Sexual child abuse, help please?!
Question: Sexual child abuse, help please!?
This is a little hard to talk about but here goes
I was sexually abused as a child but I didn't know exactly what was happening at the time, all I knew was that I had to keep it secret!. My abuser was someone very close to me who I still know and am close to!. I'm not sure how much of this (ongoing) abuse they are aware of it and I do NOT want to ask them about it!. I felt guilty for a long time about this, and then some how forgot it!. I seemed to have blocked it out of my mind!. Now that I remember it all and see how it has affected me, (strange reactions to sexuality and sexual references and stuff) I want to do something about it but I don't know how to handle it!.
I'd love some help on any of this, thanks :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I was sexually abused as a child but I didn't know exactly what was happening at the time, all I knew was that I had to keep it secret!. My abuser was someone very close to me who I still know and am close to!. I'm not sure how much of this (ongoing) abuse they are aware of it and I do NOT want to ask them about it!. I felt guilty for a long time about this, and then some how forgot it!. I seemed to have blocked it out of my mind!. Now that I remember it all and see how it has affected me, (strange reactions to sexuality and sexual references and stuff) I want to do something about it but I don't know how to handle it!.
I'd love some help on any of this, thanks :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
HELLO-You have so many answers I'm not sure if you'll get to mine, but I feel compelled to give some suggestions!. I have counseled women for over 20 yrs at this point, abused women, dual diagnosis, substance abuse and legal!. Plus I have worked on the Hotline for several years in St Louis!.
The abuser aways threatens us in someway to keep it a secret-that's how they remain free for so long!.
It must be very painful to be in contact with your abuser!.
We do tend to bury the abuse after awhile, but we don't bury it dead, we bury it alive with all types of feelings and issues coursing through us until we deal with these buried issues!.
Many women have sexual issues even sometimes before they actually recall the sexual abuse, women then have difficulty with love, trust and intimacy, due to the fact the abuse told us he loved us-but even as a child we recognized something was wrong!.
Many women end up in abusive relationships, have eating disorders, body image disorders, and depression!.
First of all you can get into a support group run by a counselor if money is an issue or if you don't have insurance!.
Then you need to look up your local mental health clinic that is funded by the state-they work on a sliding scale so most everyone can afford individual counseling
Also if you would like to e-mail me I could offer more suggestions of where you can seek help-please read my profile for more inform!. God Speed ReggieWww@Answer-Health@Com
The abuser aways threatens us in someway to keep it a secret-that's how they remain free for so long!.
It must be very painful to be in contact with your abuser!.
We do tend to bury the abuse after awhile, but we don't bury it dead, we bury it alive with all types of feelings and issues coursing through us until we deal with these buried issues!.
Many women have sexual issues even sometimes before they actually recall the sexual abuse, women then have difficulty with love, trust and intimacy, due to the fact the abuse told us he loved us-but even as a child we recognized something was wrong!.
Many women end up in abusive relationships, have eating disorders, body image disorders, and depression!.
First of all you can get into a support group run by a counselor if money is an issue or if you don't have insurance!.
Then you need to look up your local mental health clinic that is funded by the state-they work on a sliding scale so most everyone can afford individual counseling
Also if you would like to e-mail me I could offer more suggestions of where you can seek help-please read my profile for more inform!. God Speed ReggieWww@Answer-Health@Com
First I would suggest going to a near by psychologist, they can help you sort out your problems!. You can't just erase this memory from your mind if it is still in your head, with talking to a psychologist you can talk out your problems with someone that will understand you and help you get through it!. Remember this was not your fault and there was nothing you could do to stop it and that everything that is hard in your life onyl makes you stronger in the end!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's time to break the silence and start healing!. Seek a licensed professional counselor (check your local yellow pages) to help you through the personal trauma issues!. Focus on rebuilding your sense of self and set some goals for yourself!. Carefully choose your PSN (personal support network) of compassionate and understanding friends, family, therapist, and minister [if applicable] who can provide spiritual and emotional support and accountability for you during the healing process!. Difficult issues will arise, at times you may feel that you are re-living the abuse, but with Divine help on your side, you're gonna be alright!. God bless, I'm praying for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
talk to your mom about it!. If the sexual abuser is ur dad (don't take it as an offense, it's just that some girls have that) then i suggest the closest thing u got is ur mom!. If not, then go to a school conselor!. They will not tell the whole world about it!. It's totally self confidential!. If the abuser continues to abuse you, then I suggest getting the police involved!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need to talk this out with a trained professional psychiatrist!. I went through something similar when I was a kid, and I dealt with a lot of problems later in life!. I recognized this before the past completely destroyed me, and it was a psychiatrist that helped me deal with the past!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well see the problem is that u cant forget something
the things u can do is to stop talking to the abuser
and sometimes to forget, u must do something greater than what was done
like have sex
and enjoy itWww@Answer-Health@Com
the things u can do is to stop talking to the abuser
and sometimes to forget, u must do something greater than what was done
like have sex
and enjoy itWww@Answer-Health@Com
I'm not sure what to say but I found this hotline!. Maybe give them a try
Abuse Victims Hotline
877-448-8678
http://www!.avhotline!.org/
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Abuse Victims Hotline
877-448-8678
http://www!.avhotline!.org/
Www@Answer-Health@Com
talk to someone you trust and if it really bothers you, get help!.
godbless
if you need anything just mail me!Www@Answer-Health@Com
godbless
if you need anything just mail me!Www@Answer-Health@Com
tell a reletive, or a close adult about it!.!.!.maybe they can help you!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
first you need to see a councilor i suffered child abuse not the sexual kind but physical non the less and yes it doesn't go away it affects every thing you do choices you make, the way You react to things and keeping it bottled up doesn't do you any good!.!.!.you need to speak to someone either someone you can really trust or Professional !.!.!.it can be really hard i know! as some people from stable homes find it hard to believe and cant comprehend what you are going through!.!.!.please speak to someone it will make you feel better and it can be reeeeeeaaally hard but you might need to confront this person and do something about it yousubconsciousnesss wont rest untill you find justice trust me!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
asking or talking in any way to the person who abused you will get you nothing but pain ,they never own up and almost always blame the victim !.!.!.You don't need to hear the crap they will say to excuse something that is inexcusable !.You do need to talk to some one though !.a support group on the net is a good place to start !.You are most defiantly not alone ,a huge number of people were abused !.I tried to talk to my mother about her brother and her husband abusing me and she called me a liar and basically disowned me,even though my step father was dead by the time I brought it up and she told me her brother abused her !.!.I expected her to understand and support me but she felt I was wanting to blame her !.As it turned out with good reason since she knew when I was 5 years old that her brother was coming to my room and she did nothing to stop it !.!.!.But see I did not know this ,I just wanted her help !.!.!. so be careful about bringing it up in the family !.some will be supportive but some need to deny it ever happened to make them selves feel better !.So get your self well before you take the step of talking to family!.Www@Answer-Health@Com