Is it ok not to have more than one round of sex each time?!
Question: my boyfriend and i never have more than "one round" of sex per go. rarely will we do it twice in the same day. he says he used to do that when he was younger (teenager) because he only had limited time to see a girlfriend, but since now he and i live together, it's not like a "limited time only" thing so the need isnt so urgent. i guess he means, i am always here since we live together so he or i can get it whenever we want, more or less...
is it abnormal that ive never had sex with him for more than one round at a time? weve been together 4 yrs! i feel like im missing out. :(
Answers: my boyfriend and i never have more than "one round" of sex per go. rarely will we do it twice in the same day. he says he used to do that when he was younger (teenager) because he only had limited time to see a girlfriend, but since now he and i live together, it's not like a "limited time only" thing so the need isnt so urgent. i guess he means, i am always here since we live together so he or i can get it whenever we want, more or less...
is it abnormal that ive never had sex with him for more than one round at a time? weve been together 4 yrs! i feel like im missing out. :(
Now first off I'm comming at you from a psychological stand point and I think I see three underlying issues here:
You're not getting to orgasm, or they're minor at best.
You're not satisfied with your sex life.
You want to find ways to spice things up a bit.
If none of those apply then screw whats "normal". If you're getting some and enjoying it then more power to you. - Thats normal.
Remember sex is not about some routine you do like chore. Sex is fun, its play. Just because you only have "one round" doesn't mean it can't be enjoyable. Try to incorperate maybe role playing or sex toys and especially foreplay. And if you have the time don't be in any rush. You have to let the turkey bake in the oven you know, you can just flash fry it and call it KFC ;-)
you should try it...my bf and i did every once in a while...it gets tiring though!
It's not weird or wrong. However, I would recommend for some real hot and heavy passion to have a day where you dedicate 3-5 hours just to sex with multiple sessions.
IF your sexually satisifed i don't see why it matters.
No, I don't think you're weird. My husband has never been able to have sex for more than one round, and rarely twice in the same week.
I was disappointed for a while but then grew to accept that he's different from me with different expectations (not to mention his high-pressure job with crazy hours).
If the sex is good, be thankful you're at least getting sex! And don't compare yourself to whatever you read about in magazines. Real people don't have time to devote hours to sex.
It is not abnormal. Some guys physically can't - that is not a dig on men either. It is true for many, and it is normal. Don't make him feel bad about it. Don't get hung up on what he could do as a teenager...most guys can do some superhuman sex at that age and as they get older some can't do that anymore. Once a day is a GOOD THING! If you have not tried enticing him physically for round two (not talking about it), then do so. Or he he just can't...and you would like sex again the same day then there are other ways he can pleasure you alone and who knows....in the act of pleasuring you he may just get his second wind!
4 years - congratulations!!!!!
maybe try not getting to the finish line so quick make him wait for it with a long slow foreplay.......spice things up some get some sexy undies and that will also make you feel confident and him drool. maybe just change things around some so its not so every day stuff. or get him a trial pack of Viagra that way he will want more try talking to him to that should help
there's simply no "right number" of rounds of sex .... but there is "enough" and "not enough" ... your "missing out" comment with a frown says you're sexually frustrated? or that you want to be doing what everyone else is doing?
Forget "what everyone else is doing" if that's the problem; only a few of them are actually doing what they say they're doing anyway ....
But if you're sexually frustrated that could possibly get to be a problem ... the first thing I'd do is get off of any "sex schedule" and stop counting the number of times that you "do it" ... when you're feeling in the mood, just do something about it ... of course only you can know what the something is with your BF ... and what your're comfortable with ... I don't think we need to inventory the many, many ways to get a guy interested, do we?
There's one other thing I notice here ... you didn't say whether your once-a-day sex was good or not ... is it? if not, time to think about things and what to do to make it better
the other thing you might ponder is whether it's more sex you want and need or the feeling of being desired sexually ... once a day like clockwork may be leaving you feeling more like a stage prop than the object of his affection, lust and passion ....