I get nervous whenever I have to talk......?!
Question: im 16. all of this stuff started happening when i moved to my new school 2 years ago..
im constantly nervous at school..i don't know why.
i don't like participating in class if i have to participate i get kinda shaky, my hands sweat like crazy, and my voice might quaver a bit.
i am absolutely fine when talking to 1 or 2 people at once but when there is alot of people in a room, for example, in class, i am nervous the whole time.
this started when i moved to a new town and lost all my former friends- i moved when i was 13, i am now 16, and this is all happening every day at school. i don't know what to do.
i always am so stressed at school.
whats wrong with me?
Answers: im 16. all of this stuff started happening when i moved to my new school 2 years ago..
im constantly nervous at school..i don't know why.
i don't like participating in class if i have to participate i get kinda shaky, my hands sweat like crazy, and my voice might quaver a bit.
i am absolutely fine when talking to 1 or 2 people at once but when there is alot of people in a room, for example, in class, i am nervous the whole time.
this started when i moved to a new town and lost all my former friends- i moved when i was 13, i am now 16, and this is all happening every day at school. i don't know what to do.
i always am so stressed at school.
whats wrong with me?
I had this too.
You have social anxiety, due to a new environment. It's normal, but for your heart to beat fast and for you to be out of breath, should not be happening.
Maybe see a therapist. You shouldn't have to feel this way. You're too young.
I waited for 10 years until I finally got medication and in small doses and with exercise, I seem to be doing okay.
Your probably just dont want people to laugh at you or make comments. You like to be comfortable with people. Just try to give it your best shot. Overcome your sweatyness and raise your hand or jump up to volunteer. If you continually do that you will become more open. And people should have no reason to make fun of you! So be proud of yourself!
Nothing is wrong with you....you are suffering from simple anxiety. You just need to build up some confidence and slowly try and speak up in class. You have to realize that most people feel the same way as you...that should help. Even in the workplace adults feel the same way when having to stand up and speak to a group of people...did you know it is the #1 fear of most adults (even beats fear of dying!!). It is perfectly normal to feel the way you do. It just takes time and practice to become more comfortable speaking up in class.
sounds like social anxiety.
View the techniques for control of panic attacks, in section 8, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Begin by holding your breath for 5, or 10 seconds: this will give you the confidence to realise that YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR BREATHING, but not pass out, or die (your autonomic nervous system resumes breathing, if unconscious). Understand panic attacks, and what triggers them, in your life (if it is unresolved anxiety, see section 6). The paper bag method works for most people: try it. If you are fairly suggestible, the following are reliable: http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/
Your last alternative is psychotherapy, to address its fundamental cause: read section 1, and examine the http://www.1-800-therapist.org/ website, and use the locators, and phone book. I used to suffer from panic attacks, until I questioned what had changed recently in my life, to trigger them? I suggest that you learn, then practise the controlled breathing technique, until competent, then employ it, at the very first sign of a panic attack. SOCIAL ANXIETY: One solution is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It will endear others to you, if you don't do it too often. See social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior.
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit.
Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. Good Luck! SOCIAL ANXIETY: One solution is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It will endear others to you, if you don't do it too often. See social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior.
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit.
Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. Good Luck!