I'm so frickin stressed out!!! help?!
Question: So, I am a senior, graduating in may. I have senior trip to raise money for. colleges to apply to. i have to study for act's and sat's. i have so much homework always. especially british literature. i'm working 30 hours a week. (waking up early going to work before and after my classes) i live at home with my dad. but my brother is sorry so I am having to raise his three kids while he is off drinking and doing drugs. i have to help his kids with homework. help my dad with dinner. and be a mom..(and i don't even have a mom to have her shoulder to cry on. she died a few years ago.) and this house is never quiet!!!!!!!! I want to scream. i just don't know how to do everything i have to do. there is no time. and i really want to go to college. but i'm not sure i can afford it and i'm super stressed. what should i do.? what can i do to relieve my stress!? anything encouraging? please help. thanks.
Answers: So, I am a senior, graduating in may. I have senior trip to raise money for. colleges to apply to. i have to study for act's and sat's. i have so much homework always. especially british literature. i'm working 30 hours a week. (waking up early going to work before and after my classes) i live at home with my dad. but my brother is sorry so I am having to raise his three kids while he is off drinking and doing drugs. i have to help his kids with homework. help my dad with dinner. and be a mom..(and i don't even have a mom to have her shoulder to cry on. she died a few years ago.) and this house is never quiet!!!!!!!! I want to scream. i just don't know how to do everything i have to do. there is no time. and i really want to go to college. but i'm not sure i can afford it and i'm super stressed. what should i do.? what can i do to relieve my stress!? anything encouraging? please help. thanks.
You are unique. Anybody else in your place would have just walked out and looked after herself But the fact that you have stayed put and not only managing things but also working for fuerthering your prospects is promising.It is easy for me at the banks of the river to advise the sinking you. But the very fact that you are swimming and have kept yourself afloat is significant.
I have passed through a similar ordeal and then I was just a lad of 10 years. Father was in jail. Eldler brother was on active seervice in WWII. I had a younger brother to look after.Except for the monthly allotment from brother we had no souce of income. My school career was brilliant but my name was struck off while I was still in Std III. But I persevered and studied at home.Four yeara after I appeared for the graduate exam as an extra and passed brilliantlhy topping at my school who had struck me off.Slowly matters sorted out.They will also for you. Never give up education. May be you would take more time to pass but you will get through.You do not need luck. You need determination.
Okay well this is my idea GET YOUR BROTHER INTO REHAB!!! that would relieve one thing of your stress, then clean your house. when your in a clean house things relax. then buy only healthy food and only study 30 min a night and do all your homework every night even the projects cause then if you do it all in one night the next day you wont have to do it. and become organized then after a month of all that SEE COUNSELING.
Well, you seem to be in a very very stressful situation. All I can advise is to go on an anti-stress diet such as the hypoglycemic diet.
Wait, where is your brother?
You definitely need a break of some sort. Yes, it will only be a break, but it will clear your mind.
It seems like people are relying on you way too much. Your brother needs to take care of his own kids, and his kids will need him in their life. I suggest dropping the kids off at daycare or giving them a babysitter that is willing to help them with their homework.
Why isn't your father helping you? I hope he is. Save up money for college and get loans and try hard for scholarships.
You're only a senior! You are not an adult quite yet! As for studying, I suggest going somewhere else other than your house. Library, or even outside! Being outside on a nice day is a great way to study and clear your mind. If you relax and only do what you have to do, things will fall into place.
Ohhhh, sweetie !! Start by taking a multi B complex supplement containing all the B vitamins ie ~ B1, B2, B3, B5, B6 and B12 as they work best as a team.
The B complex of vitamins is essential for a healthy neural, digestive, and immune system and will definitely help your body deal with the extra load of stress you are under at the mo.
Eat more foods rich in magnesium ie ~ leafy and green vegies, nuts and seeds, wholegrain cereals and breads and cold water fishes such as tuna, sardines, salmon and whiting. Magnesium is known as the antistress mineral and is essential for healthy nerve and muscle functioning. foods rich in magnesium will also resolve an acid tummy and assist in any constipation issues you may have ?
Drink loads of fresh filtered water and ensure that your body is hydrated properly. No point creating extra stress for your body by being dehydrated ................. afterall the healthiest and happiest body will always be the most hydrated one ?
Cut back on dehydrating drinks such as coffee, tea, sodas and soft drinks and alcohol (if you drink) as not only will these dry you out but also rob you of your essential B complex of vitamins?
Chin up hun & take care of you ?
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Whoa I've been there baby.I'm 28 and one thing I've learned is that every one has problems.It's how you handle the stress that matters.I just started college a year ago.You need to get.You're dealing with a heavy load.If you need someone to talk to you can always email me.I was diagnosed with major deppression and it is my faith that has sustained me.You are way to young to be dealing with this.Please don't let your stressors bury you.Speak to a guidance counselor and let your family know how you feel.Sometimes people hold things in when letting it out would make all the differance
I think you need to prioritize right now. senior trip vs. Sat's? Ditch the senior trip. That will relieve you of trying to raise money for it. Cut back on your hours at work.
You need time to be at home, studying and helping out.
For college, there are scholarships, loans and on campus jobs that can help you get through. At the very least, you can get loans that you'll have to repay after you're done with school. So don't worry about that. Lots of students go to community colleges, too.
Worry about the chaos at home, though. It's not your job to raise your brother's kids. Your father needs to take more responsibility in getting your brother back on track. Maybe the kids should be with the mom?
It is good to help others and what you are doing is wonderful....taking care of your brother's children....where is their mother....first go to a place somewhere quite.....think what you want your life to be in 5 years time.....include all the good things that you are doing now but do also add time and resource for yourself...follow your heart, go to college....lay down some simple rules with your father, brother and his children....if they break the rules....you have no obligation to support them....hope this helps.....you appear to be from the western part of the world....was not aware that these things happen there too....it is a common malady in eastern countries especially India....take care....good luck and God bless....
Take a walk. get out of the house even if it only for a few minutes. Study at the local library. Talk w/ your Dad and tell him you need more time for yourself to study. You might want to cut back on hours at your job (if you can afford it).
Don't worry about your senior trip (not everyone will go) save your money for college (you'll need it for extras-food, books, supplies). Worry about your ACTs/SATs before you start applying for college. Take it one step at a time worry about each one as it comes up and not before or after.
Grades/homework first, then ACTs/SATs, then applying for colleges.
I know this sounds bad but your brother's kids are not yours you do not HAVE to help them w/ their homework. Grandpa (your Dad) should be doing this if your brother can't.
You need to let your Dad know that you can't do everything and you need to focus on your future now. Learn to say, NO, believe me if you learn this now you will have less trouble in the future when you boss expects you do everything and then some.
First things first. Take care of yourself. You are no good to anyone if you are stressed all the time. get ya a big dry erase board...they have em at dollar trees and places like that so it wont cost much. leave notes for everyone...put things like from 3 to 5 i will be attempting to study...please allow me to do this in peace, afterwards i will be available to you. Now as far as affording school. Federal Pell Grant. It wont pay for it all but it will take a burden off if you financially qualify and most people qualify for some help if not alot. as for your brother...honey if you take care of his responsibilities...he never will....my brother smokes the glass pipe too...i know what i am talking about on this one. I didnt want his kids to suffer either because of him...but i had to be the bad guy and drop the hint to the teacher so she could annonymously let social services know to check up on them...they got involved and he was issued an ultimatum by the court get clean, prove you are clean or loose your kids and your freedom. No one wants to have to do this, i didnt want to do it, but for his life and the kids future..i had to. now why are you working so much? if possible cut your schedule to less than 4 hours a day during the week and add a full shift to the weekend, say saturday or something. now...you sound like you really need to get out some frustration so ask some of the guys on wrestling or something if they have a body bag and would allow you to beat the crap out of it...if not an old stuffed animal you no longer like will also work in getting out some of that built up frustration that you just cant hold in. breathe and schedule time for you to do absolutely nothing even if it is just 5 minutes locked in a bathroom.
Do one thing at a time - if no money then no choices stop and went you got money then you start and don