Should I just give up?!
Question: On my husband he has high cholesterol, triglycerides and high liver function. He is cheating on his diet he is smoking cigarettes and he is drinking alcohol should I just let him do what he wants? I mean I cant change him! and if he is not wanting to help himself then what do I do?
He is schizophrenic and bipolar. I take care of him and others.
I was practically arguing with the voices not him as they tell him what to do. what do I do????? HELP~
Answers: On my husband he has high cholesterol, triglycerides and high liver function. He is cheating on his diet he is smoking cigarettes and he is drinking alcohol should I just let him do what he wants? I mean I cant change him! and if he is not wanting to help himself then what do I do?
He is schizophrenic and bipolar. I take care of him and others.
I was practically arguing with the voices not him as they tell him what to do. what do I do????? HELP~
you poor poor thing...My heart goes out to you, My next door neighbour like you cares for her husband who is also schizophrenic, and who can be very voilent, To be honest with you lovey, If your husband doesnt want to help himself then why should you stress yourself out worrying?
Well I take it you love your husband, because why else would you put up with it,, Girl go have a life, if he has any family around get those to chip in...cos if you were to deal with all this day in and day out then you could easily end up having to fight a mental breakdown of your own....
My neighbour is here with me now and she has been looking after her husband for nearly 20yrs and she told me to tell you, that you should speak to your husband and tell him how stressed you are and that if he doesn t start to take his meds and stay off the alcohol and eat properly that your going to have him committed, and start your life all over again, and if that doesnt work and frighten him in to changing then she said to do exactly what you threatend, your to Look after yourself first, you cant be expected to waste your life, after all we only get the one....
BUT, if this is the life you chose then so be it, But you deserve better.... Fair play to you for having the strenght to do it...you have marked your place in heaven already, which means when you die you will be welcomed in to heaven with open arms...
Umm! You do the best you can and that is all you can do. but. the voices you hear are in your head, not his.
There isn't anything you can do. He needs to see a psychiatrist or be placed in a mental ward for care. These voices can actually be dangerous to you because one of them can tell him to do something that will harm you even if "he" disagrees with the action. He is a ticking time bomb without proper medication and treatment. I've seen this time and time again when I did my rotations at a psych ward. I know you love him and want the best for him but the actions you take are going to be futile. It's like trying to reason with someone who isn't even listening to you. Again, try to get him to a doctor and on medication or at the most extreme, a psych ward. Hope this helps, stay healthy.
I suggest counseling. What your doing is trying to help your husband and that is awesome. Keep trying girl, I give you credit! Or place him in a rehabilitation for awhile and he definitely will get over these bad habits.
You can only do so much to help. At some point he has to put a little effort into it. In the end it is his choice to do these things to his body and you can't really force him....
You are right; you can't change him. You can, however, get him competent psychiatric help that will eliminate (or at least control) the voices he hears and bring him back from the brink of psychosis.
Once you do this, get into therapy yourself. It sounds like you are overwhelmed and would benefit from it.
Focus on the big stuff - keeping him committed to medication and therapy. Smoking is a form of self-medication for schizophrenics that scientists are now starting to study what's going on in earnest (80% rate). It does something to help with the illness. Give up on that one despite the other health risks. Make healthy meals and leave it to him to be responsible for what else he eats. You cannot run his life, and trying will require you to sacrifice yours.
i think you should send him away not forever but for a couple of days and show him what his life is going to turn out like if he keeps on doing what hes doing.
What the hell? Get help!
I think you have done all you can. And if you stay in that train he is just going to take you with him, sorry to be so crude but i think you need to hear it. I don't know what your options are but start thinking, planning and acting on them. Good luck!
its called a divorce. ppl get them wen there lover is crazy as a 5hit house mouse
you can not help someone who does not want to be help....let him be...take care of yourself....there is nothing you can do...