I have never experienced an orgasm. What is wrong?!
Question:
I have never experienced an orgasm. What is wrong?
I like my boyfriend, i love him to death and we are about to get married. He does get me excited. I love it when he touches me and the first 5 penetrations but then everything becomes a bore. What is the problem??? Serious answers only
Answers:
More foreplay . . . self-stimulation . . .
When you say you have never experienced orgasm does this include masturbation and wet dreams? If so then you need to make/take time when you are alone to explore your own body. Get to know how it feels/works. Spend thirty minutes doing this three times a week, simply touching yourself everywhere. See what feels good, sensitive. Smell and taste yourself. Learn your body intimately. Look at yourself in a mirror. Etc.
Do kiegel exercises. These will strengthen your internal muscles and help you to achieve orgasm. This will also intensify your experience when you do have an orgasm. Do ten slow ones, holding for 3 seconds and releasing. Then do ten quick ones. Do this five times for a total of 100 squeezes. (BTW, men should do this as well as it helps them to maintain longer erections.)
If you are able to bring yourself to orgasm then it is probably a problem with not enough foreplay. Have a contest to see which of you can hold out the longest. Tease one another until you just can't take it anymore and one of you begs the other to start now. The winner (the one who didn't beg) gets to have the loser do afterplay until he/she says done.
Also certain positions will allow you to play with yourself during intercourse. Or allow him to stimulate your clitoris. Either way, you may not experience vaginal orgasms as intensely as clitoral ones and if you can explore ways to stimluate the clitoris during intercourse it will help you both to enjoy the experience.