How can you tell the difference between bipolar sexual promiscuity and being slu!
Question: I have occassionally (5 in the last 3 years) met men online that I truely wanted a long term relationship with but when we met, I slept with them and of course things didn't work out. Each time I thought it was the real thing and not just a sexual relationship.
But a few times in the last 7 years I have slept with strangers (maybe 10 times).
I was diagnosed Bipolar 1998. When I have slept with a stranger, I just told myself I have not morals and I am a whore. I do it because I have no personal relationships with family or friends and sometimes I feel the need for human contact in anyway and I don't care who it is. Also, I have a very strong sex drive at that time (all night long) and look for someone rough. The desire last a few days then I snap out of it and go back to my usual sweet, caring, moral, ethical self.
It is hard for me to accept this when I am not feeling that way. I am ashamed but so happy no one knows.
Please share if you have had similar experiences.
Answers: I have occassionally (5 in the last 3 years) met men online that I truely wanted a long term relationship with but when we met, I slept with them and of course things didn't work out. Each time I thought it was the real thing and not just a sexual relationship.
But a few times in the last 7 years I have slept with strangers (maybe 10 times).
I was diagnosed Bipolar 1998. When I have slept with a stranger, I just told myself I have not morals and I am a whore. I do it because I have no personal relationships with family or friends and sometimes I feel the need for human contact in anyway and I don't care who it is. Also, I have a very strong sex drive at that time (all night long) and look for someone rough. The desire last a few days then I snap out of it and go back to my usual sweet, caring, moral, ethical self.
It is hard for me to accept this when I am not feeling that way. I am ashamed but so happy no one knows.
Please share if you have had similar experiences.
As a grown man I tend to put higher value on a new relationship if we get to the sex gradually, and explore each other's personality first. You are acting from low self-esteem and a search for love in your lfe, that's why you s@rew first and regret it later. This is psychologically very damaging.
Most important: Do not pay attention to people who call you slut, for those same types will sexually abuse children and think it's nothing. You were probably abused and don't remember. Do not hate yourself even a little bit, for God loves you. I am sure there are people who's life you have impacted and they love you too. You WILL find a good man; or he will find you. .
The good thing is that you recognise the problem and therapy can help; but you should aim first at self-improvement, such as in your profession, education and career. The more useful you are to society the greater value you will put on yourself. Take up a hobby such as mentoring or gardening or volunteerism to occupy your spare time. Sex is a very good thing, don't knock it, but get to know your next partner before you bed him. Trust me, when he sees your other good qualities, if he loves, you he will wait. Good luck.
huh, they came up with a technical medical term for being slutty now huh? No wonder why the youth of america is so screwed up.
Na. It is not the Bipolar(which is a bs diagnosis ). You are just a slut some of the time and get ashamed. It is ok to be a slut. Nothing wrong with it if that is what you need.
Melissa:
Bi-Polar is characterized by excessive mood swings, but generally they are not focused like you describe.
There is nothing wrong with having a strong sex drive or even different preferences in sexuality or techniques..but the concept that it is the direct opposite of a normal behavior pattern suggests that there is an underlying cause for this which is simply heightened by the mood swings.
BUT.. you are not going to find the answer here. It lies within YOU and you may want to consider some kind of therapy or professional consultation to try to help you identify if that is the case and what it might be.
Meantime, consider your actions, carry protection with you, and consider the long term effects of this dichotomy on yourself.
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Are you taking any medication for the bipolar - or getting ongoing counseling?
If it is related to the bipolar, and I usually trust my gut instinct when I am trying to figure out if something I'm doing is related to my bipolar, maybe a medication change or a shift of focus in therapy would help you out.
"When I have slept with a stranger, I just told myself I have not morals and I am a whore. I do it because I have no personal relationships with family or friends and sometimes I feel the need for human contact in anyway and I don't care who it is. Also, I have a very strong sex drive at that time (all night long) and look for someone rough. The desire last a few days then I snap out of it and go back to my usual sweet, caring, moral, ethical self." You answered your own question there hon. Most people do not feel that way, and I would say that those feelings and ideations are indications of a bipolar episode. Please talk to your doctor about this because they can help you :)