even when the parents are facing horrible medical prognoses or other life-altering events, the suicide messed up the kids bad). Please don't do this. You are not alone!!!
1. http://forums.walkers.org/
Go to this site to meet others who feel the way you do. There are also helpful, friendly people who can help. People who have been through it all and know exactly how you feel.
2. http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org...
CALL NOW! These people WANT to help you! If you are in the UK or elsewhere, please use the "crisis" button on the web page.
3. http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/
Read this page!!!
You have an illness. Wanting to kill yourself is a symptom of this illness and you can overcome it with treatment. I know because I have suffered too.
4. If alcohol and/or drugs are involved in any part of this, please go to http://aa.org OR http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ and find a local meeting and GO! You will find loving people who want to support you, who care about what happens to you.
The bottom line is that your kids will never understand if you cut and run. Besides, who are you leaving them with and what kind of life will they have without you there to help them? Get treatment for this disease and seek the support you need! There is life for you!
Hang in there and don't despair! :)
yo ur children need you you are there mom, have you any idea what damage you will do to your children if you killed yourself, if your husband is bad to you then hes proberbly not much of a father to his kids , you wouldnt want him bringing the kids up would you, just try stay strong you can get out of this relationship you just have to stay strong , look in the phone book theres organizations that can help you for abused wives, dont do anything silly think about how you could get help
Hey I know what you feel right now believe me I have been there. But now here me please the one thing you are trying to avoid (is hurting your kids) is the one thing you will do the most. I know my mom attempted it but she lived & is paralyzed from the neck down. So yr's later things weren't going rt in my baby brothers life so he tried it you know what he DIED you know who hurt the most over this was us his family the woman who caused this could have cared less, heck she got widows benifits, insurance, ck on the child & everything he owned. She was set good, but the child is the one who 18 yrs later is still suffering from the loss. No one can stop you if thats what you want to do but there is help call a battered womens shelter they help families with legal, med, counceling, job & a new lease on life. Only a coward would ck out & leave there kids to face it alone, get the attitude that most female species have & that is to protect there off spring, & u will find what you need to pk up the phone & get the help you as well as your family need.
I'm not saying drugs are involved but if they are everything seems alot worse then it is when you are under the influence. It also makes some have problems they wouldn't have if they were streight. All people are affected differently so please take in concideration your situation & inviroment before makeing a decision that could ruin your childrens life. And call on the name of the LORD ask for wisdom, guiedence & Knowledge & be willing to except the answer you get, like it are not & you may see things differently.
God Bless You & Yours!
Bonnie
PS
Please e-mail me if I can help
Pray and meditate...
You have to think about your kids. Is it better for them to have a mom and a dad that aren't together or is it better for them to feel guilty for the rest of their lives for you killing yourself? Trust me, they will think it was their fault you killed yourself. They will think that you didn't love them and they did something wrong. Find someone to talk to...NOW. That will help you more than anything. Please e-mail me if you want to talk to someone who will not take sides on the matter.
My son's father decided to put a gun to his head and end his life on September 27th of 2003. If you are serious about what you plan, then I would recommend that you seriously reconsider. If not for you, then for your children.
If you can go in the face of your children and tell them that they are going to have to live the rest of their lives feeling inadequate and guilty and alone and unworthy because the person who was supposed to love them the most rejected them by taking the easy way out, then go right ahead. If you have the heart to do that, then there isn't much anyone else can say. But I'm going to try.
I was once in the place that you are in. I would curl up on the floor and pray to God that he would just let me die. I would fantasize about getting into a car accident or the elevator falling with me in it. I wanted to die. I never thought I would get better. The pain was too bad.
I never thought I would say this, but the pain I went through was worth the happiness that I feel today. You will get through it. There is a book called: Dark Nights of the Soul. You should read it.
Please be strong. Go get therapy. Email me if you need to talk. hamiltonae23 at yahoo.com
why would you EVER leave your children?
you feel bad for the kids.....how do you think they'd feel/react
if they saw your pale corpse? that would traumatize anybody
ESPECIALLY youth.
call the cops if you're in a bad relationship.
call your parents or a relative and ask if the kids can stay with them. you need to also tell the cops you are suicidal.
you need some help.
you are going to kill your kids spirits and hearts once you kill yourself. they will probably have PTSD and who knows what else. no kid wants to have their parent ripped away from them. when they're older they'll blame themselves.
don't do that to them.
are you just going to let your kids roam around and maybe your partner will find them and hurt them badly...want that to happen?
you need some help.
go ahead.loser
First of all...Please don't do it!!! If you try and succeed, it's forever. There is no coming back. If you try and you don't succeed you could end up in worse shape than you are now. Letters to your children will be all they have. They would much Rather have you! no matter who you are or what you have done, you are a worthful person who deserves respect. ALL living things deserve respect. I respect you for calling out for help. Let me respect you more for making the right decision. Take care my friend and good luck to you.
For months now, I have had these fears of hurting people and myself and even fears of the suicide idea. I have had some imbalances in my system that seem to cause some of it as well as depressed situations, like my dog dying, no job and broker than broke. No car. And a lot of things. But I know that to die or kill myself is crazy. And those thoughts are irrational. You need to talk to someone and what you need to do is pray. Go to your Bible. Read Jeremiah 29:11. You may not see the hope right now, and there are times that I haven ot, because of health issues and no one finding a concrete way to heal me. I have wanted to jump. But you know what those thoughts are of the devil. Say that. God is your father. Tell the Devil to get back. Get some help!
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