My current problems have been written down. Care to help?!
Question: Please. only kind and courteous answers please.
1-have no friends. I thought I should have some by now but no
2-lost my job because some people at my work did not like me
3-help me raise my self worth?
Answers: Please. only kind and courteous answers please.
1-have no friends. I thought I should have some by now but no
2-lost my job because some people at my work did not like me
3-help me raise my self worth?
just relax everything will come to you
naturally on its own.
God works in mysterious ways.
and if you got fired from your
work because some of the people
don't like you than you could
call the labor board on that
job because they can get there
*** in trouble for that ****.
You're a winner.
get laid! It helps!
well first of all i would put some money into new clothes to help put some self asteem on you. have your hair redone and maybe that will help. start putting in applications and make your personality so they will love you. its easy just look yourself int eh mirror and practice. you can do it and i am sure you will make it. you have no friends well practice on people when you are in line maybe at the grocery store say hi to someone behind you and start talking just stuff in general its a way to make friend sand talk and get used to be outgoing it can help you in interviewing.
Chat rooms and going out places can solve number 1.
I guess the only one to number 2 is to look for a new one.
I guess becoming more knowledgeable would help the third one. Don't pity yourself, and don't let anything bring you down.
I too had faced some of these problems. Questioning my self worth, feeling like I couldn't make friends. But instead of looking for something or someone to help you raise your self worth, you need to do it yourself. Start appreciating yourself and acknowledging your talents or good qualities. Once you feel better about yourself, everything else will start to fall into place.
It starts with you!
:)
1. Friends are quite easy to find. Find some things you enjoy doing, whether it's comic book reading, or astronomy and look for some clubs in your area.
2. I find it hard you lost your job because someone dislikes you. That would be illegal. There had to be a reason.
3. Read positive books. You become like your environment most of the time, the more positive things you watch and read, the more it will absorb into your thinking.
There is a book called: Beyond Positive Thinking - Robert Anthony. Good place to start.
Also start saying positive affirmations to yourself. This will rewire your mind and rid your self of being negative about yourself. Negative thinking will cause you to be negative, positive thinking will cause you to think positive. It works.
As a personal experience this might help you like it helped me
Like the others have said, use whatever disposable income you have to upgrade your wardrobe, find clothes and style that you could look in the mirror in and be very pleased about it.
Not sure how this will do, but when I was in a depression, I started eating really healthy sort of like a diet and got alot of excercise like jogging a mile in the morning, and it seems that this put me in good mood, I felt more productive and able to take on my day, and when you have that feeling you usually can communicate better with others
Do good in school, when school work isn't a big obstacle in your life it brightens your life up knowing your exceeding
These things helped me alot when I went through this, I feel alot better about myself now and my spirits seem to be brightened. I would highly reccomend trying this from personal experience.
Keep strong dude, Try out my suggestions if everything else has failed. Life will get better. I wish you the best of luck
if y not working ang genuinely interested in some kind of job, try geting a voulantry job,you will meet loads of new people some in the same boat as you,you lost your job eh ,maybe it was you just thnking people didnt like you or on the other hand it could be the face didnt fit,there is some decent friendly people out there,go on the internetsee what kind of voluntary work there is round your area,i know someone who started off ,doing prison work ,shes now got a realy good job she loves it good luck
View social skills, in section 9, at ezy build, below. See self esteem/confidence, in section 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and consider volunteering, even from home, at first. It will also provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I ..(insert activity here).." Section 47 also refers. On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated: there are many options; one is sure to suit you. Practise one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you . Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o at ezy-build also refer. "Even though I sometimes have low self esteem, I deeply and completely accept myself". Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are confident, and outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior.
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit. Many lasting friendships start this way. Another way is through mutual interest groups. If social anxiety has prevented you from making friendships: See social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris
Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me".
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind.
Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger. Rewind your mistakes. Let's say you want to change an annoying laugh that you have, when you hear something funny, your old laugh will come out. You have to immediately think of what you wanted to happen, (i.e. your new, practiced laugh) and then do it immediately. It will be a little bit late, but slowly you will start to pair the two together, and eventually your brain will become conditioned to switch the first for the second. It usually takes 30 - 40 repetitions, to instill a new habit, with most people, so I estimate a similar amount, in the reprogramming process. Ask yourself why those people didn't like you. A certain proportion of people will always not like you, but if it is a considerable amount: what did I do? what did I say? Reflect awhile. Learn what lessons you can from it.