Im really shy! ho do i get over it!?!
Question: im really shy and i never let my true personality shine through. how can i get over my shyness?
Answers: im really shy and i never let my true personality shine through. how can i get over my shyness?
Hiya!
You know I had the same problem and I had a real breakthrough with it when I 'simply had to'. I have a suggestion that may help. This depends on how old you are because you need to be old enough to work.
Believe you me, I got over my shyness real fast when I got a job as a waitress or some refer to the position as foodserver.
I was very lucky to have a good person as my trainer, because when I went to take my first order I couldn't talk and I burst into tears. She took that order and with each table and her coaching I got better and more confident.
At the end of the shift she told me she didn't think I was going to make it and "surprise" by the end of the the shift I was taking my own orders and running out with fajita platters. She told me she was very proud of me.
I enjoyed this job so much, and when I left this establishment I enjoyed working at other restaurants as well.
This was because I got to know people by first looking at them, deciding what I could do to make them happy, and then greeting them with a geniune "ME" smile. You can't lose when people see a genuine smile and you take care of them and their needs. They actually come to the realization that you actually do care.
This is just my advice, and I didn't always have good trainers. At one new place I encountered a trainer that sat at the counter smoking a cigarette and said, well??... Go wait tables. I didn't know the prices, the menu, anything. I simply explained to people that I was new but I would do the best I could to meet their needs. The idiot at the counter didn't work there much longer, but I actually became a better server then him. Ha!
I hope this helps, there are actually a lot of customer service positions that you could practice and eventually be confident enough to be your real self; even joke with people and make them laugh.
Good luck to you, if this isn't your thing at least maybe somebody will read it and try. I just like to help.
Trixxi
do not worry you time will come .and you will be unable to stop
It will come as you grow more comfortable. But if you want to give it that extra push, try surrounding yourself with some out going people who will lure you out of your shell. But don't push it too much, remember, confidance is also comfort.
Practicing being more outgoing does seem to help many people, even though it's easier than it sounds. The more outgoing you are, even if you have to force yourself to do it, the more used to it you'll get and it will eventually after much practice become more second nature to you.
I'm pretty shy myself, but I've done things to help with this before. From personal experience I've found that just being a goof will actually make you feel more comfortable around people. For example, I remember one day back in high school (I'm still only 19 though) there was a day in one of my classes and we had a free day cause we had a sub so a bunch of friends were just talking all period, but my friend was absent and I was getting bored. So for whatever reason (I think I was very hyper that day) I went up to this one group of friends who were all girls and just started hugging them all and goofing off, even though I didn't really know them. But after an introduction like a random hug I felt more comfortable around them and much more relaxed. After that day some of those girls and I actually became best friends.
So just give it a try sometime and see how it works for you. Good luck! :)
The BEST way of overcoming shyness is DELIBERATELY putting yourself in social gatherings or positions....sure for a long time your shy self will resist those situations....but if you fight it...and actually TRY with small talk with new people...and then make a few friendships....your shy self will dissolve and a new CONFIDENT you will emerge =)
but TRIAL is a must
try joining a group of some sorts. get involved in something., plays,choir, etc...