Rough sex during sleep?!
Question: I'm not sure what to think about the sex I had last night.
After not having sex for 2 years, I finally had sex last night.
I was sleeping and he did it sideways with my back turned to him.
The only problem is-- I wasn't sure he knew I was half awake and he was so forceful that I bled a little.
I'm used to sex being more participatory with maybe having me on top (the only position where I can orgasm).
Please help me figure out what to make out of this. I feel a little disturbed.
Answers: I'm not sure what to think about the sex I had last night.
After not having sex for 2 years, I finally had sex last night.
I was sleeping and he did it sideways with my back turned to him.
The only problem is-- I wasn't sure he knew I was half awake and he was so forceful that I bled a little.
I'm used to sex being more participatory with maybe having me on top (the only position where I can orgasm).
Please help me figure out what to make out of this. I feel a little disturbed.
If it was rough, I am assuming he figured you were awake. It doesnt sound like he was trying to sneak one in.
Why did you not have sex for 2 years and then the first time it's while you were sleeping?
I mean a husband and wife sure, the husband might hit it a bunch of times while she's sleeping and she not care at all. But the first time you have sex with someone? or the first time in two years? while you're asleep? that seems kinda odd
if you were half awake why didn't you stop him if he was hurting you???
That's totally wrong if you were asleep.
i think you need to talk to him about this as we all can go thr a stage where we do sleep sex, but you both need to talk about it, and make sure he was asleep before you go shouting at him about how much it hurt/ etc etc
omg i would feel a bit used and violated, he didnt know if you were awake or not and still went ahead with it, this hun can be classed as rape as you didnt consent, i dont know if you can talk to him and say how ya feel and that he hurt you and not ever to do that again or if you want to take it further i dont know tuff call, my partner tends to wake me up for sex but he knows im awake as i will kiss him if i wasnt awake he wouldnt dare,many times ive nt wanted to and he tries to wake me and i pretend to be asleep and he just rolls over and gives up so im a bit concerened that this guy did that
Okay.....I would say you were raped since you did not give consent (there are all forms, and this would constitute as aquaintance rape), but since you were half awake and didn't give any form of objection, I cannot say anything.
If you feel a little disturbed by what he did, then honey - you should have said something to him!!!!
Bring this up to him in conversation the next time you see him. Don't just drop hints, come out and say it. You could prevent this from happening again.