How do i cope with all the stress?!
Question: I lost my mum recently,both my parents are no longer here.
Since mum died i'm having financial difficulties and the rent is very expensive.
I had a miscarriage recently and it's making me very depressed,it was the only thing i had to look forward to.
My bf has talked about working abroad,he's waiting for an interview so i may lose him soon.
I'm stuck in a dead end job but dont have motivation to change it.
My life is getting me down big time and nothing seems to get better,i'm going on holiday next week and it's the only thing keeping me going at the mo but i will still have to come back to my problems,what am i going to do?
Answers: I lost my mum recently,both my parents are no longer here.
Since mum died i'm having financial difficulties and the rent is very expensive.
I had a miscarriage recently and it's making me very depressed,it was the only thing i had to look forward to.
My bf has talked about working abroad,he's waiting for an interview so i may lose him soon.
I'm stuck in a dead end job but dont have motivation to change it.
My life is getting me down big time and nothing seems to get better,i'm going on holiday next week and it's the only thing keeping me going at the mo but i will still have to come back to my problems,what am i going to do?
Step 1: Stop focusing on how bad things are. Look to the good.
Step 2: You have been hit with a lot of hardships, and grieving is necessary, but you do need to realize living in the depressed state of mind will only keep you down. There is a time when it is necessary to move on.
Step 3: Work towards a goal. Instead of focusing on all the bad, put your efforts on making something better. Work towards establishing a career, volunteering, etc... anything that will give you a feeling of fulfillment.
Step 4: Only you will eliminate the stress. Nobody will magically wave their hand and do it for you. In order to change, you need to motivate yourself. Otherwise the stress will take its toll.
This is my advice, best of luck in your future!
get counseling, they can help
i have stress to but i am 13 with parents....sucks that ur mom died, if you have an apartment you should get a buddy to help you ith rent and get a counsolar to help you alittle bit
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I'm guessing you might be in the UK? try going to the public health system. Antidepressants may help. Tough times.
try counseling or prayer
Sorry things are tough for you. Good Luck
Ok..First off..I'm sorry for the stuff you're going through : /
It has to suck..majorly.
But you can get through all of it. What you're doing right now is thinking " there so much going on I can't handle all of this"
That's fine, you dont need to. Take it one thing at a time. The first thing i would do, is look for a roommate, because you might need some help paying for the rent. Maybe a friend could use some help too, that way, you'd also have someone to cheer you up if you feel upset about your mom, or..other things..
Then, I would look into another job. You may not want to, but you know, another job may mean more pay, which means less trouble with the rent. Hey, 2 birds with one stone.
.....That's a gruesome saying : /
The boyfriend thing..that would be hard..but there really isn't much you can do about it. Hey, there is still the possibility he won't want it.
If he does,, then, there's still a chance He won't get the job, right? It's not bad to wish he doesn't get it.
Hey! You both could look for new jobs together! that'd be 3 birds with one stone!
...i have to stop using that phrase..poor birds
Listen to your fave song first off. Then slowly realize what you are going to do w/ your life and start to make necesary changes. You'll cheer up eventually, just make sure that you are optimistic about every thing. Your mom is in a better place. There is always someone that cares for you that can support you. You can always have another child. You can see your bf on the days that he is off work. Those are the things you should think about to make your life less stressful and more happy
If you want peace and happiness, accept what is. If you want stress, keep on resisting.
Peace and happiness aren't a result of the best conditions.
If you knew better than I, you'd be happy, thus trust what I say.... Let everything be as it is, starting with yourself.
....this won't be instant.