My type of thinking is ruining my life?!
Question: Overall I can't stop thinking about great moments in the past and I'm always wanting to make every moment now a good memory. I do this so much I feel miserable right now because something bad just happened and now I get the feeling that if I think about this time of the year - my great holiday and all - when I look back on it in the future it will be spoiled by one bad memory.
Someone please help me, this is making me miserable.
Answers: Overall I can't stop thinking about great moments in the past and I'm always wanting to make every moment now a good memory. I do this so much I feel miserable right now because something bad just happened and now I get the feeling that if I think about this time of the year - my great holiday and all - when I look back on it in the future it will be spoiled by one bad memory.
Someone please help me, this is making me miserable.
You should come to the realization that life is transient. Nothing stays permanent. The only certainty is death. There will always be changes, good times, difficult times, happy moments and sad moments....this is just what life is all about. For your past good memories, be grateful for them. For past bad memories, take it to be learning lessons.
The only thing that matters the most is this current moment. Only if you pay attention to "what-is", can you have the ability to be truly happy. This means that you are grateful for all the things that you have. There is no regret (relates to the past) nor is there any worry (relates to the future).
In this current moment, you also have the ability to change your future. So waste not this current moment but seize every opportunity to make it the best that you can.
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hey i can relate, the key? well (and i know alot of people say this) dont think about it, thinking about life makes most people miserable, realize that the past has good and bad memories, but they made u who u are, they are apart of u so accept them... as to the future, if u want change then change, stop thinking "i wish i did this, ect" ACTUALLY DO IT!!!! and dont worry the past will NEVER ruin the future, its ur past so its up to u on how its gonna affect u... hey take it from someone who a crapy past, move on and dont let it drag u down, if u want a happy future, why are u living in the past? let it go, let it die... go and be happy, its all in ur hands, now do something about it, k?
Go back and reread what you have written. See any pattern there? You are expecting everything to be an event. Life does have events but you have to live the day to day first so the events can be handled good or bad. Not saying you shouldn't have happy memories but those are just the cake that makes the disappointments easier to handle. Take a few slower steps and find the peace in living with the normal days... there is always something to be grateful for... and realize that moving forward is the only way you can live.