Fat and Depressed?!
Question: Ok. Long story short here;
I'm a 5'8, 17 year old female. I weighed 216 pounds on Jan 16th. I now weigh 180. My goal weight was 186 pounds, but of course, when I reached that goal, I wasn't satisfied. I still ain't, because hello, I'm still fat. I'm super, and I mean SUPER depressed. I want to lose 20 more pounds, but my parents hate the thoughts of me losing any more weight. They tell me that I can't do it, because my hair will start falling out.. ???!! I mean, they're constantly putting my weight loss down. They won't even buy healthy food for the kitchen, and when I buy it, they eat it. They ate a whole week worth of my food in 2 days. My mother lost 186 pounds in 3 months.. no joke. She went on the "Green Tea" diet. Of course she gained it all back though, but it was because of my Dad forcing her to eat. Anyway, folks, I've reached a point in my goal to lose weight where I just feel disgusted. I hate looking in the mirror and I hate the fact that I let myself get so fcking fat.
Answers: Ok. Long story short here;
I'm a 5'8, 17 year old female. I weighed 216 pounds on Jan 16th. I now weigh 180. My goal weight was 186 pounds, but of course, when I reached that goal, I wasn't satisfied. I still ain't, because hello, I'm still fat. I'm super, and I mean SUPER depressed. I want to lose 20 more pounds, but my parents hate the thoughts of me losing any more weight. They tell me that I can't do it, because my hair will start falling out.. ???!! I mean, they're constantly putting my weight loss down. They won't even buy healthy food for the kitchen, and when I buy it, they eat it. They ate a whole week worth of my food in 2 days. My mother lost 186 pounds in 3 months.. no joke. She went on the "Green Tea" diet. Of course she gained it all back though, but it was because of my Dad forcing her to eat. Anyway, folks, I've reached a point in my goal to lose weight where I just feel disgusted. I hate looking in the mirror and I hate the fact that I let myself get so fcking fat.
Congrats on losing what you have so far! That's a lot of weight to losing in a month. The first answer might be right that your parents just don't want you to become obsessed with it and take extreme measures. Your mom losing 186 pounds in 3 months is NOT healthy.
Of course losing weight doesn't make your hair fall out if you do it in a reasonable healthy manner. Bullemia can cause that, so don't go there... Obviously you have the motivation but take it slowly. If you want to hit your ideal weight of 150-160 2-4 months should be a reasonable timeframe to do it in. Don't starve yourself or crash diet, get into a good workout schedule and make sure your intake of calories doesn't excede your output. Be aware that any diet changes you make will be wasted if you just go back to the same diet you had when you first gained that weight.
The more extreme the method you use to lose weight increases the chance of gaining it back. If you have a hard time keeping healthy food around then you might have to work with what you do have and also talk to your dad very frankly about the fact that your trying to look after your health and lose weight and he's hampering you. But the biggest thing here is to watch your calories and start exercising. Being depressed will hold you back. Look at your goal. Let the progress you've already made make you happy, and good luck :)
Maybe your parents are being over protective due to the fact that they don't want you to take extremes to lose the weight.
I would sit down with them and tell them that it is an issue for you. It is causing you to become depressed and that you don't want to get so worried about it that it causes you to take extremes (anorexia, bulimia). Tell them that you would like to see a doctor, or maybe even join a gym and get a personal trainer. Although a personal trainer isn't a doctor, they will help you get into shape, exercise, eat healthier, and possibly lose the weight you wish to.
Maybe do some research of your own about some things that way they take you seriously when you go to discuss it.
Good luck hun.
that's really bad your parents aren't encouraging you to lose weight, you would think they would given that your previous weight of 216.
Have you tried talking to them and explaining to them your health is at risk if you don't lose weight? Well on the weight loss so far and best of luck (but don't go too mad and end up too skinny!)
you should be proud that you lost almost 40 pounds. why don't you put your food in your room. (the stuff that doesn't need to be refrigerated)
i think it is very sad that your parents aren't supporting you.
its like they feel better about themselves when you are down about yourself. i wish i could tell you more but i haven't been in your shoes and i wouldn't know what it would be like to have parents like that but stay strong.
Get a therapist and check your BMI online. If your normal, you ARE normal. You do not want to become anorexic, which I think you are sort of going into. A lot of people deny being anorexic, but if your depressed about your weight then yeah you are going to be anorexic.
Ok, I know that this is an extremely sensitive subject, one that I have acutally delt with myself. The question is, are you just wanting to be skinnier? Or do you want to have a healthier lifestyle? You can get skinny without being healthy, but you can lose weight by trying to live a healthier life. If you try to work towards a healthier life (which includes internal health as well as external looks) sometimes people (this may be your parents) are more likely to be supportive. I can't even begin to tell you the internal trauma I went through when I got sick. Yeah, I'm lots healthier now and I have kept weight off, but thats also because I became very aware of what I was eating and what I was asking my body to do.
Start with some goals, and work that way. Maybe quit drinking soda and go walking three times a week, just to start. If your parents start questioning again, let them know that your only goal is not to lose weight, but to be a healthier person in general.
I think your hair falls out if you're bulimic or you barely eating
oh my gosh, i feel so bad! if you want to be thin do it for yourself,not because you want people to like you. I think you should see a counselor before you hurt yourself. Stop blaming yourself, people are addicted to food the same way they're addicted to drugs its a strong addiction to kick and you need love and support to get better.
As long as you do it in a healthy way, you will not get sick or lose your hair from loosing weight. Your parents aren't being supportive enough but I'm sure, in their own little way, they're only trying to do what's best for you. Can I just say how great I think it is that you're so motivated. To go from 216 to 180 in such a short space of time is very commendable. I salute you! You want to eat healthy food and you are trying and that's an amazing start. Here's what you need to do...
First of all, work with what you can in the kitchen. I know you'll have water, so make sure you drink at least 3 liters a day to flush out the fatty toxins and help you lose weight. Don't buy food and put it in the kitchen. Buy things that you can keep in your room like high fiber cereal, nuts, crackers- anything that doesn't need to be kept cool. Buy a big bowl and loads of fruit- especially apples, oranges and grapes. Keep this in your room as well.
Tell your parents that unless they make you healthy meals- you won't be eating their food. Anytime they refuse- head down to a deli and get yourself a healthy meal. Hopefully they'll soon get the message and realise that it's bad for your health for you to be overweight.
Make sure you're exercising as well. Three cardio workouts every week to burn off excess fat.
But as much as your attitude towards losing weight is amazing, your attitude towards yourself is terrible. I can totally understand why you feel disgusting. Trust me- I've been there! But you need a new perspective. The weight isn't going to disappear overnight and until you've reached your goal weight- those mirrors are still going to be there, showing you a version of yourself that you don't like. My advice is to stand in front of a mirror naked (second time I've suggested this on here tonight. lol) and jiggle yourself around and laugh. It's just a bit of extra weight! You don't have a fatal disease! Don't be so serious when it comes to your body. Remember, the more you weight, the easier it is to lose weight. Hope this helps!
hey fat girls do it better lol
Well, I'm impressed with you. You are doing very well. That is marvelous. Eat healthy, exercise and talk to people who are supportive. You are doing great!!!!!!!!!
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