Self confidence - only seroius answers please.?!
Question: Okay i am 19, slim, small boobed, bf of two years a few friends, got a nice job, nice car, nice family .. so why on earth am i so self conscious?
I also get !!extremely!! nervous going to concerts, work dinners absolutely everything i am nervous about and very emotional, i get happy easily but also sad very easily.
Is there anything i can do to be less nervous and more self confident?
Answers: Okay i am 19, slim, small boobed, bf of two years a few friends, got a nice job, nice car, nice family .. so why on earth am i so self conscious?
I also get !!extremely!! nervous going to concerts, work dinners absolutely everything i am nervous about and very emotional, i get happy easily but also sad very easily.
Is there anything i can do to be less nervous and more self confident?
This kind of thing comes with experience and age. You can help it along, certainly. Make yourself be outgoing. Act like you are very self confident. It will be hard at first, but eventually the inside will reflect the outside. It's also important to surround yourself with people who help boost you, rather than cut you down. If you have friends that tend to make you feel bad about yourself, ditch them, or at least spend less time with them. You could also do a self inventory. List the good things. Forget the bad ones. Do this every day. You'll start to believe it. Another thing - aim to look your best every day. People will compliment you. You'll feel good. You'll BE more confident. Time, patience and perseverence. You can do it.
see your gp and discuss it with them as there could be a lot of reasons why you feel like this, all of which can be treated either by your doctor or maybe with a councellor or therapist. Good luck... i've been there too and came out the other side.
It's a bit bigger than your appearance. You're doubting something within yourself. I highly recommend being very open about this with everyone in your life first and foremost, and honestly, finding help. The best thing you can do is talk to someone who's properly qualified to get to the bottom of this. It could be something about your upbringing, or just something you picked up from some type of trauma in your life.
Extremely high levels of self-consciousness can be deep rooted in your past and how you were raised and it's important to understand these things and learn how to cope with them before they start getting in the way of your future happiness.
Hope this helps!!
You have a heightened sense of insecurity in large crowds and important social functions guess what. A lot of people do. You could get a drug from your doctor for this, It's now social anxiety syndrome. The old way and best is listen to your boyfriend and when he says's you are beautiful, You are. you have low self esteem. you are worried that other people won't find you as smart enough , pretty enough , you name it. The more you go to these functions the better you will be. you're self conscious and time and experience are all you can do naturally.
Perhaps you could join a Toastmasters Group to improve your self confidence.