I have anger problems and need help controlling it. Any suggestions yahoo answer!
Question: Its usually only my boyfriend who gets me so upset that my heart starts beating fast and I fell my pulse and breathing is difficult, I feel this total heaviness in my chest. The anger dosent get better unless I totally yell at him and let it out. Usually I end up saying, "Just leave and get out of our house, go stay with your friends..." ect I really dont want him to leave its just that I am so mad at the time that I react without even thinking and say things taht I dont mean. Do you have any suggestions yahoo answers?
Answers: Its usually only my boyfriend who gets me so upset that my heart starts beating fast and I fell my pulse and breathing is difficult, I feel this total heaviness in my chest. The anger dosent get better unless I totally yell at him and let it out. Usually I end up saying, "Just leave and get out of our house, go stay with your friends..." ect I really dont want him to leave its just that I am so mad at the time that I react without even thinking and say things taht I dont mean. Do you have any suggestions yahoo answers?
Gee, he knows how to push your buttons doesn't he. What better way to get out of the house, and have an excuse to do stupid things, then to start a fight with your girlfriend, and have her throw you out. That has been going on for years and years, and you are allowing it to happen. Did you ever think about just sitting there and not arguing and see what happens then? Smile, kill em with kindness, then you aren't the bad guy, in fact you are in control of your destiny.
Therapy or an anger management course or a book about anger management
i have the same problem it's not as bad now..i use to take it out on my sister hitting her ect. i dont really know how i got it to die down sum..i just started trying to be nice to her.and when ever she got me mad i woudl just go sum where else and start yelling out loud
Seeing a Psychologist to talk about this would be good for starters. Sometimes we can't control ourselves and our anger festers and boils and we explode. I would talk to a pro and see what they suggest. Maybe it might take medication. Best of luck to you.
share your problems to your close friends letting it all in won't do anything good
get help from a professional now. my husband has anger issues and it really sux living with him sometimes. it is bad for my self esteem and his behavior is abusive at times
Search for the answer in ZEN. Free the mind. The Goal: To have no expectations. This is not to disconnect you to the world, but to see beyond yourself and beyond your emotions.
Emotions are actions from perceptions. To see action for what they are, is to separate your self from the stimulus. To have no expectation is to have no disappointments.
Yield To Force: Just as water moves between your fingers as you try to hold it. Belike the water as something or someone tries to hold your emotions or body. Fine the peace in your mind to find peace in your world ~S
When u say.. u have a anger problem and need help controlling it ..
u are saying ..... U r out of controll !!!
and being out of control of the situation.. means u have no control over it..
in that case ..
U need to let go of it.. and move on.
good luck