Why couldn't I do it?!

they are not under age, in the uk you must be 16 or over.

So you are a virgin, this is the problem, your hym is there stopping the penis or anything going in.I know it is painful for you. Ok what you can do is masterbate, i know for a girl you find it wierd if you dont already, but if you can loosen yourself up or know what feels right then you can then go for it with him. Also, you need lubrication, even if you are turned on, because that way it will be alot easyier. Try doing running or sports, anything to tear your hym, do you use tampons, many girls do not know they split thier hym when they use tampons. Start with your pinky finger and move on up, small is best for you, after a while when it feels comftable move to the next. But slow and steady. When he cant find your hole it is normal, what he should do is instead of looking for it and then putting his penis there, just aim the penis in the area and it will find the way, but go really REALLY slow ok, because it will hurt you a bit and be abit saw at first.

If you are not lubricated enough this could be the problem and try using water-based lubricant from the store. If you have never looked at your vagina, I recommend using a mirror to look around down there. It is possible you have a hymen that's shape gets in the way or you may have two vaginas (which is not very uncommon according to my gyno). It is also possible you have a condition known as vaginsmus that tightens the vaginal walls. All of these are fixed by visiting your gyno.

YOU are under the LEGAL age to give INFORMED consent even if you both say you WANT IT (Yes I know, they ALL do it at that age). However, HE is GUILTY of STATUTORY RAPE--and can get 20 years in jail. Is it worth the risk ? Only YOU can decide this.

my father was a judge

hang in there, chum. its all downhill from here...

Everyone normal wants the privileges of marriage. But entering into the privileges without taking the responsibility for securing a committed relationship means the relationship may be a much greater pain than it is a pleasure.

I believe it is easier to mess up a relationship than to build a good one. So if you must have sex then go to the doctor, get birth control and an exam. They will normally break your hymen for you so that the first time he is intimate with you it will not hurt so bad.

How do you know this man is committed to you? If you give him the marriage privileges then he may wonder how many other you also gave yourself to and is less likely to remain committed to you. One way of building commitment is to refrain from marriage privileges before marriage. Then the relationship must be built on character rather than on physical passion and one rung of commitment is built into the relationship from the start.

However you can still built commitment into the relationship by telling him you could be pregnant (do this test before you actually are) and if he sticks with you then you have built a committed man. If he leaves - it is better now than when you actually do have a child. I'm sure you understand.

Building the emotional factors into a relationship take ordinary relationship into a greater plane. But if the emotional factors cannot be built into the relationship then the plane will crash and few survive plane crashes very well. So build the commitment into the relationship and see whether the relationship is really love or just passion. If it is love he will stick by you and sex will then have more meaning than just a pleasure trip

And if he is saying "if you loved me you would, or you love me so you will do this.. or I love you so let's do this - all of these are a way of suggesting you do things against your better judgment. When he really loves you he will want everyone to know, especially your parents.

Mom of four, RN