If a family member is dying of something like cancer what do you say to them?!
Question: If a family member is dying of something like cancer what do you say to them!?
If a family member is dying of something like cancer what do you say to them without making them feel worse or making them feel like it definitely is the end (even though they are trying to fight it, even if there is little chance of survival)!. I do not know what a person says!. It is hard and heartbreaking!. Or rather if it were you talking to a family member what would you say to them!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I've lost 3 loved ones to cancer in the past 4 years: my mother and both my grandfathers!.!.!.!. and I've learned the best thing to do is say nothing at all regarding their condition or their impending death, unless they bring it up!.
Let your loved one guide the conversation!. Try to keep it positive: bring up pleasanter times, look at old photos from parties and vacations, and most of all, tell them how much they mean to you, and how grateful you are they are in your life!.
Towards the very end, he or she will be very, very tired and have a hard time concentrating or conversing before slipping into unconsiousness as the body shuts down!. Then just let them know you are there!.!.!. hold their hand and speak gently to them!. Tell them you love them, thank them for all they have done for you, and most of all,!.!. tell them it's OK to let go!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Let your loved one guide the conversation!. Try to keep it positive: bring up pleasanter times, look at old photos from parties and vacations, and most of all, tell them how much they mean to you, and how grateful you are they are in your life!.
Towards the very end, he or she will be very, very tired and have a hard time concentrating or conversing before slipping into unconsiousness as the body shuts down!. Then just let them know you are there!.!.!. hold their hand and speak gently to them!. Tell them you love them, thank them for all they have done for you, and most of all,!.!. tell them it's OK to let go!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Do whatever you can to support them!. Ask them if they need assistance with any tasks such as helping family members, writing letters, making phone calls or anything that can cause them pain or discomfort!. Such simple tasks can mean a lot to someone who is dying!. Offer encouragement and support in their wishes!. Often you may just need to listen to what they have to say!. If they have had interesting life experiences take notes so future family members can hear of their experiences to learn from them!. This is often the best time to bring the family together too!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Cancer is a very hard illness because it really hurts almost all part of the body - inside and outside once it becomes malignant!.
So we can just feel for them by holding them or touching them in parts that does not hurt!. Take it and not be offended if they yell at you - they really don't mean it!. Just do whatever, or all that he or she wishes you to do!. If he or she wants to be bythemselves in a room - quickly leave the room and say that you are there if he or she needs you!. If they don't want to eat the food you are giving them, just put it beside him or her and go on!. Don't be pushy and act like you are very concern if they don't eat food that you are giving them or if they don't want to take their medicine!.!.!.Just be nice bottom line!.
You could tell them "If you could only take some of their pain" or You are always praying so that it won't hurt anymore or if the patient know that he or she is terminally ill, talk about him or her the good times and funny things you guys had shared in the past!. You can also joke about you will see him or her later!. Or that he or she is lucky because he or she will join God before you although he or she knows that we will all go there, only one at a time!. Or you can bring him or her something about her or favorite color rose or any flower that he or she like, or book, or story that she or he laughed the most before he or she get sick!. Also say something like "hey, you look good today!." "You make me happy when you smile, can I have another one!?" Or say, "My gosh, they must love you much around here, look at your room, it is always clean everytime I visit!"Www@Answer-Health@Com
So we can just feel for them by holding them or touching them in parts that does not hurt!. Take it and not be offended if they yell at you - they really don't mean it!. Just do whatever, or all that he or she wishes you to do!. If he or she wants to be bythemselves in a room - quickly leave the room and say that you are there if he or she needs you!. If they don't want to eat the food you are giving them, just put it beside him or her and go on!. Don't be pushy and act like you are very concern if they don't eat food that you are giving them or if they don't want to take their medicine!.!.!.Just be nice bottom line!.
You could tell them "If you could only take some of their pain" or You are always praying so that it won't hurt anymore or if the patient know that he or she is terminally ill, talk about him or her the good times and funny things you guys had shared in the past!. You can also joke about you will see him or her later!. Or that he or she is lucky because he or she will join God before you although he or she knows that we will all go there, only one at a time!. Or you can bring him or her something about her or favorite color rose or any flower that he or she like, or book, or story that she or he laughed the most before he or she get sick!. Also say something like "hey, you look good today!." "You make me happy when you smile, can I have another one!?" Or say, "My gosh, they must love you much around here, look at your room, it is always clean everytime I visit!"Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell them you love them and that you're there for them!. They probably already know what the worse case scenario is!. Just be SINCERE in your compassion for them!. I was most impressed with a woman who visited my father in law when he was suffering from Lymphoma!. She didn't ask him how he was (obviously :)!. She was cheerful and smiled at him!. She embraced him gently and helped him with his pillow!. A prayer for guidance will help as well!. There is a book called Midwife for Souls (I think that's the title) that you may find helpful!.
Also on a practical note, I don't know if this person is still trying to fight the cancer, but I really wish we had known about the Mangosteen when my father in law was ill!. Google cancer and mangosteen, the research is pretty amazing!. Hopefully our family is keeping our cancer cells to a minimum (everyone has cancer in their body) by drinking it daily!. We buy ours here:
http://drive!.themangosteenrevolution!.com!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Also on a practical note, I don't know if this person is still trying to fight the cancer, but I really wish we had known about the Mangosteen when my father in law was ill!. Google cancer and mangosteen, the research is pretty amazing!. Hopefully our family is keeping our cancer cells to a minimum (everyone has cancer in their body) by drinking it daily!. We buy ours here:
http://drive!.themangosteenrevolution!.com!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, it is heartbreaking, and it never gets easier!.
Tell them you love them, and will love them always!.
Thank them for all the love they have given to you!.
Ask them if you could do anything for them!.
Basically, enjoy the time you have left with them!.
Some people never get a chance to say goodbye!.
God bless you both!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell them you love them, and will love them always!.
Thank them for all the love they have given to you!.
Ask them if you could do anything for them!.
Basically, enjoy the time you have left with them!.
Some people never get a chance to say goodbye!.
God bless you both!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
"Through everything, and anything I'll be there for you!. I love you and this is NOT the end!. So even if it gets really hard, and you feel like giving up, don't!. Just remember even if I'm not right there that moment, i'm fighting with you!. "
i was ten!. and it was my cousin!. and she was ten!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i was ten!. and it was my cousin!. and she was ten!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i would make them laugh-- a lot!. say stuff that will bring a smile to their face as often as you can!. act as though this is just a phase that they will surely get out of!.!. it may seem like denial, but the last thing that person wants is for you to feel sorry for them!.!. idk this is just my opinion so you can take it or leave itWww@Answer-Health@Com
Just talk to them like a normal person!. No need to bring up the cancer unless they do!. If they mention it, then just say "You have pulled through so many other things in life, this is just another speed bump"!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
when someone is dying alot of times they hang on and just get worse sometimes people need to be told that everything will be okay depending on who it is you can ad-lib your own feelingsWww@Answer-Health@Com
You listen!. You ask if you can help with anything!. You be there!. You hug!. You let people cry on your shoulder !. You cry on people's shoulder!. You wait!. You pray!. You listen!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Treat them normally, and make the most of the time that is leftWww@Answer-Health@Com
you just love them!.!.!.no need to talk been thereWww@Answer-Health@Com
well tell them you love them before they die!. and just have fun with emWww@Answer-Health@Com
Eh, win some lose some!.Www@Answer-Health@Com