I get depressed everytime I go clubbing?!?!
Question: Everytime I go clubbing I always find my self at certain times feeling depressed. i feel very sad inside and i tend to zone out, and day dream. When i dance i dont get it, but when I go to the bar to get a drink, or sit down, or walk around.. i start getting sad. on the way home in the car i feel sad.
now i am a very confident girl and i am very secure. i just cant seem to understand why i feel this way at certain times when im out clubbing. i should be enjoying myself! i should be happy! yet i feel this way.. am i not mean to be there? am i gettin depression? please help people!
Answers: Everytime I go clubbing I always find my self at certain times feeling depressed. i feel very sad inside and i tend to zone out, and day dream. When i dance i dont get it, but when I go to the bar to get a drink, or sit down, or walk around.. i start getting sad. on the way home in the car i feel sad.
now i am a very confident girl and i am very secure. i just cant seem to understand why i feel this way at certain times when im out clubbing. i should be enjoying myself! i should be happy! yet i feel this way.. am i not mean to be there? am i gettin depression? please help people!
We as social beings are seeking something to fulfill us. You are subconsciously realizing that the enjoyment you seek is not found in these places of "fun and wild times". The bar and club scene is not what it is all cracked up to be. Are you looking for Mr Right? If so, that is the wrong place. Good times of sex, party, and rock and roll, if at all, are only temporary fixes.
You are not suffering from depression. Clinical depression is defined not by itemized feelings of uncertainty, as is this case of yours. I believe that you are seeking for socializing, seeking to unwind and fit into what society says is fulfilling, I mean it is what we see the stars do, right?
But what we don't see are the negatives of such lifestyles, and to be brutally honest, what we need from another is not found if him/her if they are found at a bar.
You are not meant to be there if your conscience is laying a trip on you.
Find another means for socializing, plan dinner parties with your friends. Go to the movies instead, (be careful there too), go back to night class at a local college, and either continue education or study a foreign language, etcetera.
You feel sad and depressed because you are not finding what your soul is seeking for. A purposeful meaning outside of the hip-hop reverberating bass, or the woe is me in the bootscoot.
Pascal said that in the soul of man there is a God shaped void, (paraphrased). I find this to be true when I was a party highlifer. I mean all of the smoke, all of the drunks, and all of those slobbering to get laid. Come on, life is deeper. It is designed that way. Life is rough and tumble, so we must find a way to unwind. So, unwind. However, not in that way anymore. I believe that you are discovering that clubbing is not your way to unwind.
Curl up with a novel, light the fireplace, find peace within yourself, get comfortable with yourself, not implying that you aren't, but we can all get closer to ourselves and pamper ourselves to get to the place where we need to be. And that place is at peace and intune with ourselves. Not running from our nuances and tics and seeking the ideal of what society lays enroute for us, or says "this is the way to do it".
Are you single? Are you looking for a meaningful man to enter into your life, have you finished college? Are you satisfied with your career? Are you seeking the Living God? Are you a Christian?
Especially, with the last to if you are doing or being those, then you are out of place there. You are better than that lifestyle, and are feeling a prescence of conscience trying to reveal to you....YOU CAN AND MUST DO BETTER.
Godspeed.
Of course you do. Nightclubs can be depressing places. They're meat markets and there's something inherently unsatisfying about them. Unless you're there to celebrate a specific occasion, like a birthday or a raise, just "going" can be a downer. Maybe try hanging out in other places to meet people, like Barnes & Noble. I know, but hey I tried.
It sounds like deep down inside you know you're not meant to be there. Sounds like you need something a little deeper in your life than just drinking and dancing...
How much do you drink when you go out? Alcohol can make you feel depressed. I know that when i would go out a party and drink I would feel emotionally depressed, not just hung over, for a few days. I started to realize it was from the alcohol. Also maybe if the music is trancy it mike bring yu down as it acts like a maditative instrument. Trancy, rave type music puts me to sleep because of the mrepetitive beat. Maybe you should not go to clubs, why go to something that makes you feel bad. If you like to dance maybe go to a dance class instead or a hip hop class at a gym.
What you're looking for is not in the club scene. You answered your own question. You feel better when you dance, but sad at being there and afterwards. Why not excercise to music or join someplace to do areobics? You probably are reacting to the alcohol, unless you don't drink. Anyway the social aspect of the club can be replicated in a healthy way as well as keeping the high energy you like. Good luck