Omg this is ruining my life?!?!?!?!
Question: Okay so a few years ago, I had to go through some very tough times. I don't want to get into the details but I will say that the person (who I thought was my friend) threatened suicide if I didn't do something. It went on for about 4 months. Now, I always seem to be a pushover. If I clearly have the right to be angry at someone, I cannot get angry because I am worry they will go and committ suicide. If someone asks me permission for something, I will always say yes because I get worried they will be very upset and maybe commit suicide. I know it sounds crazy, but it's true and I really need help overcoming this because I don't like being like this! It is ruining my life! Please help me.
Answers: Okay so a few years ago, I had to go through some very tough times. I don't want to get into the details but I will say that the person (who I thought was my friend) threatened suicide if I didn't do something. It went on for about 4 months. Now, I always seem to be a pushover. If I clearly have the right to be angry at someone, I cannot get angry because I am worry they will go and committ suicide. If someone asks me permission for something, I will always say yes because I get worried they will be very upset and maybe commit suicide. I know it sounds crazy, but it's true and I really need help overcoming this because I don't like being like this! It is ruining my life! Please help me.
You are not responsible for the world. If someone threatens suicide they are trying to manipulate you. If someone by chance (small) does commit suicide it isn't your fault. People use threats to get what they want. You need to talk to someone about this, as it has become a phobia for you! I am sorry you feel responsible for others bad behavior! They choose whether to live or die... not you..
been there and done that! there is really nothing anyone here can say that will fully and completely help you. you just have to start focusing more on what's important to you than everyone else. people have to live for themselves. it's okay to help someone else but the suicide stuff is just for attention. don't let someone like that drag you down. i spent years pleasing others and got nothing in return. now, i'm happier than i've ever been cuz one day i decided to start living for myself and those i truly loved. sometimes you have to hurt people but life goes on. smile!
well if that person was your friend you shouldn't of have to do anything that you didnt want to do in order for that person to committ suicide. thats not a friend, forget them and make new friends. hope what ever you did was worth the stress and ruining your life as you say. Move if you can meet new people...
You need to remember that you cannot MAKE someone kill themselves. It's their own choice, and you are not responsible for their actions. People who threaten to kill themselves to get their own way are just using it as a form of control. It has nothing to do with you.
that does seem like a hard thing to go through. you cant let people run over you. some people will use that as a reason to run over you. people are intuitive and can figure that out about you. I think you are just scared because of what happened. people are not going to commit suicide because you didn't let them do something and if they do or did then there is something else wrong with them