I love him, what should I do?!
Question: Should I go back with him? how stop being dependent?
break up with him & was very harsh. Right before christmas. I repeat many times that I was not going back. I was hurt cause I discovered he was unfaithful to me again (ciber sex) and I felt he didnt understand how much it hurt me and I didint see consistent effort to from his part.
He promessed me as many other times that he will stop. But I didnt belive him and I break up. He told me he didnt want to break up.
After a week, I read and though about it, and realize I did wrong.Now I want to be back with him. I want to support him. He said he needs time because he feels resentment towards me for the way everything happened and he said it will take time to stop and he will probably fall again so he dosent want to go back because he does not want to hurt me.
He lv me, and I lv him. I dont want to be judgamental or pressure him any more, I want to support him to get out of the addiction (pornografy). I just really love this guy and think it was worth another try?
Answers: Should I go back with him? how stop being dependent?
break up with him & was very harsh. Right before christmas. I repeat many times that I was not going back. I was hurt cause I discovered he was unfaithful to me again (ciber sex) and I felt he didnt understand how much it hurt me and I didint see consistent effort to from his part.
He promessed me as many other times that he will stop. But I didnt belive him and I break up. He told me he didnt want to break up.
After a week, I read and though about it, and realize I did wrong.Now I want to be back with him. I want to support him. He said he needs time because he feels resentment towards me for the way everything happened and he said it will take time to stop and he will probably fall again so he dosent want to go back because he does not want to hurt me.
He lv me, and I lv him. I dont want to be judgamental or pressure him any more, I want to support him to get out of the addiction (pornografy). I just really love this guy and think it was worth another try?
Addictions are difficult to overcome but it is possible. Unfortunately, success rates are low. It takes complete dedication and a willingness to completely change the way you think about things. It takes dedication to a spiritual way of life. There are organizations out there where he....and you....can get help. He with his addictions and you for the problems it has caused you. Whether you stay with him or not is something only you can decide, but you need to take a good look at your situation and pray fervently about it. I speak from experience having an addictive personality. I've overcome a great deal and am living a useful and fairly happy life now and have been for many years, but it took losing all that was near and dear to me to get me to the point that I would do something about it. There is hope, just be very careful.
i've never been through this but i'll give it a shot ..
you don't necessarily have to be WITH him but, if you still want to support this guy, you can. and if he is willing to stop, you can probably consider comming back together .
Firstly your mean, you dumped a guy for CYBER SEX???? God your crazy hows that unfaithful..... Its not even physical contact? Your nuts. You need help.
omg step out and take a look in. did you really say that you realized that you had done wrong??? WAKE UP! im all about giving people the benefit of the doubt but this to me is just cut and dry. what are your friends saying about it?? your family?? you need to cut your losses and move on girl! i can tell you from personal experience that if he is having cybersex that is is more than likely having "real sex" with other people too. add does not make you cheat on people. open your eyes. stay out while your out. end it. dont go back. hes probably having sex with someone else right now. im not trying to be mean but from what you say - this is not a good relationship and im sure you deserve better than that. there are good guys out there. dont be afraid to be alone. you wont be alone forever. love DOES NOT conquer all.
It sounds like he has an addiction to pornography. Do you see other indications of it ( magazines, pictures, etc,)? Even if it is "just on the Internet" its still an addiction. it usually gets worse with out help, counseling etc. And, yes, people, one can have a "cyber affair".and an "emotional affair". As one who has had to decide to stay or leave a husband with this problem (there were other probs too),you have my sympathy. Only you can decide what u can live with. I believe you can find some one better who respects you AND loves you.
You can support him in his efforts to stop his addiction, but not stay with him.
Also ADD doesn't cause this problem.
Good luck !!
i agree with kerrina, you should not go back to him. He has done it many times and he will do it again, there is a limit to how many times you should give a person a chance. Support him and forget about your relationship with him. After a yr or longer, you would actually know how you feel about him and what it is that you should do.