Why can't i control my bad thinking of boyfriend??????!
Question: hello my name is troy my boyfriend tristan is having the promblem not me..... me n him talked last night n he told me he loves me more then anyone he ever love..... and he has bad thought about me...... he cant control his bad thinking about me. im not doing nothing bad i love him with all i have the thinking is that i doing simthing behind his back..... he said he never had theses bad thinking about anyone eles just for me why? wat does it mean? im real i dont play games..... i met him in aug of 2007. he is my life. i wounder how i can help him to. he is geting really worried for no reason why. his exs treat him like **** n i came along i been treating him like my king hehe. there is not reason for him to feel like this. n also he has been pushing me away why is that? im 22 n he is 27 PLZ HELP ME
Answers: hello my name is troy my boyfriend tristan is having the promblem not me..... me n him talked last night n he told me he loves me more then anyone he ever love..... and he has bad thought about me...... he cant control his bad thinking about me. im not doing nothing bad i love him with all i have the thinking is that i doing simthing behind his back..... he said he never had theses bad thinking about anyone eles just for me why? wat does it mean? im real i dont play games..... i met him in aug of 2007. he is my life. i wounder how i can help him to. he is geting really worried for no reason why. his exs treat him like **** n i came along i been treating him like my king hehe. there is not reason for him to feel like this. n also he has been pushing me away why is that? im 22 n he is 27 PLZ HELP ME
omg!! ur situation is almost like mind...my boyfriend is 29 i'm 22..and he use 2 always have dreams that i was cheating on him wen i'm not i love 2 da death..all his other ex's cheated on him...all it is..is he is insecure about wat his ex's did to him so your boyfriend thinks ur gonna do the same..so i guess u can say he's preparing for the worse..u have to tell him that he has to forgive wat those horrible people did to him or he will continue takeing it out on u...he's having bad thoughts cuz he loves u so much...he thinks its to good to be true.. or He's pushing you away because he doesn't want to be hurt again...nothing much you can do about this unless he is willing to go to joint counseling. He is terribly insecure due to his past, which is an issue that won't go away until he faces it and deals with it instead of ignoring it. This is NOT to do with you, it is to do with his own sense of loss and fear of repeating the past.
He's pushing you away because he doesn't want to be hurt again...nothing much you can do about this unless he is willing to go to joint counseling. He is terribly insecure due to his past, which is an issue that won't go away until he faces it and deals with it instead of ignoring it. This is NOT to do with you, it is to do with his own sense of loss and fear of repeating the past.
First understand that he has the problem, not you. He needs counseling with a professional. If he won't get counseling and you stay with him, he will make your life miserable. You have to decide if you want a man that is so jealous.
He does have a problem,not you.I couldn't put up with a person who says they love me & at the same time basically say ican't be trusted.That doesn't make sense.If you really love someone then trust comes with it,unless you have solid proof that they can't be trusted.He does need help & not yours.He doesn't listen to you already.Watch out for stalkers down the road!